Second one can never be the same...

Tomkat8403 · May 2010

This old lady at daycare the other day told me that none of my children will be as special as the first one, and that I won't feel the same way about them. She told me my mother was lying to me if she told me differently.

Wow. Talk about give you hang-ups abou having more children.

Edit: I'm still have baby fever, but dang...

ksayles · May 2010

I feel bad for her second born. Crazy lady.

dswed0407 · May 2010

Man, I'm the 3rd child so I must be really low on the scale.

Tomkat8403 · May 2010

dswed0407:
Man, I'm the 3rd child so I must be really low on the scale.

Lol.

JennifernKevin4ever · May 2010

dswed0407:
Man, I'm the 3rd child so I must be really low on the scale.

I'm the 5th so I most be even lower!

Shlei · May 2010

Wow. I would have said something to her.

ivs112 · May 2010

Um yeah, she sucks. I can't imagine loving my second any less than my first.

Erin5849 · May 2010

She has issues with her own mommy which caused her to have issues with her own kids.

curlilocks1207 · May 2010

Honestly I was worried about this when I was pregnant with LO, but it couldn't be further from the truth! If she really felt that way she has some issues.

LoveEeyore · May 2010

Maybe she's just not very good with words. I know with my first I had the idyllic motherhood- many leisurely walks with my baby in my arms, I read to her a thousand books a day, and if I wanted, I would snuggle and take a nap with her without a care in the world. I was never rushed, never needing to finish one last thing before attending to her. She was always the center of my attention. At 10 months old I don't think I am as close with either of the twins as I was with her, although the deep intense heart wrenching and inspiring love is there. My first was the center of my attention, never on deck. I agree that the second will never be the same. I would worry if it were! My relationship IS different. But my idea of and ability to love has grown with my family. I get what the lady was saying, but I think it was obnoxious to say- I think it's been a hard and rewarding thing to learn on my own as a mom.

TommysGirl56 · May 2010

Gosh! I wonder if her younger child(ren) know about this, have a complex now, etc. I don't buy her story for a minute, either.

NDwife07 · May 2010

Well of course the second isn't the same as the first. It's your first!

But different =/= lesser than.

krstokes · May 2010

Hahahaha. Right! That woman is crazy cakes.

NOVAMommy5 · May 2010

So. not. true. it's frightening. And I was even scared (while pregnant) of how I'd deal with a boy versus how easily it was for me to relate to and love my girl... but I adore my boy so much, I could burst. I'd be so incomplete without him.

fairychick77 · May 2010

Weirdo :-P

BitterOldHag · May 2010

Baby Jake (Baby gives her the side eye.

RNOHIO · May 2010

Yikes!! This is my biggest fear though. I just can't imagine loving someone as much as I love DD. I've never heard anyone say that they don't love their 2nd as much as their first.....except for the old lady. I'm pretty sure this isn't true or their would be a lot of neglected second children.

MrsBatty · May 2010

Glad I was the first child Stick out tongue

Brooke208 · May 2010

Thats bull shiit.

CalinsBride · May 2010

That's ridiculous.

lwrigley2000 · May 2010

NDwife07:

Well of course the second isn't the same as the first. It's your first!

But different =/= lesser than.

This.

And, no, I may not be able to shower #2 with the undivided attention I gave #1, BUT #2 gets an experienced mother instead of the neurotic, BSC mother that DS got.

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