did you take off work?

Fryday37 · May 2010

i have been reading lots of posts lately of people being back at work with in a day or two of m/c. how long did people take off? i am taking this whole week off. i had initially planned to go back today but i just couldnt bare it. so i am taking the rest of the week off. i kind of feel silly as it seems like people are going right back. i feel sadder today than i did yeserday and my buddy at work is on vacation and i just didnt want to see anyone else. i told myself that if i didnt go in today i was going to get out of the house and do something fun, get a mani/pedi, get my eyebrows waxed (they have been ignored this month! YIKES!), see a movie, go shopping, something! but maybe i should have gone to work??

EDIT: i dont feel like going to work becuase i'm a social worker in child protection and i dont feel like dealing with stupid people who abuse/neglect their children when i just lost mine and i promise that i wouldnt have abused it. and people have MANY children all in foster care because they can't get their acts together long enough to see what a miracle they really have!!!

magdalina.h · May 2010

My bff had a m/c 3 years ago and she took a week and a half off. I was out of work for 5 weeks. My dr didn't want me to go back that soon, she wanted me out the full 8 weeks to recover, but I couldn't be out that long.

BlakeG · May 2010

I took 4 days off and I wish I could have taken more. I was physically ready to go back but no where near emtionally ready at that point but I had to. For me, there's no way I could have just taken one day and went back.

millejj1 · May 2010

I went back immediately. Bad idea. I wish that I had stopped and taken time to make sure I was ok. I think you should take your time and make sure you're ok before you head back.

pandapepperoni · May 2010

I went back after two days and it was a big mistake. I had been stuck in Europe b/c of the Volcano and ran out of vacation time while there. We lost the baby two weeks after being back.

Don't let anyone pressure you, take the time you need, it can only help.

Lorange-8 · May 2010

I only took a week off. The reason I went back so soon was because it was killing me sitting at home all day long doing nothing, drove me nuts. I think it was easier for me to get back into the siwng of things. When I was home I couldn't drag myself out of the house.

Amanda02a · May 2010

I had a D&C on Sunday and went back to work on Thursday. I should have just taken the while week.

shouldbworkin · May 2010

I didn't take any time off. Not that I didn't want to, but I'd already been out a day here or there and had to be out of the office to go to the OBs and I just felt like I'd been gone too much and had too much to do that had to get done. I started to m/c on a Wed, Thurs was awful and I hid in my office most of the day and I WAH on Fri, by Monday I was fine and starting to feel more like myself.

CounselorGirl · May 2010

I had surgery to remove an ectopic pregnancy on a Wednesday and went back on Monday. I would not have been able to finish my internship hours as a school counselor on time to graduate with my masters if I hadn't gone back in immediately. I know I could have asked for an extension and it would have been granted but I couldn't stand the idea of telling my story yet again. The internship provided some much needed distraction from what had happened.

Now that my internship is over, I am having a rough time and don't have the focus/ desire to do much of anything. I feel like there has been a delay in my grieving. (sorry for the random personal aside!)

I think the bottom line is to do what feels right for you. If you need more time at home, take more time at home. You have to look out for your best emotional interests.

Izabella22 · May 2010

I actually was on vacation that week, my m/c started the Saturday my vaca began, we drove to our destination that Monday and had the week away. I think if I had been at home I might have just taken the first 2 days off since after that being alone was worse. But it was a blessing to be away for that week wtih my husband, although when I got back I had all that stuff to process when i got home, work was somewhat of a relief. But I have someone at work I can talk to about this who has personal experience and good advice.

Scout05 · May 2010

I took a week, either home entirely or working from home, with each loss.

I could not sit there and bleed in my office, I just couldn't.

catngar77 · May 2010

By the time I go back it will be 7 days that I was gone. We found out the bad news last Thursday and I have been home since. Had my d&c yesterday. Wish I could take more time off too. I work in sales and am in NICU's, Mother/Baby nurseries, OB offices, and Pediatrician offices. Not looking forward to going back to that!

seoul09 · May 2010

Mine started on a Monday when I got home from work. I took the rest of the week off, not only because I couldn't bare to look at people but I was in pain and felt every drop of blood that leaked from me. I wouldn't have been good physically or emotionally. By the ens of the week I was physicaly ready to go back, but when Monday morning came and I had to face all of those people who knew, I wished I would've taken another day or so.

nina&matt · May 2010

I took 10 weeks off.

I was supposed to go back this monday (6weeks postpartum), but we only have 4 weeks left of school. So I asked for the remainder as my FMLA leave. I teach the 3yr olds and also assistant coordinator to the child development center. I had thought of going back at 4w postpartum, but I just couldn't.

damabo80 · May 2010

I had the D&C on a Wed, and went back to work the next Monday. But, that next week, I worked from home. It was the perfect "transition" time. I couldn't imagine dealing with people that soon.

SassyMamainVA · May 2010

I didn't take time off. I couldn't handle being at home alone. I also have a job where I don't have to interact with people all the time and I can sit in my office and close the door.

jerriesgirl · May 2010

I took 3 weeks off, but I went through L&D.

kellbranc · May 2010

I took off tues, wed & today. i am going back tommorow knowing that I have the weekend. I feel bad leaving my boss in a pickle with all of our patients (there is no coverage for me tommorow). I am a physical therapist. I don't quite know if I am ready yet. However, I feel I need to try.

e_uecker · May 2010

I know what you mean. I work at Head Start and it was very hard to go back and see children who had to live the way the do. I took two days off. One of those days being the actually day I find out about the M/C. I couldn't take off more because there were too many other people off. I think you should take off as much as you need.

MrsB*7*21 · May 2010

I found out yesterday that the hb had stopped. ?I decided to go to work today and I'm glad I did. ?I teach Kindergarten and they just have a way of making me happy. ?Only a handful of my coworkers knew I was pregnant so they checked in on me periodically. ?I am planning to let the actual m/c happen naturally so I may need to take some time off once I start bleeding and if I don't, I will need to take a couple days off for a d&c so that's the other reason I went in today.

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