M/C last night....warning:details

shanna82 · May 2010

Sorry, I just didn't want you to read if details and feelings made you sad over your own m/c.

I have my D&C scheduled tomorrow, but I'm pretty sure I'm not going to need it. My DH had to leave for business last night, and right when he was leaving I started getting horrible cramps and lower back pain. It was soo painful for about 3 hours. I kept going to the bathroom because I had the urge to push--like I needed a BM...I'm assuming that was my body having some sort of contractions to push the fetus and everything out. After everything was done, I felt this weird sense of relief....relief that the pain was gone, and relief because it felt like it was over and that I could attempt to move on.

I think it is really odd that I didn't go through this earlier. It was like my body or God or whatever, waited until I saw the u/s and knew the baby was gone before all the bleeding came--like to prepare me. I wasn't that upset with all the blood and tissue. Actually glad that I might not have to have a D&C.

I passed a ton of tissue, called my OB's office and talked to the after-hours OB. She told me to save as much as the tissue as I could and bring it in to the office today--I have to work this morning, but I'm leaving early as soon as I get a couple things done, and then I'll go in. I'm guessing they will draw blood to check my hcg levels and maybe an u/s to make sure everything has passed.

I feel so empty and numb right now...I don't know what to do. I don't want to talk to anyone. I just want my DH to hold me, but he's out of town. He will be home late tonight though. I'm glad I have this board to release some of these emotions too.

Thanks for reading.

magdalina.h · May 2010

((hugs)) I'll hold you all day until he comes home and we don't have to talk. Yes I realize that sounds a little weird, but I know what you mean. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Fryday37 · May 2010

im so sorry for your loss! can you take some time off of work? even a day or two? i know for me it was way too hard to see people at work and i have been off for a week. please be sure to take care of yourself and rest when you need to. sending T&P and {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}} to you and your DH.

mkelle5 · May 2010

Oh honey, I am s sorry you have to go through this. I am hoping that everything passed and you don't have to go through with the D&C. I think your body was ready for you to start the healing process, and just started it on it's own.

I totally understand what you mean about feeling empty and numb. I give you a lot of credit for going to work today. Hopefully it will help you pass the time until DH comes home. You may need some personal time away from work though, so don't hesitate to take off.

I wil be thinking about you today!

jerriesgirl · May 2010

I'm so sorry you are going through this, but glad your DH will be home this evening. We are here to hold you up. (((((((hugs))))))

SassyMamainVA · May 2010

I'm so, so sorry I hope everything passed and you don't need the D&C. You're right, they'll probably do blood draws to make sure your levels are going down.

I totally understand the empty and numb feeling. We're here for you. Let us know how you're doing...we're here to hold you since DH is gone Big hugs to you!!

Amanda02a · May 2010

I'm so sorry your going through this & it sucks that you have to go into work today. We will hold you until DH returns. ((Big Hugs))

BlakeG · May 2010

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I know exactly what you mean about feeling empty. We are here for you and you aren't alone even if DH is not around. ((hugs))

millejj1 · May 2010

I'm so sorry for your loss! T&P's to you!

eawebster · May 2010

I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. For your sake I'm hoping you passed everything on your own. The possibility of having to have a D&C made me quite nervous, but I lucked out. You'll be so greatful to have your Dh home. And like PP said, you're so brave for going into work. I took off a week, then a half day, and I still feel like I need to be home healing, and it's been a month. Keeping you in my T&P.

erinb1025 · May 2010

I'm so sorry for your loss, and that you had to go that alone! My thoughts and prayers are with you, and come vent to us, we are always here!

kellbranc · May 2010

I am sorry you are going through all of this..especially w/out your DH. I hope you get some sense of relief and ability to move forward more each day.

I am so sorry for your loss

sabrina&andy · May 2010

I am so sorry for your loss; I hope you find some answers today. I am glad that your DH will be home tonight.

jay-tea · May 2010

I am so sorry for your loss. These boards are great for support.

elizabeth&james · May 2010

I'm so sorry - this is just too sad. So glad DH will be home tonight. Take care of yourself!!

myst33 · May 2010

I'm so sorry for your loss. Something similar happened to me. The following day I had an u/s and there was still a lot of tissue. I didn't think it was possible because so much had passed the day before. I had a d&c which helped the pain.

CeCe04 · May 2010

I had a similar experience with my 2nd m/c. I had an u/s the next day to make sure everything had passed and it had. I'm so very sorry for your loss ((hug))

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