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If this isn't your first ride...
What will you do differently with this baby? Here's what I'm thinking:
- I will bring my boppy to the hospital because BFing DD at the hospital was a PIA without it.
- I will buy a Moby or some other sort of sling to wear my baby...pretty sure it will be essential when chasing around a 15 month-old while having a newborn.
- I will put this baby down in the crib or bassinette for naps. I never did that with DD...she sleeps fine in her crib now, but I think she would have slept better during naps if I would have laid her down instead of always holding her or putting her in her swing.
How about you?
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Re: If this isn't your first ride...
Honestly, buy a pack of panties to wear in the hospital that I can throw away later if I need to. Those "panties" they gave me looked more like an athletic cup with a belt around it than they did underwear.
I won't push when trying to poop because hemorrhoids suck.
I will probably put this baby in the swing for naps in the beginning but will hopefully move him/her to the crib for naps sooner than I did DD.
I like this game!
- I will let other people hold the baby when they come over to "help" so I can get stuff done instead of sitting and visiting on the couch.
- I will start co-sleeping from the beginning, instead of falling into it accidentally from the sheer exhaustion of sleeping on the couch with the baby swing going all night.
- I will NOT stay in the hospital for more than 24 hours. That extra day in that horrible bed made me more miserable than the first 3 sleepless months at home.
- I will tell my extended family they are welcome to come and visit the new baby...AFTER the first 6 weeks and IF they stay in a hotel. Cooking and cleaning for all those houseguests last time gave me hives.
I won't make a bottle part of their going to bed routine! Ugh, we still haven't broken DS of that.
Also, I won't try to push solids too soon. DS didn't start eating any solids until 10 months old. I would've saved myself a lot of time and energy if I just would have relaxed about it.
I will probably be more willing to BF away from the house (covered up of course).
MH says he will sit when trying to calm a crying a newborn. He walked around with DS and to this day if DS is upset he insists MH walk around instead of sitting in a glider.
I am going to try a basinet this time. My son hated the crib and refused to sleep anywhere but in our arms. He didn't STTN until 18 months. I'm hoping a smaller place to sleep will help.
I won't be as hesitant to give this baby a pacifier. I was so worried about nipple confusion so we introduced it later and I was so glad when we did.
And I am going to bring a DVD and some games to the hospital because after I got my epidural last time I was downright BORED until it was time to push.
-I will not stress so much about BF. I really hope it works this time around, but I really got depressed with DS becasue my supply was so low.
-I will be buying a full size swing. We had a travel size one with DS and it was a POS.
-I will demand that this LO not go to the nursey as much as DS did. They took DS away at every nurse shift. I am putting my foot down this time.
Hmmm.....this is a good one.
1. This time I'm going for a simple CD stash. I don't care about spending lots of money on the cutest fluff in th world only to have it fit for only a couple months. I'm going for function this time!
2. Accept help when people offer (although I've noticed the offers get fewer with each pregnancy).
3. Don't get down on myself if my supply goes down. I do the best I can and any breastmilk is better than none!
- I will move LO into the crib in his/her room at 4 months. While I thoroughly enjoyed co-sleeping with DS, unfortunetly for LO #2 it's just not going to happen this time.
- I will have to have a better pump than last time in order to pump enough milk to last LO all day, every day at school.
- I will start working out again as soon as I am physically able to in order to get back down to my pre-pregnancy weight before DS.
Thought of one more....
4. Do 50/50 stash of freezer meals and take out gift cards (which I already started buying and stashing away). About half the time I either forgot to thaw out the freezer meal or we didn't feel like it that night and ordered take out anyway. Might as well prepare for it this go around...
Agreed!!
1. Buy a good breastpump. I went through three cheapies that were horrible and in the end just made it more difficult.
2. Get on a schedule right away.
3. Buy 2 non-expensive nursing bras that I think are close to the right size before this baby is born and wait to buy more, nicer ones until my milk comes in.
4. Take time to recover. This will be a planned c/s and I imagine that it will be difficult the second time around with a 2 year-old also.
5. Make DS feel extra special before he officially becomes a big brother. Obviously he has no clue right now, he's 21-months, but I want him to always feel as loved as he does now.
Agreed. We waited until about 3-4 months before we did this before. I've realized since then that babies NEED a schedule. It makes everything so much easier in the longrun.
I'm really hoping that the adjustment to 3 is not nearly as rough as the adjustment to two! ;P It's wasn't that bad, but SO much different than just having one where you worry about every little thing. With the second your big worry is.....he's quite.....he must be into something.....darn she just got a good latch.....please God just say he's reading in his room. Haha! Only to find out he's found your nail polish and decided to paint the wall! AHHH!
1. Not get caught up in comparing my child to other children.
2. Go for room temp bottles from the beginning bc warming them was a pain with a screaming child!
3. Ditto others - accept help when it's offered!
4. Ditto also about bf - I EP for 6 weeks with dd and hated every minute of it. I won't get down on myself if this baby won't latch on or something prevents bf success.
5. Speaking of bf - I will be more firm at the hospital that I want time to work with the baby on bf right away.
I also LOVE the idea of stashing away gift cards for dinners once the baby is born! What a great thought! Our grocery sells many restaurant gift cards, so I could pick them up with our weekly groceries and hide them away!
I'm definitely going to be on top of the sleep issue this time. I'm going to put him/her down drowsy but awake instead of holding him/her until he/she falls asleep. I can't go 15 months without STTN again!
I will not accept phone calls around the end of this pregnancy. I carried DS 41 weeks, and I can't tell you how many times people called me and asked, "Have you had the baby yet?".
I plan to buy a co-sleeper this time, ds ended up in the bed with me a lot.
I'm not wasting money on nursing clothes, regular clothes work just as well
I'm going to try and put the baby down for naps instead of holding them when they sleep.
I will freeze more meals ahead of time
Hahahahaha - ITA!!!!! DS is at the age where he can be really quiet when he's getting into something that he shouldn't be
::Special Thanks to my DH for showing him how to take the tops off of Sharpie PERMANENT markers:: LMAO.
A tip to share: Nail polish remover comes in handy, especially on hardwood
I will not back a suitcase for myself as last time I did not need anything except going home clothes for myself and DS.
I will not buy a sling as I didn't use the 1st one.
Won't buy a boppy as I will not be breast feeding.
Not buying a crib because I didn't use it with DS. He slept with us until it was time for a toddler bed and is now in a toddler bed.
On a "I will" note, I will pay attention to my instincts and not let the hospital "run the show" this time around.
Not stress about the baby eating. My milk never came in and I got so depressed that I couldn't bf. When I finally broke down and started to ff I was obsessed with how many oz he was eating and when. DS was a BIG boy and wanted to eat and I remember trying to distract him to hold off until the next "scheduled" feeding time. Looking back I think WTH was I thinking? I want to stress less and enjoy the baby more.
1. I am not going to start the bottle at two weeks. I am going to hold out a little longer with this one. Last time I had a horrible time getting DD to nurse because she wanted the bottle instead.
2. Take more pics in the hospital of me and the baby. With DD, there were TWO of me holding DD. We have plenty of DH holding DD and everyone else.
Emily 8.8.08
Madeline 1.2.11
William 8.5.12
1. Go with the flow more
2. Make more freezer meals for sure
3. Talk to my doctor about PPD. I am pretty sure I had a mild case last time around, but was in denial about it.
4. Buy the new baby a cute Christmas outfit. I can't believe I didn't do that for DS.
DD #1 passed away in January 2011 at 14 days old due to congenital heart disease
DD#2 lost in January 2012 at 23 weeks due to anhydramnios caused by a placental abruption
I like this thread.
1. I will have a changing table downstairs as well as in the nursery. DS hated being changed on the floor or couch and would flip over and crawl away so I ended up carrying (or chasing) him upstairs for changes for over 2 years.
2. I will have a bassinet instead of the PnP.
3. I will CD from the beginning.
4. I will use a Moby wrap.
- Definitely bringing the boppy to the hospital this time for BFing!
- I will make more use and treasure my maternity leave better this time.
- Give more tummy time as I was so scared to have her on her stomach because of SIDS. My LO had a bald spot for the longest time!
Other than that I am going to keep everything exactly the same. The key is getting on a schedule EARLY! I moved my LO out of our room into the crib after 8 weeks.She did great and is the best napper/sleeper.
I'm hoping a lot of things will be different for me this time. I will hopefully take better care of myself while pregnant and hope for a healthy full term baby.
As far as the newborn stage, I think baby will be going to his/her crib earlier than we moved DS, especially for naps and stuff. Napping in the living room with an 18 month old doesn't seem reasonable.
I will get a carrier like the Ergo to use with the new baby. I had a bjorn with the first but never used it, I didn't like it.
Stock up on frozen meals and groceries before LO arrives. Also, MIL is not allowed to come for a prolonged visit until LO is at least six weeks old. I still get frustrated thinking how she kept trying to boss me around and call DD "her baby". DH and I need to do a better job at setting boundries with our family.
1) Last time we were adamantly against co-sleeping/co-bedding and then changed our mind. This time we're completely open to it, and are planning on sidecar-ing our crib to our bed so that baby is right there, but in his/her own space.
2) We'll be cloth-diapering. DD potty trained at 3 years, 9 months... I think we've fulfilled our quota in terms of diapers in the landfill!
3) I'll be buying a good breast pump and building a freezer/fridge stash. I never had enough stashed away with DD because I only had a hand pump that cramped my hand.
4) We'll begin babywearing early on, as we didn't with DD and then when we started trying she didn't really like it (around 4 or 5 months).
I guess my only other thing is we're going to try to greatly reduce the amount of "stuff" we buy/get for this baby... it felt like we had too much with DD.
ETA: Thought of one more. This time we plan to do baby-led weaning with mostly table foods instead of jars and purees.
I will do better with swaddling. It didn't go very well with K which seemed to result in him refusing to sleep on his back and it made me so nervous to have a tummy sleeper.
I will also put this one down for naps instead of rocking the entire time like I did for the first 10wks with K. Yeah, daycare (my aunt) didn't exactly appreciate that one.
Ok I like this game aswell!
~List for the hospital
Makeup I forgot with DS
Boppy Pillow
~While sleeping put the baby down, I carried and held DS all the time.
~Continue our daily walking routine after delivery.
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I love you!!!
Not let baby sleep in our arms, DD wouldn't sleep on her own until 5 months! This baby is going in the crib from day 1. We did co sleep for a short period and while it works for some, none of us were comfortable / getting rested sleep.
Limit visitors!!!!
I'm going to try to get this baby into a routine earlier. Not from day 1, but we'll slowly work toward it. DD was miserable until we were really consistent with her days.
I will pump and give the baby a bottle around 1 month. With DD I waited until I needed to give her a bottle (around 4 months) and she refused it. It took us 2 months to get her to accept the bottle.
-I'll bring a lot more comfy clothes to the hospital. I reluctantly brought 1 outfit (besides my going-home outfit) after hearing bleeding horror stories and warnings that the nurses check you all the time. I found the johnnies to be a PITA to nurse in and I'm going straight to yoga pants and nursing tanks the second they put me in my PP room this time. The bleeding wasn't THAT bad and the nurses didn't mind that I had to pull my pants down to check me.
-I'm getting an Ergo or a Becco carrier. I has cheap the 1st time and the Chicco carrier was SO uncomfortable. She hated it, I hated it, it was a waste of $50. I'm paying the $100/$120 and calling it a day.
-I'll have NO problem telling people that I'd rather wait until I home and settled for a day or 2 before having them over. We weren't even home for an hour when people showed up. It was uncomfortable and I should have put my foot down.
-I won't be so fearful of the paci. The hospital had me brainwashed that it would screw up BF'ing and it didn't. At all.
May 2011 Siggy Challenge
