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I want to be happy for her...

reticentreticent
in Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss

I don't know anyone who will be able to relate, so I guess I'll post here.

First, I think Facebook makes people too connected and if I didn't have Facebook, I wouldn't have even known that my best friend from kindergarten is expecting a baby exactly one week after what my EDD was. 

But... I do have a Facebook account and I do know it.

And it's ruined my night. :(

I really am happy for her.  I know they wanted to have another baby in the next year.  It's just going to be a constant reminder that we're not having the baby we wanted.

I feel selfish for letting this make me feel irritated/depressed/disappointed because I AM honestly happy for her, just don't understand why it couldn't be me too.

Thanks for "listening."

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Re: I want to be happy for her...

  • blejableja

    I've grounded myself from face book. BLECH!

    Four friends of mine are preggo and always posting about it, one of which is my SIL. Plus- when I posted that we had lost the baby almost no one said anything. Apparantly there's some sort of no sad rule or something.

     

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  • SassyMamainVASassyMamainVA
    I had to "hide" people on FB once they announce their pregnancy.  That's hard enough to handle, but when they start complaining about pregnancy it just throws me over the edge.  You're allowed to feel happy for someone else and sad for yourself at the same time.  The two aren't mutually exclusive.  It just sucks that any of us have to go through this :( 
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  • ChicwedChicwed member

    i completely understand what you're going through.  we just found out that good friends of ours are expecting again.  it was like a slap in our face.  they didn't post it on FB but they sent out a mass email announcing the news.  i don't know how to get rid of those negative feelings.  we're having dinner at their house tonight so we'll see how it goes!


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  • ErinA1313ErinA1313
    Yeah, FB can be the devil when it comes to all things pg that's for sure. Between the u/s pictures and the status updates it can be hard on all of us -- but just think -- once it's our turn WE WILL be the ones posting our little u/s pics and status updates about how HAPPY we are to be experiencing ALL of those pg symptoms (nausea- bring it on, fatigue - i'm so there) :) But yes, like some of hte pp, hide some friends if it is too difficult, or just take a hiatus from the FB for a little while - nothing wrong with that at.all!!!
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  • elizabeth&jameselizabeth&james
    That sucks. I understand-- it's not that you are not happy for the other woman or that she doesn't deserve it just as much as the next person-- but then again, so did you, and now yours is gone. I understand-- I'm in the exact same boat. At least we can vent it here, right? Hope today is a better one.
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  • Fryday37Fryday37 member
    i havent been on facebook since BFP April 8. i just dont care who is having babies, whose babies are now 5 months old so they have to post pics with said babies holding cute 5 months signs, finding crops on their "farms", planning on having margaritas after work, watching Glee, or what ever else lame a$$ thing people are doing! Devil lol...i guess im a bit selfish too but frankly i dont care right now. i am taking care of me and DH and that is what is important to me at the moment.  
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