I finally handed it back to MIL last night

erino&chrish · May 2010

Some of you may know what is going on with DH and I right now. He's doing a really great job (so far) and we are trying really hard. MIL got back into town from a trip up north and called last night laying into DH that she MUST see LO this weekend. We have tons of things and DH said we can't get together, then she proceeded to start b!tching at him. I watched him getting all worked up and asked for the phone. I proceeded to finally, after two years, b!tch the woman out (in as polite a way as I could manage). She is vile and does horrible things to us, SIL, and all the people close to her. I told her, and re-iterated to SIL (to re-iterate to MIL) that I will have zero tolerance for that in my home and family right now, and that she will have no contact with us for the time being since she's hurting rather than helping our efforts. Seriously, how selfish can a grown 65 year old woman be??!!

Sweets2005 · May 2010

Wow.

Good for you!!!!

sprice88 · May 2010

nice! what was her response?

jenn_darrin1515 · May 2010

way to go!!! you must feel better...I am dying to hear her reaction?

redhead0525 · May 2010

OMG you have such courage! Thats great..I wish some would rub off on me! What did she say?

erino&chrish · May 2010

sprice88:
nice! what was her response?

She hung up on me mid-sentence. Yeah, she's childish and needs loads of therapy.

nat8 · May 2010

You go girl Smile

NDwife07 · May 2010

erino&chrish · May 2010

redhead0525:
OMG you have such courage! Thats great..I wish some would rub off on me! What did she say?

Your post prompted me to tell this story. Honestly, it took almost 2 years of her making our lives hell anytime we had to deal with or interact with her (and caused a lot of tension between DH and I). It is so hard, but if your issue has been going on awhile and your MIL is really that terrible you might have to say something to her. The hard part for me was that I come from a very nice, polite family and we just don't treat each other this way EVER. So it took me so long to feel like it was even acceptable to talk to her this way. But finally I had to take a "when in Rome" stance and realize if I didn't speak in her language she'd never get it and continue to walk all over DH and I. GL with yours....I totally feel for you.