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Am I being rude...
thinking that it is rude of my friend to only register for wedding gifts at Pottery barn and Crate and Barrel...She doesn't even have a job and she expects everyone to get her gifts from such hign end stores. Could she choose one of the above and pick another more afordable place.
I love this firend dearly but sometime....
are the $7 a glass glasses so much better then the ones that come in packs of 4 or 6?
Maybe I'm just crazy?
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Re: Am I being rude...
Mom, why are you washing my feed in the sink?!
I don't really think you're totally out of line for thinking that. I would just get her a gift card to one of the stores and that way you are spending the amount that you want to spend.
So, only people who are employed can register at "high end" ::cough, cough:: stores? And if she gets a job after you get her a an appropriate gift for someone unemployed, will you return it and buy her something better? Why dont you just buy her something you can afford and stop moaning about it.
I would never say it to her...just a thought.
My so's brother got married last year and we got them two dinning sets they registered for but they were on sale with an extra 30% off. We could have spent more because we saved so much but we didnt.
I go back and forth, on one hand, it sucks when people don't take into account that not all theri guests are comfortable spending that much.
On the other hand, they are presumably registering for things that they are going to have for a long time, so I think it's okay to register for what you really want.
I say spend exactly as much as you are comfortable spending, and if that's two glasses, then it's two glasses.
There are plenty of cheaper items at C&B and PB. We registered at C&B and had ramekins on our registry that were 95 cents. If she has a range of prices on there, I don't see anything wrong with registering at those stores. It would be worse to register at Wal-Mart and only have things that were over $50 on there.
The store shouldnt matter, just spend what you would have at any other store for her gift. Maybe a gift card would be a better option? And I think it would be rude to say something to her.
PB and CB are only as expensive as you let them be. fwiw, i don't consider either store high end, more like mid range w/ places like williams sonoma, dean & deluca as high end stores.
her employment status should have no bearing on where she chooses to register. if you're at a loss at what to get her, like a pp said, get her a gift card in the amount that you'd spend.
I just mention that fact that she was unemployeed becasue she can't currenty afford that stuff on her own and she seems to expect everyone else to. I have no problems buying a big gift, infact I was planning on it. But I think that some people (this friend included) worry to much about where the gift comes from. They like the higher end brands. Just their style KWIM?
This. All the same kitchen stuff is at C&B for the same price as Target.
But yeah, definitely do NOT say anything to her. You're the gift-giver - it's your call how much you spend.
I was invited once to a shower where the girl was only registered at Tiffany's. Tiffany's. Yeah, I didn't want to buy her a $250 crystal bowl so I got her a Target gift card. Oops!
Agreed! That's what happens when people register for expensive items. They end up with one or two glasses and then have themselves thinking, "Do I really want to go out and pay for the rest of these glasses." Chances are they won't and will end up getting a less expensive set after the fact.
That is high end.
C&B and PB have a lot more variety. I agree with everyone else just buy what you can afford and if there isn't anything get a gift card.
I should have invited you to my wedding
In this area, it's pretty much the norm to give a gift that at least covers the cost of your meal.
I don't really think of C&B and PB as high end. Department stores are way worse IMO cost-wise. We registered at a department store chain and Pottery Barn and picked items in all different price ranges. If she's only registering for fine china and you can't find anything under $50, then yeah, that would be a little rude or greedy sounding to me. But you could get her two $7 glasses and still have spent under $20! That's a good deal.
Also, why register for cheap stuff you could buy yourself? No one has to shop off the registry, but if they choose to, you might as well get some stuff you want rather than what is appropriate for your income or lack thereof.
You can think what you want =D
As for whether it's rude or not, I personally don't think so. They are building a home together and if they want nice things, there's nothing wrong with that. Plus, once the excitement wears off she'll be back to thinking more rationally. If you have a limit as to how much you will pay and don't feel like getting those gifts, you can always do something like an AMEX gift card to use at the honeymoon.
I agree with this totally!
I haaaaate that sentiment. First - how do you know how much your meal cost? Second - it's not about breaking even. We spent what we spent on our wedding and don't consider our china to be a reimbursement.
Not knocking you, courtney&jason, just that whole idea in general.
I'm of the opinion that you shouldn't register for things that you couldn't afford to buy for someone else, or yourself.
I don't think those stores are really that outrageous. If you can't afford those stores - it's a registry, not a requirement.
100% This.
Her employment should have no bearing on where she registers or your gift giving. ?I always live by the rule that you reciprocate the gift that was given to you. So if she has given you inexpensive gifts then you should?reciprocate?that budget. ?No matter where she registered at I am sure there is something on her registry that is in your price range and if there isn't then give her $ or a gift card. ?
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This. I refused to registered at Wal-Mart andplaces like that and did PB, etc. but I had things in all price ranges. Not EVERYTHING at those stores (esp C&B) is expensive. I wanted the things I wanted. Ifsomeone didn't want to buy me a gift at PB, fine, but I wasn't going to register somewhere where I didn't want gifts from. That would be stupid.