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Who generally throws baby shower?
I was wonderng who typically is supposed to throw my baby shower? My mom has taken the reigns on this but I kinda thought it was up to both the Mother of the mom-to-be and the MIL. Someone told me it was up to the mother-to-be's family. Thoughts?
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Re: Who generally throws baby shower?
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I do not think their are any rules as to who throws it. Who ever offers (not the to be mom).
In my region it is considered normal just to have one shower and invite the inlaws family to that. In other regions it is more the norm to have a separate shower for both sides.
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ditto ECB. No one is obligated to throw you one. Your involvement should be limited to choice of date and input on guest list and that's about it! And of course, by all means you do not throw your own.
Here in the South it is usually friends or distant family (Aunts, Cousins) of the mom-to-be.
It is taboo for either of the grandmother's to throw a shower in my area.
It doesn't matter- no one is "expected" to. Depending on your area though, there might be more of a norm or a trend. Not that you necessarily have to follow that, just throwing that out there.
BTW, ctana your DS is movie-star super cute.
Whoever wants to.
I am not sure who will throw mine, or if I'll have one at all. My sis is not a big party planner, and she lives about an hour away from me and my friends. Of my two best friends, one moved out of state a few months ago, and the other is herself getting married next year and is 100% focused on that. (I did throw my sister's shower when I was engaged, but I knew it would be up to me to do it because nobody else was around but me and my mom and my sister's closest friends are no longer in the area.) My mom, who would probably step in, is in the hospital with leukemia.
So I won't be surprised with all this chaos there is no shower at all, because I can see everyone assuming that, since they're so busy/out of the area, someone else will do it.
In fact, the only one who said she'd "be at" a shower is the friend who is out of state, and I certainly don't think she meant she'd throw it. (She did co-host my bridal shower from out of the area, though, when she lived a little closer.)
Aw thank you...that is so nice of you!
I can only answer to what is common in Maryland. We are sort of southern-ish in terms of the grandmother to be usually doesn't throw it. I know of grandmothers to be who have helped to throw it but they are never listed as the host. It is usually a friend, cousin or sister/sister in law.
In your case, as a gesture of kindness perhaps your mom should reach out to your MIL and SIL and ask how they'd like to be involved. They've clearly expressed an interest in helping, it would kind of be rude for your mother to snub their offer of help and just invite them. In the long run do you want to risk them feeling snubbed when they offered to help?