Would you take your X back?

mrgn · May 2010

So, that's a pretty loaded question. Every so often, my stepdad will ask me if there is "any chance" that X and I will get back together. The last time he asked this, I said, "I'd rather be covered in ticks like the big fat one we found on the dog than give X another chance!" A little childish, and IMO pretty funny, but I think I might have gotten the message across. I do my best to forgive the things X has done to warrant such a reaction, but there's no way in hell I could forget. I realize that not everyone's situation is quite the same as mine. So I thought I'd ask. Would you give your X another shot?

SnowflakeBaby2009 · May 2010

Never.

ErinC27 · May 2010

Absolutely not. I could forgive cheating with enough time, counseling, and work. I can't forgive the way that STBXH treated me and DD after he left, as well as the things he said to me about my unborn child and myself.

carrieannew · May 2010

If I could get past the smell of him making me throw up in my mouth, maybe.

But I am the one who ended things. He would still be together if he had his way. Well maybe not now that things since the baby is here have got so much worse.

But I think about it from time to time.

mrgn · May 2010

carrieannew:
If I could get past the smell of him making me throw up in my mouth, maybe.

But I am the one who ended things. He would still be together if he had his way. Well maybe not now that things since the baby is here have got so much worse.

But I think about it from time to time.

Yeah, I think X would want to be together if he had his way, too.

carrieannew · May 2010

mrgn:
carrieannew:

If I could get past the smell of him making me throw up in my mouth, maybe.

But I am the one who ended things. He would still be together if he had his way. Well maybe not now that things since the baby is here have got so much worse.

But I think about it from time to time.

Yeah, I think X would want to be together if he had his way, too.

It's there loss and if they don't know it already they will someday.

xcjen06 · May 2010

He asked me a couple times if I would come to marriage counseling and try to work things out with him but I can't get past the things that he did to me and also the things he said about me and Andrew. Also, he has been in counseling himself and still doesn't seem to change so I don't think he will ever really change.

mrgn · May 2010

carrieannew:
mrgn:
carrieannew:

If I could get past the smell of him making me throw up in my mouth, maybe.

But I am the one who ended things. He would still be together if he had his way. Well maybe not now that things since the baby is here have got so much worse.

But I think about it from time to time.

Yeah, I think X would want to be together if he had his way, too.

It's there loss and if they don't know it already they will someday.

I like to think of it as more like... my GAIN. Hahaha.

carrieannew · May 2010

mrgn:
carrieannew:
mrgn:
carrieannew:

If I could get past the smell of him making me throw up in my mouth, maybe.

But I am the one who ended things. He would still be together if he had his way. Well maybe not now that things since the baby is here have got so much worse.

But I think about it from time to time.

Yeah, I think X would want to be together if he had his way, too.

It's there loss and if they don't know it already they will someday.

I like to think of it as more like... my GAIN. Hahaha.

Word!

achase123 · May 2010

Absolutely...........NOT!!!!

The longer I am apart from STBXH the better I feel and the more and more I discover that he NEVER was the person I thought he was. I don't want to fall into the stereotypical role of "I have an evil ex" but the reality is that I do. He fits 19 of the 20 descriptions of a psychopath. He also has antisocial tendencies. He wouldn't know how to tell the truth if his life depended on it, he is completely strung out on drugs, and he has been verbally abusive and manipulative to me-to the point where I honestly didn't know my own values any longer. Plus the man will probably end up in prison/jail here shortly given the life that he leads.

I am just now getting back to the woman that I was before I met him and becoming strong and whole again. Never, ever would I go back to the insecure shell of a person that he made me become.

Not to mention that he probably has lots of "gifts" considering the life of sex, drugs, and rock and roll that he leads. And those are "gifts" that I do not want, thank you!

DarthNBJenni · May 2010

Nope. Like a previous poster said, if he had his way, we'd still be together. He just wanted to be able to do whatever he wanted to, and I put my foot down.

lnbohac · May 2010

No way. Cheating is unforgivable, end of story. He told me that he never thought I would divorce him because he cheated. Looks like I am proving him wrong. . . . Him being in jail just makes me feel even more satisified in my decision to dump his a$$.

mrgn · May 2010

lnbohac:
No way. Cheating is unforgivable, end of story. He told me that he never thought I would divorce him because he cheated. Looks like I am proving him wrong. . . . Him being in jail just makes me feel even more satisified in my decision to dump his a$$.

I think cheating AND jail-worthy crimes are 100% deal breakers! He definitely committed a double whammy on that one. I'm glad you're proving him wrong!

skimberlin · May 2010

Kind of tried, but they never change. I think the biggest turn off is someone who doesn't really care about their kids and isn't involved. He tries to make himself sound good on facebook and what not and talk about them and it just makes me sick. He just wanted someone to live off of again. So NOPE!

skimberlin · May 2010

Wow... alot of you said something about the cheating and I really didn't even thing about that part lol. I would never trust him again tho. I just found another girl he cheated with go figure, but this too.

achase123 · May 2010

skimberlin:
Wow... alot of you said something about the cheating and I really didn't even thing about that part lol. I would never trust him again tho. I just found another girl he cheated with go figure, but this too.

Ugh-sorry to hear that! I am dealing with something similar.

peeps61308 · May 2010

achase123:

Absolutely...........NOT!!!!

The longer I am apart from STBXH the better I feel and the more and more I discover that he NEVER was the person I thought he was. I don't want to fall into the stereotypical role of "I have an evil ex" but the reality is that I do. He fits 19 of the 20 descriptions of a psychopath. He also has antisocial tendencies. He wouldn't know how to tell the truth if his life depended on it, he is completely strung out on drugs, and he has been verbally abusive and manipulative to me-to the point where I honestly didn't know my own values any longer. Plus the man will probably end up in prison/jail here shortly given the life that he leads.

I am just now getting back to the woman that I was before I met him and becoming strong and whole again. Never, ever would I go back to the insecure shell of a person that he made me become.

Not to mention that he probably has lots of "gifts" considering the life of sex, drugs, and rock and roll that he leads. And those are "gifts" that I do not want, thank you!

This freaking EXACTLY! I saw EXH for about 10 seconds over the weekend and I left thinking, "wow, what a miserable and withdrawn person he is." It breaks my heart to think about what mine and DD's life would be like had I decided to stay with him.

GLynn2009 · May 2010

Hell no!!!!

blondnearby · May 2010

Achase dont moderate me but F!U!C!K NO! think I can be any clearer?

achase123 · May 2010

Haha! I just about wrote the same thing but then remembered I am The Mod!

dimake · May 2010

Last month - yes.

Now - no way! This guy lied to my face too many times in the past year to ever be trusted again. After this weekend when I received the jewelry credit card statement - I can see that he is way out of control (probably trying to distract OW from his real issues). He had so many chances - he blew them.

Plus, I feel and look so much better than I have in years... I've lost 40 pounds in the past year and am fitting into pants sizes I never thought I'd see again. I'm so much less depressed and angry than I was, especially during the last year of us living together.

inbetween · May 2010

I would have taken him back anytime up until the 6 week mark. After 6 weeks as much as I missed him and still did/do love him, I wouldn't take him back. He has done and said too much, and I'm about 70% over him.

Mil, and my great grandparents ask me often if I would ever take him back. At this point I can't see myself with anyone, but it would take a miracle, and the work of God in order for us to ever be back together. I leave it at that. Then I get told stories about how so and so, and oh yea him and her, all got remarried to the same person.

transcriber87 · May 2010

NO WAY IN HEL! I actually just SAW him for the first time a month ago and nearly puked in my mouth! Just the sight of him makes me sick!! I could never, ever forgive him for what he has said and done or NOT done! No way, no how, never, ever!! Ugh!

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