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Edited - Advice needed

PhantomgirlPhantomgirl member
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I am planning a spa break for my bachelorette party as I don't drink.  Here?s the plan...

1pm   Lunch (immediate family and friends)

2.30 - 7   Relax in the Spa

7.30 Meal for 20 - 25

After meal there is live music and we stay in the hotel.  Next morning breakfast for all who stayed.  Go home at leisure. Here's the problem - my mothers hates my step mother with a vengeance.  How would you handle the situation?  FWIW I have no intention of excluding my SM.  I'm wondering if you think I should tell her it is optional?   Or do you think it will be awkward and make people have to choose sides.  My mother will just simply ignore her, however she may try to take a stab at her if she thinks I am not in ear shot.

Edited because the bump vomited and locked me out lol.

 
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Re: Edited - Advice needed

  • sweetie0228sweetie0228 member
    That's awesome.  ::scribbles down idea to give to underage maid of honor who is hounding me about what to do for a bachlorette party::
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  • J+RJ+R
    Girl you don't need any advice - this sounds fantastic :) I dont drink either, but it sounds like a very enjoyable day :) Enjoy yourself!
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  • J+RJ+R

    haha, I was wondering what you needed advice about :) I would tell your mom that your SM will be included in this event and that you would like to make it enjoyable for everyone... Does your mom and SM both have enough people that they can converse with, without having to talk with each other? Tell your mom how hurt you will be if you find out that they got into an argument, etc.

     

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  • jpowell3jpowell3
    Tell them to put on their big girl panties & play nice for a day. This is about you & enjoying the company of your close friends & family. And your day sounds awesome, I want to join!
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  • flippy1234flippy1234

    imagejpowell3:
    Tell them to put on their big girl panties & play nice for a day. This is about you & enjoying the company of your close friends & family. And your day sounds awesome, I want to join!

    this!!

    sounds like a blast, can I come? :) 

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  • paris.inthe.springparis.inthe.spring
    I wanna come. Are there 20-25 people doing the spa day with you? If so I would not worry about anything. That is a lot of people.
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  • SWmamaSWmama member

    I'll tell you what. I will volunteer to personally come over to Ireland and crash your spa day and run interference between your mom and stepmom. Because that's the kind of sweet lady I am. Stick out tongue

    Seriously though, we had a similar situation with my wedding. My MIL and BIL do not get along at all (as in, they have not spoken in about 10 years). My BIL was in the wedding party. DH sat both of them down seperately prior to the wedding and told them if they couldn't at the very least ignore each other, then it would be best if they stayed home. My MIL ended up coming for the wedding but left before the reception started (which left my DH all alone for the mother/son dance AFTER she made a huge deal about the dance but that's another rant for another time).

    Hope that helps! 

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  • DREWLILYDREWLILY
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    imagejpowell3:
    Tell them to put on their big girl panties & play nice for a day. This is about you & enjoying the company of your close friends & family. And your day sounds awesome, I want to join!
    This. ::anxiously awaits invitation::
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  • J&A2008J&A2008 member
    Any hope they would put aside their differences for a family function?  I know I was shocked this fall when MIL decided to throw a joint party with FIL and his wife.  It actually went really well.
    Stay at home mom to a house of boys: two amazing stepsons, 12 and 9, and our 4 year old.
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