frustrated with DH over baby names

susan1017 · May 2010

DH and I are having a terrible time agreeing on a name for this child. He doesn't know we are having a boy (u/s tech slipped yesterday at my appointment and he doesn't want to know ) and now I am getting fixated on one name, Evan, and he doesn't like if because it is 'too popular'. Then he offers up these two names instead: Jacob and Aiden. HUH??? Jacob has been top 5 for a while and the 'Aiden/Jayden/Caiden' trend is just too pervasive in my area for me to want to consider Aiden. I like Jacob well enough but not enough to use it.

And when I say I love the name Evan, I LOVE it and have for a long time. If you had a similar situation how did you get past it? How did you all agree on a name??

BTW, we are between Katherine or Brooke for a girl but he doesn't know it no longer matters :-(

Teagiedo · May 2010

Good luck. My husband and I had such a terrible time naming our sweet boy. He hated everything I through out. I just kept naming him something different every day and calling the baby that until he finally said I do like that name.

anderson_moore2008 · May 2010

I really love Esme but DH is on the fence about it. I am secretly hoping she will be born and he will just decide she looks like an Esme. We are going into it with about five names and deciding after she is born.

Mama_of_Four · May 2010

anderson_moore2008:
I really love Esme but DH is on the fence about it. I am secretly hoping she will be born and he will just decide she looks like an Esme. We are going into it with about five names and deciding after she is born.

I loved this name ever since i read it in the Twilight saga!

lily225 · May 2010

I LOVED the name Kate (and still do) since before I was even pg with my first daughter, but he never liked it. It sucked, but I wasn't going to force a ame he really didn't like. I've suggested it for the next two pregnancies with the same reaction. Sad days for me

aimeelv · May 2010

Show him this link: https://www.ssa.gov/cgi-bin/popularnames.cgi

Naming a baby is a tough job. We had to see Zachary before we really knew he was a "Zachary" and we're planning on waiting to name this baby until he or she is here too. We made a list of about four names that we liked and chose the one that fit best

I hope you guys are able to agree on a name you both love!

someflower6 · May 2010

haha, i say you let him pick the girl name if you can pick the boy name. Stick out tongue

olga&shaun · May 2010

You know what, I could have posted that! Before we found out we're expecting a girl, I had Evan as my 1st choice, and DH didn't like it... and then he'd also come up with names that were either waaay too long, too old fashioned or just too 'popular'.

Fast forward to around 28 weeks... DH knew from the day we got together (not even married), that if I ever had a daughter, I wanted to call her Milla. Don't ask me why, to me it's just a beautiful name and I later found out that it actually has tons of beautiful meanings in different languages. So after about 10 WEEKS of me calling her Milla, he suddenly said that he doesn't like the name...(!!!!). Long story short, skipping all the fights and drama, he agreed to calling her Milla, but he gets to choose her middle name. I just made it very clear how much the name means to me and how I would really appreciate it if he could let me have my way. I guess I'm going to have to let him choose the next baby's name, IF we're to have another baby one day though... )

Good luck, it's a very sensitive issue for both parents!!

danalynnrd · May 2010

My c section is Friday and we can't agree on any names. And we are team green, so it's double as hard!! Evan is becoming pretty popular too, so if popularity is something you are trying to avoid, maybe you should keep your mind open to other ideas for the next 10 weeks. Good luck!

sugar212 · May 2010

the only Evan I know, and have ever known, is my husband. it is not that popular.?

susan1017 · May 2010

Thanks, Ladies! It's good to know I'm not alone in this!

I don't mind a popular name but he doesn't want to hear from me that every other kid I know that is being born is a Jacob. There are 3 infants IN MY NEIGHBORHOOD that would be in school with our son with the name Jacob! He would be Jake L. his whole school career. That is exactly what I am trying to avoid.

I guess it is his rationale that I am having the most issue with. HE decided Evan is too popular but he will make any excuse to get the name he wants, even ignoring the SS name list I sent and all the other web sites that have Jacob right at the top! Silliness!

I agree with the poster who is naming her DD Milla that she just explained that the name was really meaningful to her. Evan just FEELS right for this baby. There are tons of names I like but my insides are telling me to stick to my guns with Evan.

sourpatchkids · May 2010

Have him pick the girl name and you pick the boy name!

mysticporter · May 2010

When we got really stuck where we each had a favorite, we ended up ditching all of them and starting from scratch to find a name we both liked equally well. It seemed to help for us to reset rather than going around and around on the same names over and over again.

BlueRidge8 · May 2010

I really like Evan! (And I agree I like it much more than Jacob and Aiden).

We really struggled with a boy's name - DH was set on something silly (Camp), and we went back and forth. When we found out LO was a girl, I suggested Adair and he - shockingly- agreed easily.

As he probably hasn't thought about the names of his children over years and years like a lot of us, I would emphasize how long you have liked the name and what a good, strong name it is. Then show him the SSA list and maybe he can be swayed Maybe suggest he can pick the middle name?

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