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magdalina.hmagdalina.h member
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When you post a vent,not asking a specific question, would you rather have someone give you a personal story or just say "I'm sorry" or ((hugs))?

I ask this because when I comment I usually say my experience... or I've done xyz to help and I wonder if that helps or if people just want me to hug them and shut up. lol

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  • CashewsMommyCashewsMommy member
    I personally like both. That's why i give both.


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  • SassyMamainVASassyMamainVA
    I like both as well. 
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  • Aubs0009Aubs0009 member
    I enjoy both. Usually if I have a story or something to input I do, if it seems like a good place to say ((hugs)) or I'm sorry I do.

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  • blejableja
    Both. It helps to know that someone knows exactly how you're feeling and how and why they know that.
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  • jerriesgirljerriesgirl
    Both
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  • Amanda02aAmanda02a
    I like both as well.  
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  • Scout05Scout05 member

    I am so glad you asked this. I agree - you want to offer what you can from your own experience and research, but you don't want the person to think you are taking away from their own situation and pain.

    I like both, myself, and that seems to be the overall opinion.

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  • erinb1025erinb1025

    imagelrachelle80:
    Both here as well!!! I like the empathy of (((hugs))) or a simple apology, and I like to hear stories to know that I'm not alone!

    this exactly! If I don't have any experience with what the person is going through, I say I'm sorry and give hugs, but I always like to hear that I'm not alone, so I try to give someone else that feeling.

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  • magdalina.hmagdalina.h member
    imageambrandau2:

    I am so glad you asked this. I agree - you want to offer what you can from your own experience and research, but you don't want the person to think you are taking away from their own situation and pain.

    I like both, myself, and that seems to be the overall opinion.

    This is how I feel too. It would bother me when I would make a random post (not on here) and people would just say hugs. It made me feel like I was the only person feeling what I felt.  That's why if I have something to say I do, but if not then I stick with I'm sorry and hugs.

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  • betizzle73betizzle73
    Personally, I like personal stories/responses. Hugs are nice too.. but usually if I'm venting about it I guess I would like to hear that other people have gone through something similar, etc.
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  • damabo80damabo80 member
    Both. Sympathy I can get from people IRL in large doses, but you all are the only ones who can understand and provide me with stories or situations where you were faced with the same/similar issue, and what you did to cope.


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  • shouldbworkinshouldbworkin

    imageCashewsMommy:
    I personally like both. That's why i give both.

    ditto!  If I've been through something similar, I will mention it.  But, sometimes it's just nice when someone agrees that something really, really sucks. 

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  • Izabella22Izabella22 member
    Generally I like both, its really comforting to hear personal stories and different perspectives. However if I'm venting I don't want someone to disagree with me... that's my only caveat. If I'm openly whining I don't want to hear about how I should be grateful for whatever, just that it sucks I have somethign to whine about (and yeah that happened on another board) but by all means, share your sucky story too! Whine parties are welcome! Misery does love company! :)
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  • magdalina.hmagdalina.h member

    imageIzabella22:
    Generally I like both, its really comforting to hear personal stories and different perspectives. However if I'm venting I don't want someone to disagree with me... that's my only caveat. If I'm openly whining I don't want to hear about how I should be grateful for whatever, just that it sucks I have somethign to whine about (and yeah that happened on another board) but by all means, share your sucky story too! Whine parties are welcome! Misery does love company! :)

    Where'd that happen? I'll put them in there place. lol  

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