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NBR: In need of marriage counseling...

babybmommababybmomma
in Dallas-Fort Worth Babies
I'm not sure if this is even the right place to ask but I thought I'd try.  DH and I are having such a tough time lately...I'd say the last year or so.  We always argue...even over the most idiotic things...and I feel like we've grown apart.  DH says he loves me and doesn't want to divorce but I feel like we struggle all the time.  I don't want to totally give up but I don't think we can fix it on our own.  Would anyone happen to have a good recommendation for a marriage counselor?  I feel like such a failure. TIA
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Re: NBR: In need of marriage counseling...

  • curlywormscurlyworms

    I dont have a rec for you but am also interested in the replies you get. I have debated on asking that question here as well but have been hesitant to do so for some reason. I have been thinking about getting DH and I into counseling as well. We argue alot more than we used to since DS was born, partly due to the stress and trauma of me being in the hospital for so long prior to DS birth and then him being premature and the stress of that, then just the normal stress of being new parents. We have had some issues with his sister since DS arrival and that has added ALOT of stress as well. I fear if we dont do something we wont make it, I worry about our marriage constatnly now (i cant believe I am admitting that here) :(

    I am so sorry you guys are dealing with this, it just sucks!!! I hope you find some answers.

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  • TexasLadyBugTexasLadyBug

    A am a marriage and family therapist, but I cant for obvious reason recommend myself. However I do know of some great private and non-private contacts in different areas that I can pass along to you. 

    If you are interested just send me a PM and let me know what area you live in so I can give you those people in your area. 

    I think its great you are being proactive in your marriage. I personally have gone to marriage counseling as the client and have found it really helpful. I hope if you choose to go you find it just as helpful. 

     

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  • babybmommababybmomma
    imagecurlyworms:

    I dont have a rec for you but am also interested in the replies you get. I have debated on asking that question here as well but have been hesitant to do so for some reason. I have been thinking about getting DH and I into counseling as well. We argue alot more than we used to since DS was born, partly due to the stress and trauma of me being in the hospital for so long prior to DS birth and then him being premature and the stress of that, then just the normal stress of being new parents. We have had some issues with his sister since DS arrival and that has added ALOT of stress as well. I fear if we dont do something we wont make it, I worry about our marriage constatnly now (i cant believe I am admitting that here) :(

    I am so sorry you guys are dealing with this, it just sucks!!! I hope you find some answers.

     

    I hope you and your husband can work it out as well!  It is hard to admit we need help but I think it's what we need. 

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  • babybmommababybmomma
    imageTexasLadyBug:

    A am a marriage and family therapist, but I cant for obvious reason recommend myself. However I do know of some great private and non-private contacts in different areas that I can pass along to you. 

    If you are interested just send me a PM and let me know what area you live in so I can give you those people in your area. 

    I think its great you are being proactive in your marriage. I personally have gone to marriage counseling as the client and have found it really helpful. I hope if you choose to go you find it just as helpful. 

     

     I just sent you a PM...I hope I did it right and it went through.  Thanks for your recommendations!

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  • TexasLadyBugTexasLadyBug
    imagebabybmomma:
    imageTexasLadyBug:

    A am a marriage and family therapist, but I cant for obvious reason recommend myself. However I do know of some great private and non-private contacts in different areas that I can pass along to you. 

    If you are interested just send me a PM and let me know what area you live in so I can give you those people in your area. 

    I think its great you are being proactive in your marriage. I personally have gone to marriage counseling as the client and have found it really helpful. I hope if you choose to go you find it just as helpful. 

     

     I just sent you a PM...I hope I did it right and it went through.  Thanks for your recommendations!

    Got your msg and PM'ed you back. I will get back to you when I get to my office.  

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  • rdd99ardd99a
    I applaud you, too, for being proactive and wanting to get help. It's not bad to admit that there are problems, and maybe not even to have the problems, but nothing will change if you don't try to work it out, right? So, you are doing the right thing! I'm not sure if you are a Christian or not, but marriage was created by God and the Bible shows good examples of how a marriage should be: how the wife should act and how the husband should act. If both, or even sometimes, if at least one is doing their part, the marriage can be successful. Read Genesis 2:18-24 to see how God intended marriage to be a permanent binding of two people and that the woman was intended to be the ideal help for her husband, not above her husband nor a slave to him, but the ultimate partner, using her strengths and letting her husband use his. Also, Ephesians 5:23-32 talks about how the husband is the head of the wife, and the wife is supposed to be submissive to him, as unto Christ. This is not meant to put the woman in a subordinate position, but rather an honored position, because the husband is responsible for loving his wife and sacrificing his own desires to keep her and his family safe and make sure they are the best people they can be. My husband and I actually went to marriage counseling with our preacher a few weeks after we got married, even though we didn't really have any serious problems. We received a lot of wisdom from it. I will pray for you and your husband. Remember, you are doing the right thing to get help!
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  • keanaakeanaa member
    You may even look into the local universities. SMU in Plano, UNT & TWU all have Marriage and Family Clinics that are very reasonable.
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