If your lo is in daycare, how often are they bit/pushed/hit by other kids?

swedish-fish · May 2010

It seems like every week we get a call from daycare that some kid bit/hit/pushed DD and she bit/hit/pushed him (every time it's been a boy!) back. Luckily, DD has yet to be the instigator.

Is this consistent with your daycare experience? I know kids often express their emotions physically and it's totally normal to hit/push/bite, but this seems excessive to me. And I hate that my baby is getting "beat up"! Does your kid get pushed/push other kids around at daycare?

Mrs.Hizzo · May 2010

Finn is in MDO three mornings a week and has been for close to two years. In that time, he has been bitten one time and scratched badly enough to leave marks twice. That's all I know of. If there have been other incidents, they haven't left a mark and no one has mentioned them to me.

LaLaSweets · May 2010

Interestingly my daughter can hold her own... so I hear. She will tell a kid with the quickness "go away" but has a problem with pinching cheeks if another kid gets in her face. Aww I hope your cutie pie doesn't get beat up!!

alli2672 · May 2010

I don't know, but I am sure that he gets pushed more than once a week.

No one calls me about it though. I find out about bites when I pick him up. They tell me if he was hitting or pushing. We talk about what we might change at home and daycare to help DS get along a little better.

BabyCakes3 · May 2010

DD bit once when she was about 13 months old. That's it. She's gotten more aggressive at home after moving to the 18-24 month room a few weeks ago. 2x's when I've got her paper off the clipboard, there have been multiple incident reports with the other childs papers.

So, I know it's going in that room. I figure it's only a matter of time until she's involved somehow. I'm not sure how's she stayed out of it so far. She's been hitting at us a lot lately at home.

swedish-fish · May 2010

thanks for your feedback, everyone! one part of me is glad she's defending herself, but I hate that she's getting more aggressive. I'm not sure if it's more on my radar because daycare calls about everything or if there is really a problem emerging. I think I'm going to chat with daycare about it this afternoon. thanks again, everyone!

Quiksilver620 · May 2010

this hasn't happened at all

racegirl723 · May 2010

My DS is in daycare and we are having problems with one child singling my child out and biting him unprovoked. There have been 5 total biting incidents in the past month. Each time the teacher has told me that my DS was playing on his own, reading, or waiting in line to wash his hands when the other child walked up and bit him. The bites are pretty severe in that they leave a bruise and a bite mark for over a week.

I have had multiple phone calls with the teacher and now a call with the Director about this. At first, they tried shadowing the other kid to keep him from biting my DS, but that hasn't worked. Now, they are exploring alternative ways to help the other child communicate better instead of biting (the biter is delayed and doesn't talk much). My DS does not retaliate, but it is one of my fears that he will start doing that. We've been trying to empower my DS by teaching him to say "child's name, STOP!"

I am at the end of my rope b/c I'm tired of my kid getting hurt so if things don't improve, we will be asking to move him to the other toddler room. Overall, I have not been pleased with the center's response and feel that they do more to protect the child who is doing the biting than the child who is getting bitten. It's frustrating!

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