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Being repulsed by BF (vent)
We had people over last night for DH's birthday and one of his female friends really pissed me off. She asked if I was still doing "that yucky breastfeeding thing" and when I said yes she shuttered and said "That is so gross". She then went on and on about how much BF repulsed her. I was livid. I said that it repulsed me that she thought feeding her babies powered milk, vegetable oil and neurotoxins was better. Errr... I don't care how you feed your baby but I'm not going to stand by and let you belittle my choice.
I really don't understand women who claim to be grossed out by a normal body function. How do you think the human race survived for all these years? Its what boobs are for.
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Re: Being repulsed by BF (vent)
Wow, that's rude. She apparently doesn't know how to socially interact! If that's her opinion then that's her opinion. But man, you shouldn't be saying things like that to someone who's doing it!
Edit: What did your DH say to that? I hope he's planning to bump her down a friend tier for that comment about his wife and child.
I always assume that people who are so repulsed by BF have horrible personal hygiene. They must, right? I mean, how else could they manage to wipe their own asses without vomiting?
Besides, people who say things like that make themselves sound ridiculously stupid. Even people who dont BF tend to understand that it's not "gross", so spouting off about how disgusting it is only makes that person look like an ignorant douchebag to everyone else.
How dare she say something like that to you! I am a proud BF'er and am so happy that I made that choice!
On the other hand, I babysit 2 little girls, one who is 2, and one who is 6mo. They both were/are formula fed and i don't belittle their mother for her choice. She said BFing kinda gives her the willies, and that is fine. She has never once made me feel bad for my choice.
Let's just say she is no longer welcome in my house. She is one of those people who are overly loud and offensive to get attention and I've had enough.
LMFAO!
Wow-- way for her to totally degrade a beautiful, natural, mothering function. Not only that, but she obviously has a hard time knowing when to shut up.
Having said that, I thought my breast milk was pretty cool, but when I started nannying for a family that breast fed their LO, I got kind of grossed out at handling another woman's breast milk.
Nonetheless, to think that breast feeding in general is gross is a little immature. I wouldn't miss her friendship.
haha! i love it!
and OP, I'm so sorry that someone said that to you. I would've been so mad too!
This is what I was thinking but had not yet figured out how to say. Thanks Shellbelle.
I understand why you're upset and she was rude to you, but firing that back at her didn't help the situation.
ITA! Those women that think BF'ing is gross need to grow up. Now that I've BF'ed, I honestly find it a little gross that grown men suck on boobs during sex. I wonder if that grosses her out too?
We have boobs to breastfeed, period. WTF is wrong with these people?
you are no better than her for saying this. you are hurt by her comment, i'm sure. but do you not think that maybe she could have been equally as hurt by yours?
Good for you! I sure hope she knows why she's no longer welcome over there. Someone needs to put her in her place!
I agree, but I think we should give her the benefit of the doubt and assume it was said solely as a retort. I didn't get the impression based on that comment that she really judges this woman for using formula. But would that comment have been better left out? Yes.
I just HATE the ongoing BF/F debate because I just cannot understand having a strong opinion against either method as it pertains to anyone but yourself.
Honestly? Who gives a shiit? She opened the topic by expressing a highly offensive, unwanted opinion - she deserved to have hers insulted in kind. I highly doubt that the OP thinks that about formula feeders in general.
Agreed.
I would certainly never say "So, friend, are you still doing that yucky formula feeding thing?" To each his own. I could care less if someone thinks it's yucky b/c BFing is the right thing for us and I, too, find it funny that people get so up in arms about BFing. They're just boobs, people. Calm down.
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This makes me laugh because DH and I have a male friend that is repulsed by BF, and he has horrible personal hygiene. His wife told me that he brought a new toothbrush on their honeymoon, and when they got back the toothbrush was still in the box unopened. He's gross. He's gotten better after an almost year of marriage, but he's still dirty.
I only said the negative stuff about formula in reply to her being so disgusted by me naturally feeding my child. I normally stay out of the FF/BF debate. I honestly don't care how other people choose to feed their babies.
I believe you, and you did clearly explain that in your OP. I know it's hard not to get defensive and respond negatively when people attack you. She sounds like someone who brings others down and who has no tact. I'm sorry she said that to you.
Yeah, she was out of line.
But neurotoxins? Yeah, you are too.
I may get flamed for this, but I find breast feeding a litttle gross. I EBF for 4 months and stopped only because I was so uncomfortable with it.
I am still sad with myself for not being able to get over my own personal issues with BF to feed my LO what I know is the best thing for him.
I didn't post to get into this topic, I was just complaining but google "msg baby formula".
No.
You said it!