do you want to be acknowledged on Sun?

beachgirl1977 · May 2010

I've visited a few times during my 2 m/c, but this is more a question relating to my SIL. She lost her triplets this summer after 2 weeks in the nicu (born 17 weeks early). I know Sun must be hard for her (we live far away) and was thinking of sending a note or email letting her know I was thinking of her, I can only imagine what she feels and it is difficult that I am due in a month or 2. Do you want to be acknowledge on Mother's day or more trying to avoid it all together?

Fryday37 · May 2010

i think a note letting her know that you are thinking about her and just offering your support would be nice. im sure she is thinking about her babies and i think it would be nice for you to acknowledge that.

myst33 · May 2010

I think some acknowledgement whether it be a phone call or email just to let her know that you are thinking of her is very nice. I can't imagine how difficult Sunday will be for her. I'm so sorry.

nina&matt · May 2010

Personally, I do. I think some people don't acknowledge that I gave birth to my daughter, even though she was born still, I am still her mother. I may not want flowers, and gifts.. but some kind words would be nice. :-(

Cow-girl · May 2010

I agree with pp, acknowledging her would be very sweet! So many of us want someone to talk about our babies instead of avoiding the subject all together...

Here is a quote I found...

When a baby arrives, be it for a day, a month, a year of more, or perhaps only a sweet flickering moment the fragile spark of a tender soul, the secret swell of a new pregnancy, the goldfish flutter known only to you- you are unmistakably changed...the tiny footprints left behind on your heart bespeak your name as Mother.

And here is a poem I found that I used in my daily inspiration... Maybe including one of these would help?

"The Busiest Day In Heaven"

It's the busiest day in Heaven

I'm planning a big surprise

To let you know I love you

And that no one ever dies

Even though your down below

And I am up above

I'm sending you my wishes

And all my angel love

It's really quite exciting

To plan this big event

For lots of gifts will come your way

And all are Heaven sent

First I'll take a bubble bath-

My splashes might cause some rain

But knowing all the fun I'm having

Will help to ease your pain

Next I'll get some pictures

In my halo and gown

So when you get to Heaven

You can show me all around

I have color crayons in Heaven

And I will draw some stars so bright

And place them in the sky today

For you to see tonight

Then Jesus will have story time

And I will sit upon his lap

He'll tell me all about you

Just before I nap

I'll awake full of energy

And play a game or two

Before I finish sending

All my love to you

After snack I'll write a song

For all the birds to sing

And know I've made you happy

With all the joy it brings

At night time I'll be tired

But I'll still hold you tight

My arms will wrap around you

And keep you through the night

And when you finally slumber

I will kneel and pray

Asking God to bless you

On this special Mothers Day

Love,

Your Little Angel

nina&matt · May 2010

cowgirl:

I agree with pp, acknowledging her would be very sweet! So many of us want someone to talk about our babies instead of avoiding the subject all together...

Here is a quote I found...

When a baby arrives, be it for a day, a month, a year of more, or perhaps only a sweet flickering moment the fragile spark of a tender soul, the secret swell of a new pregnancy, the goldfish flutter known only to you- you are unmistakably changed...the tiny footprints left behind on your heart bespeak your name as Mother.

And here is a poem I found that I used in my daily inspiration... Maybe including one of these would help?

"The Busiest Day In Heaven"

It's the busiest day in Heaven

I'm planning a big surprise

To let you know I love you

And that no one ever dies

Even though your down below

And I am up above

I'm sending you my wishes

And all my angel love

It's really quite exciting

To plan this big event

For lots of gifts will come your way

And all are Heaven sent

First I'll take a bubble bath-

My splashes might cause some rain

But knowing all the fun I'm having

Will help to ease your pain

Next I'll get some pictures

In my halo and gown

So when you get to Heaven

You can show me all around

I have color crayons in Heaven

And I will draw some stars so bright

And place them in the sky today

For you to see tonight

Then Jesus will have story time

And I will sit upon his lap

He'll tell me all about you

Just before I nap

I'll awake full of energy

And play a game or two

Before I finish sending

All my love to you

After snack I'll write a song

For all the birds to sing

And know I've made you happy

With all the joy it brings

At night time I'll be tired

But I'll still hold you tight

My arms will wrap around you

And keep you through the night

And when you finally slumber

I will kneel and pray

Asking God to bless you

On this special Mothers Day

Love,

Your Little Angel

That is so sweet.

nina&matt · May 2010

cowgirl:

I agree with pp, acknowledging her would be very sweet! So many of us want someone to talk about our babies instead of avoiding the subject all together...

Here is a quote I found...

When a baby arrives, be it for a day, a month, a year of more, or perhaps only a sweet flickering moment the fragile spark of a tender soul, the secret swell of a new pregnancy, the goldfish flutter known only to you- you are unmistakably changed...the tiny footprints left behind on your heart bespeak your name as Mother.

And here is a poem I found that I used in my daily inspiration... Maybe including one of these would help?

"The Busiest Day In Heaven"

It's the busiest day in Heaven

I'm planning a big surprise

To let you know I love you

And that no one ever dies

Even though your down below

And I am up above

I'm sending you my wishes

And all my angel love

It's really quite exciting

To plan this big event

For lots of gifts will come your way

And all are Heaven sent

First I'll take a bubble bath-

My splashes might cause some rain

But knowing all the fun I'm having

Will help to ease your pain

Next I'll get some pictures

In my halo and gown

So when you get to Heaven

You can show me all around

I have color crayons in Heaven

And I will draw some stars so bright

And place them in the sky today

For you to see tonight

Then Jesus will have story time

And I will sit upon his lap

He'll tell me all about you

Just before I nap

I'll awake full of energy

And play a game or two

Before I finish sending

All my love to you

After snack I'll write a song

For all the birds to sing

And know I've made you happy

With all the joy it brings

At night time I'll be tired

But I'll still hold you tight

My arms will wrap around you

And keep you through the night

And when you finally slumber

I will kneel and pray

Asking God to bless you

On this special Mothers Day

Love,

Your Little Angel

That is so sweet.

betizzle73 · May 2010

I lost my daughter after 3 days in the NICU, and I absolutely want to be acknowledged. I don't want anyone to make a huge deal about it, but Idon't want to be left out or forgotten. I received a card in the mail for Mothers day today from my grandmother and even though I bawled my eyes out while I read it, it's SO nice to know that others still see me as a mother. Once you become a mom, I fully believe that you can't go backwards, so if I wasn't acknowledged I would be extremely upset. Just a note or an e-mail like you said would be enough, just so that she knows that she's being thought of.

jerriesgirl · May 2010

I'm sure the gesture of a card or a call would be greatly appreciated.

magdalina.h · May 2010

I'm terrified that I'll be forgotten on Sunday. So yes I want to be acknolwdged on Sunday.

Lorange-8 · May 2010

magdalina.h:
I'm terrified that I'll be forgotten on Sunday. So yes I want to be acknolwdged on Sunday.

I feel the same way, and i don't know if i should say something to DH because I don't know if he'll remember.

millejj1 · May 2010

I think a card or a call is perfect. I'm sort of in between wanting to be acknowledged but I don't want to say anything. I do want to be because it's recognizing the fact that I am if even for a short while, but at the same time I feel like I don't want to push for it bc people don't always understand and would likely interpret it wrong. I just hope that someone remembers on their own.

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