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So I told...
...the first person (and hopefully only) IRL that we're trying! A couple from our church that just found out they're KU (only 4 weeks) & I were talking about kids & the like, and she point blank (but politely) asked if we were actively trying. I was caught off guard, but not offended, and told her we were- but that we really weren't telling people. She seemed pretty excited for me, and I highly doubt (and hope) that she'd be one to tell others, give unwanted advice, etc... and I'm kinda relieved that I told someone outside DH & I (and DH is totally fine with it too)- felt good to tell someone.
Anyone else tell someone you're trying??
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Re: So I told...
You are brave! My mom would drive me up the wall if I told her!
I told 3 friends (all with kids). I just found out today DH told one of his guy friends. = )
Oh... we haven't told the parents! While I don't think either set would be particularly bothersome about it, we planned on keeping it to ourselves. It just kinda 'came out' today (and only to the one couple).
I'm guessing as time goes on we'll tell more people (only a few... and slowly).
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I was thinking about this earlier today and realized I think I have told more people than I had planned on telling.
I made the mistake of telling a couple of friends and family members that I was officially off of BC in late November. Now they're all asking me what's going on with TTC because I haven't gotten KU yet. But with DH's travel for work Dec-Feb we're actually only on our 3rd month of actively trying.
I know...I am getting a daily email asking how things are going!
My mother and sister both got pg within the first couple of months off BCP. Both times. I think I'm a little afraid of telling them because they will expect it to happen that quickly for me and I don't want their pity if it doesn't. (And it obviously didn't happen this month.)
On the other hand, my SIL who I am very close to, had tons of IF issues. I don't want to tell her in case we do get pg right away. I feel like it would be rubbing it in her face or something, that it happened for us.
I told my coworker early on in trying b/c I knew she would be interested but not OVERLY interested. It felt really good to tell her.
Since then, I think some of my nosy friends and family have figured out that we're not on BC anymore but I haven't officially confirmed anything to them. I'm a bad liar and when they point blank ask me if I'm on BC or not it's hard to get around that.
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What makes them ask or figure out that you're not on BC? I (hopefully) am still acting the same and drinking as much, hoping my friends won't figure it out.
This actually seems very similar to what happened to me. Particularly the part about lying if asked point blank- which is really what happened tonight. My mom probably suspects because when she's mentioned it (somewhat jokingly) on the phone, I do the usual "mooom!..." and change the subject...
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Told my 3 closest girl friends. Am not going to tell my friend who was my MOH because she's going through a tough time with IF and has made it clear that the topic is off limits completely. It's ruining our friendship. I'm definitely not telling anyone in our families. My mom would drive me crazy with all her giddy (well-meaning) coos. DH's family wouldn't want to know and would gossip about it.
Edit, there's more to the story with the MOH than I included here. Basically, there's just a big elephant in the room all the time.