We're going to have quite a large party for Sarah, but honestly, the last thing I want is a TON of toys/books/games/puzzles/clothes that I have to find room for. I want to add "In lieu of gifts, please consider a donation to the March of Dimes in Sarah's honor" to the invitations. I know that traditional etiquette would say that's tacky, but would YOU think it was tacky if, knowing Sarah's story, you got that invitation?
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I wouldn't think it was tacky at all!
Not tacky at all...actually think it's an awesome idea!
I think for birthdays that is totally appropriate. I would print an insert and include it in the invitation, but not ON the invitation. And maybe say something like "if you are inclined to give a gift, a donation in Sarah's Honor to the March of Dimes would really touch our hearts"
For wedding invites, then any mention of gifts is tacky.
I think it's kind of common now. At least we've seen several invites like that. The last one Nate was invited to ask to bring a bag of dog food to be donated to a local shelter.
) Be prepared for gifts, too, though. No matter how many times you tell people not to bring one they usually do (along with the donation).