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ladysingstheblues · May 2010

How much of the childcare in your home is done by YOU? Honesty please. Is it different than you thought it would be, pre-baby? My answer is yes, it's different. He helps out less than I thought he would. I chose 70 percent.[Poll]

mavilabride · May 2010

I need further explanation.

Do you want us to compare against our husbands?

N/M saw that you added a little more.

AMYfromKY · May 2010

I said 80%, but only because I'm a SAHM. Once DH is home from work I'd say it is 90/10...him being the 90. On the weekends it is probably 60/40...again, him being the 60.

I feel very lucky.

Brooke208 · May 2010

I'd say about 70% or so. DH helps when he can but of course the main responsibility is mine since I stay home.

FirefightersBride · May 2010

my DH's big contribution...getting him up and change his diaper in the morning.

ivs112 · May 2010

I said 70%. SO helps a lot when it comes to playing with her and keeping her entertained when I have to clean up or whatever but I still feed her 80% of the time, change her 90% of the time and wash bottles 100% of the time.

Basically I do the technical part of parenting and he does a lot of the rest.

dandi799 · May 2010

My DH is home with her during the day and I am home with her at night when he goes to work, so, he definitely contributes more than I do. I feel guilty, but he's wonderful with her.

blushingbrideoct07 · May 2010

I am a SAHM so most of the care comes from me. ?In addition, DH works crazy long hours. ?When he is home its all daddy daughter time. ?He does everything.

Brooke208 · May 2010

Okay changing... weekends is usually 50%-60% me. Weekdays around 70% me, sometimes more and sometimes less. DH slacks off on a lot of things but not helping with the kids, usually. He bathes DS, but not DD yet. He feeds and changes DD a very fair amount of times. He is good with interacting and playing with both kids. I wish I had more help in other areas from him so it's not perfect, but it works for us.

ladysingstheblues · May 2010

ivs112:

I said 70%. SO helps a lot when it comes to playing with her and keeping her entertained when I have to clean up or whatever but I still feed her 80% of the time, change her 90% of the time and wash bottles 100% of the time.

Basically I do the technical part of parenting and he does a lot of the rest.

Oooh, I like how you broke it down!

I'd say I feed him 80%. change him 60%, and wash bottles 100%. Oh, and I bathe him 99.9% of the time.

stellasmommy · May 2010

i voted 80%. DH and i both work F/T. when we're home, it's mostly me taking care of DD. he changes her in the morning while i get ready, but that's his biggest chore. but, in his defense, we are still renovating our house, so on the weekends he's usually doing work in the house. but when he's not working on the house, it's probably 65/35. i have to ask him to do things, like change her diaper, or watch her while i take a shower.

amber_tynan · May 2010

It's definitely gotten better, but it's still about 80% me. I think it's because I SAH and B still nurses, so he's still very attached to me.

DH gets up with B every morning (B gets up at 6) and keeps him until he needs to nurse and fall back to sleep for his morning nap. Usually that's about an hour or so. After work DH and I will do stuff together; feed him, play, change diapers, give a bath. Then I do bedtime and nurse during the night. Now that B is older and eating solids DH is more confident in having him alone, so I am getting out more often and it's great! So maybe I should have answered 70%.

dragonsmercy · May 2010

I voted 60%... because while he will change her diapers and give her bottles about 90% of the time, he will NOT give her solids, medication, wake up with her through the night 3/4 of the time, and I usually end up having to calm her down when he can't figure out why she's crying (which usually just involves holding her while standing up, walking with her, and/or giving her a bottle). I also get 100% care of her while we're out of the house (except while I'm driving, obviously), which is frequently.

Chrysallys · May 2010

90% weekends and weekdays. *sigh*

penguingrrl · May 2010

I'm not going to click since it's skewed. I SAH so I'm with them 40+ hours while he's at work, but when he's not at work he does probably 70-80% of the care to give me a break. He can't nurse the little one, but the older one is 100% a daddy's girl so if he's around she wants him to do everything lol! And he gets up with them every morning and lets me sleep.

GoombaGirl_79 · May 2010

I voted 80%. Im also a SAHM. When DH gets home he does help out a little but honestly I do find myself still doing most of the "chores" for DS (changing his butt, feeding solid meals etc). He will play with DS though and if I need to go have a shower or bath or something he'll watch him. Weekends it's the same. I don't really mind but I am trying to get him to feed DS more so that when I go out by myself the little guy is used to having his daddy feed him a meal!

KristinB! · May 2010

This comment may get me in trouble, but I just don't understand why a lot of dads don't share equal responsibility in taking care of their babies. I understand that many of you SAHMs take on the bulk because you're the only one home with the kid(s) most of the time, but when mom and dad are together at home, I feel like there should be equal responsibility.

Of course, there are exceptions (i.e. if you EBF, your DH obviously doesn't feed or wake up at night if the baby's hungry), but for the most party, I feel like a lot of dads aren't picking up their share of the parenting load.

egsquared · May 2010

I take care of DD 90% of the time 7 days a week. I do SAH, so that skews it a little. DH was better about helping when she was a newborn, but he doesn't do much now. He gives her a bath maybe once a week, same with feeding her solids (I bf) or changing her.

SammyLee1229 · May 2010

AMYfromKY:
I said 80%, but only because I'm a SAHM. Once DH is home from work I'd say it is 90/10...him being the 90. On the weekends it is probably 60/40...again, him being the 60.
I feel very lucky.

THIS.

IMO, we're a great team.

rsd12 · May 2010

I said 80% me - but I am home with the kids & I have no problems with our set up.

When he is home after work - it changes to 80% him - he puts the older boys to bed every night. Sometimes I will help if I am not nursing the baby. He always gets up with the older boys in the middle of the night. He rocks as a daddy!

rmarruffo · May 2010

I assumed this would be the case. hes the fun one that plays all the time, and im the boring one who wants to clean. he says we need to relax and have more fun with LO, well i cant relax in a dirty house!!

juliane2004 · May 2010

AMYfromKY:
I said 80%, but only because I'm a SAHM. Once DH is home from work I'd say it is 90/10...him being the 90. On the weekends it is probably 60/40...again, him being the 60.

This exactly.

*KC*luvs*RJ* · May 2010

I chose 70%, but DH helps as much as he possibly can. He works full time, and he's a teacher so there is a lot of work he does at home. He usually is the one to give DS a bath and puts him to bed now most of the time, so he's really tried to insert himself in places where he'll help me a lot and get to spend quality time with DS.

It was hard at first, because he wasn't helping much as he got used to his new students, but once he was settled at work he really stepped up at being a great daddy!

Mabzie · May 2010

Considering DH is at home with her most of the day I say 50 or less. I do take night shift and weekends tho.

ryry1977 · May 2010

Being a SAHM I said 90%. DH does less than I thought he would. He does help out when he is home...just not what I thought it would be. Maybe DH will do more when Cedric is older and plays more and more. I feel that I push Daddy and baby time on them. But I need some down time too!

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