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ScissorTailedFlycatcher
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My typical vent
ScissorTailedFlycatcher
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Hello all. I'm going to try and be on TB more. I'm sure there are so many new faces here, that I don't know half of you, but that's okay. Here is my typical vent:
The kids missed school AGAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAIN! GRRRRRR!
Total tally for this year:
SD - 10 absences / 10 tardies
SS - 14 absences / 10 tardies
I don't know the code for the red mad face or I'd insert it right here.
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GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!?
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Re: My typical vent
They are not always sick. Every.single.day. that SD has been "sick," so has SS. They missed Monday for a "vacation" - according to the school website. Since we had them until Sunday night, I wonder where they went. Lol. I asked them what they did and they said they went to the grocery store. In the past, she's also lightheartedly told us, "Oh yeah, we have ditch days."?
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::deep breaths::?
I had ditch days as a kid. I mean, it wasn't excessive or anything, but I think it's reasonable to let kids stay home now and then. 10 days for the total school yr works out to about once a month... maybe I'm too lax but I don't really see a problem with missing one day a month of school. *shrug*
I also have to say that I was a good student, and always had A's. Had my grades been a problem, my mom probably wouldn't have let me stay home. I was a good kid, though, which is why she cut me slack a little. I'd say 'mom I don't want to go today' and she would let me stay home. If it's effecting the childrens grades I would have a problem with it, but if not, meh...
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I'll give you some backstory, ladies.?
SD is in first grade. She had to repeat kindergarten because she missed 26 days the first year. She was also tardy 26 times.
Last year, in her second year of kindergarten, she missed 12 days and was tardy 20 times.
SD has to go to summer school. Again.?
If SS misses his 15th day, CPS will be called.?
WHAT on earth is your SCHOOL doing about this???
Our kids missed 5 days last semester: 2 sick days - strep and 3 for family vacations and an aunt's wedding - those were all planned.
We STILL got a letter from the principal stating that 5 days missed in a semester is grounds for a finding of truancy, and we could be in trouble, and we should watch our absences. It scared the crap out of me. When I called him, the principal said it is a form letter that is required by law to be sent to all families with 5 absences.
So, my question is, again, what is your school doing?
Shorty, yours are doing well compared to the kiddo. DD had court papers filed by the school a couple weeks ago because kiddo's missed at least five days in one month. Did I fail to mention she missed 28 days on her first report card? And the week between transferring schools when they'd moved from one trailer (park) to another? And at least one day the week that my son was visiting so he didn't get up to make sure she got to school? (Kiddo's comment was "she tried to wake mommy up but she was too lazy." Lovely.) And that DD yelled at her for missing school because it's HER job to make sure she gets up and gets to school?
She's six and in kindergarten by the way.
ETA: Never mind. Read your backstory. We're tied. You'll be in the lead if Kiddo advances, which I think she will anyway because I worked like CRAZY with her to see that she was educated, well-read, advanced, socially prepared, etc. and ready for kindergarten. Problem was, she was supposed to be living with us to make sure the trend continued.
Darn state.
Shorty I would be FURIOUS about that. I am sure you DH has talked to her but what is her reasoning? Does she simply not see a problem with it?
THIS!
But I would think the school would be after her if she lets them do that so much! WOW!!! I'm sorry...
Some added history:
SS is in kindergarten. I'm not sure I mentioned that.?
SD's two years of kindergarten were at a different school in the district. When she moved them to this school, we had a meeting after the first few weeks to talk with their teachers and principal because we wanted to make sure that we were very serious about their schooling.
We warned the principal about BM's past behavior with attendance. She said, "We will send a few letters home. If the absences reach 15, then we'll likely call CPS. I should tell you though that it is unlikely that they will follow up because they have more important cases." She may have even said 15 on a regular basis. Grrr...
DH told BM, "Don't let this be like the last school (who got really frustrated with the absences)." She replied, "If they are sick, I'm not sending them to school." He replied, "We know they ditch. They've told us." She casually laughed and said, "Well, yeah we have to have ditch days."
Umm... Not when SS has 13 absences.?
Oh, and all of these weren't just because they were "sick."?
BM didn't get SS's physical done before the start of the year, even though I repeatedly asked her over the summer if she had done it, so SS was forced to stay home from school for two days.
She's also had them miss because of "Personal Business" meaning her truck didn't start (so why did she move them to the school that could pick them up by bus?). There was a few times where she couldn't find a babysitter for after school, so she thought that having them miss the whole day so she could drop them off with their grandmother who was having a garage sale (meaning the GM couldn't leave to pick them up, but that she could watch them for the day).?
Sorry - Bump vomit...
as I was saying, in high school its fine - but BM is setting those young children up for a lifetime of not liking school, etc. My little niece in first grade LOVES to go to school! She would be so sad if her mom made her stay home to 'dtich'.
Document, document, document Shorty! Good luck!
My stepdaughter had 14 absences as of the beginning of April. The worst it got was in 2006 (4th grade), she had 21 absences.
I know that at schools that I taught at that if they missed 10% of the school year or 9 absences a semester, they could be held back at the discretion of the principal...
Yeah, that's why she got held back her first year of kindergarten. Now, because she's already been held back, the next step would be special education courses instead of being held back...agian. So far, she is just above the requirement for SE.?
The other thing that gets me....
BM is very intelligent. She might not have any common sense, but she is very book smart. She makes fun of people with poor grammar and lack of logic. She is essentially raising her children to become the very people she mocks.?
She is sick.
Agreed.?