Thank you all so very much!

ablou · May 2010

You have helped me thru this very hard day so much. I love and value the support I get from "my ladies."

And to all of the other board-jumpers who replied to my other post (and who made me trek to the dark side of The Nest): Stick out tongue

JinglesChic · May 2010

I PPH you Ablou!

JaysonandKristin · May 2010

We totally dig you Ablou - hate to see a fellow Bumpie in distress! GL with DH, we're totally pulling for you!

itkatydid@gmail.com · May 2010

Ablou, I think that you are handling the best that you can right now. It is obviously a shock to you and you don't needing anyone judging you.

I have said it before, I don't think all the girls on the nest understand how having a baby bonds you together. Not only is he your husband but he is LO's papa and there is no divorcin' that. I know you and your DH can work this out and you will make the right choices for YOUR family!!

ilovemyprince · May 2010

I don't know what happened, missed the post. But hope everything is okay! Whatever it is, "this too shall pass"

xoxoxo

MrsMammay · May 2010

itkatydid@gmail.com:

Ablou, I think that you are handling the best that you can right now. It is obviously a shock to you and you don't needing anyone judging you.

I have said it before, I don't think all the girls on the nest understand how having a baby bonds you together. Not only is he your husband but he is LO's papa and there is no divorcin' that. I know you and your DH can work this out and you will make the right choices for YOUR family!!

You've got to be freakin kidding me! Indifferent There are plenty of us on the nest that have kids and understand the 'bond'. It's great that the ladies here will put up with all manner of @sshattery because you have a child together, but IMO that doesn't give my H a free pass.

ETA- OP, I wish you luck in your situation. Gambling is a serious addiction and you have a difficult road ahead of you if you choose to stay. I find it ridiculous that the assumption is that nesties don't have kids b/c we wouldn't stay in your situation.

itkatydid@gmail.com · May 2010

MrsMammay:
itkatydid@gmail.com:

Ablou, I think that you are handling the best that you can right now. It is obviously a shock to you and you don't needing anyone judging you.

I have said it before, I don't think all the girls on the nest understand how having a baby bonds you together. Not only is he your husband but he is LO's papa and there is no divorcin' that. I know you and your DH can work this out and you will make the right choices for YOUR family!!

You've got to be freakin kidding me! There are plenty of us on the nest that have kids and understand the 'bond'. It's great that the ladies here will put up with all manner of @sshattery because you have a child together, but IMO that doesn't give my H a free pass.

I said "ALL the girls" if you can read correctly some obviously some might understand but not all of nesties understand. How can you understand an experience that you do not have? Eitherway, its okay to bash the crap out of the bumpies by calling us bumptards and such and I can't say that all of you don't understand our bond. ummm... okay.

jkylie · May 2010

i still want to respond to you...I leave work in about 2 hrs. maybe i'll message you on fb.

You two will get through it, and youll be stronger for it too.

imoan · May 2010

itkatydid@gmail.com:
MrsMammay:
itkatydid@gmail.com:

Ablou, I think that you are handling the best that you can right now. It is obviously a shock to you and you don't needing anyone judging you.

I have said it before, I don't think all the girls on the nest understand how having a baby bonds you together. Not only is he your husband but he is LO's papa and there is no divorcin' that. I know you and your DH can work this out and you will make the right choices for YOUR family!!

You've got to be freakin kidding me! There are plenty of us on the nest that have kids and understand the 'bond'. It's great that the ladies here will put up with all manner of @sshattery because you have a child together, but IMO that doesn't give my H a free pass.

I said "ALL the girls" if you can read correctly some obviously some might understand but not all of nesties understand. How can you understand an experience that you do not have? Eitherway, its okay to bash the crap out of the bumpies by calling us bumptards and such and I can't say that all of you don't understand our bond. ummm... okay.

No, the majority of women with a brain understand that having a child with someone doesn't mean you should allow that person to ruin yours AND your child's life. I don't give a shyt what happens to a doormat who stays with her azzhole husband. I DO care how that awful decision affects her innocent child who had no say in the awful decision. And it will.

itkatydid@gmail.com · May 2010

imoan:
itkatydid@gmail.com:
MrsMammay:
itkatydid@gmail.com:

Ablou, I think that you are handling the best that you can right now. It is obviously a shock to you and you don't needing anyone judging you.

I have said it before, I don't think all the girls on the nest understand how having a baby bonds you together. Not only is he your husband but he is LO's papa and there is no divorcin' that. I know you and your DH can work this out and you will make the right choices for YOUR family!!

You've got to be freakin kidding me! There are plenty of us on the nest that have kids and understand the 'bond'. It's great that the ladies here will put up with all manner of @sshattery because you have a child together, but IMO that doesn't give my H a free pass.

I said "ALL the girls" if you can read correctly some obviously some might understand but not all of nesties understand. How can you understand an experience that you do not have? Eitherway, its okay to bash the crap out of the bumpies by calling us bumptards and such and I can't say that all of you don't understand our bond. ummm... okay.

No, the majority of women with a brain understand that having a child with someone doesn't mean you should allow that person to ruin yours AND your child's life. I don't give a shyt what happens to a doormat who stays with her azzhole husband. I DO care how that awful decision affects her innocent child who had no say in the awful decision. And it will.

seriously... Go the EFF away!

imoan · May 2010

itkatydid@gmail.com:
imoan:
itkatydid@gmail.com:
MrsMammay:
itkatydid@gmail.com:

Ablou, I think that you are handling the best that you can right now. It is obviously a shock to you and you don't needing anyone judging you.

I have said it before, I don't think all the girls on the nest understand how having a baby bonds you together. Not only is he your husband but he is LO's papa and there is no divorcin' that. I know you and your DH can work this out and you will make the right choices for YOUR family!!

You've got to be freakin kidding me! There are plenty of us on the nest that have kids and understand the 'bond'. It's great that the ladies here will put up with all manner of @sshattery because you have a child together, but IMO that doesn't give my H a free pass.

I said "ALL the girls" if you can read correctly some obviously some might understand but not all of nesties understand. How can you understand an experience that you do not have? Eitherway, its okay to bash the crap out of the bumpies by calling us bumptards and such and I can't say that all of you don't understand our bond. ummm... okay.

No, the majority of women with a brain understand that having a child with someone doesn't mean you should allow that person to ruin yours AND your child's life. I don't give a shyt what happens to a doormat who stays with her azzhole husband. I DO care how that awful decision affects her innocent child who had no say in the awful decision. And it will.

seriously... Go the EFF away!

I don't think all people on The Bump are bumptards... but you certainly fit the profile! And smart move having your email address as your screenname. That's brilliant!

Layla116 · May 2010

imoan:
itkatydid@gmail.com:
MrsMammay:
itkatydid@gmail.com:

Ablou, I think that you are handling the best that you can right now. It is obviously a shock to you and you don't needing anyone judging you.

I have said it before, I don't think all the girls on the nest understand how having a baby bonds you together. Not only is he your husband but he is LO's papa and there is no divorcin' that. I know you and your DH can work this out and you will make the right choices for YOUR family!!

You've got to be freakin kidding me! There are plenty of us on the nest that have kids and understand the 'bond'. It's great that the ladies here will put up with all manner of @sshattery because you have a child together, but IMO that doesn't give my H a free pass.

I said "ALL the girls" if you can read correctly some obviously some might understand but not all of nesties understand. How can you understand an experience that you do not have? Eitherway, its okay to bash the crap out of the bumpies by calling us bumptards and such and I can't say that all of you don't understand our bond. ummm... okay.

No, the majority of women with a brain understand that having a child with someone doesn't mean you should allow that person to ruin yours AND your child's life. I don't give a shyt what happens to a doormat who stays with her azzhole husband. I DO care how that awful decision affects her innocent child who had no say in the awful decision. And it will.

Wow. Just wow.

I'm amazed at how many people can judge her situation from reading ONE of her posts. Really, folks? You don't know the whole story. None of us do.

But the very least people could do is offer some sort of encouragement instead of being a judgmental a$shole about it and calling her a doormat. Uncalled for.

Ablou-I've said it before, and I'll say it again: I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. ((Hugs))

ablou · May 2010

imoan:

No, the majority of women with a brain understand that having a child with someone doesn't mean you should allow that person to ruin yours AND your child's life. I don't give a shyt what happens to a doormat who stays with her azzhole husband. I DO care how that awful decision affects her innocent child who had no say in the awful decision. And it will.

Yeah. Because you know me, my husband, and our situation. Take your poisonous attitude and your judgment and crawl back under your nest. A lot of us are IRL friends here & we like to support each other.

jonnygurl76 · May 2010

no matter what anyone says....you do what is best for you and your family! only you know your situation and your DH the best. stay strong mama!

donnycornelius · May 2010

You definitely need the support, which is part of what you got in your post. But you also really, really, really need a plan. And you got advice on that too. I very much hope that your DH puts forth the appropriate effort into rectifying the situation. It'll take time and effort on his part, but I think it's something he needs to do as part of his therapy. Otherwise, he'll just do it again.

I wish you the best of luck.

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