Since we are talking PT a question if your LO is potty trained or going through the process

dirtbikemom · May 2010

Do they understand about using the potty? As in it isn't just about the steps but what is expected to happen once they sit on the potty?

I know these sound like weird questions but Sara has it down where she will pull down diaper or pull up, sit on potty, get toilet paper, wipe and flush the toilet paper but she will never actually go on the potty. I'm thinking she doesn't quite understand what she is supposed to do even though I take her to the bathroom with me and they take her to the bathroom with other girls at school.

jsugrin · May 2010

Hmm that is interesting, so she has never done any business in the potty? Is she able to at all communicate with you about feeling the need to go pee or poop before hand, have you tried the old be naked and when you see her going pee ask her to hold it and run her to the bathroom, or when you see her doing whatever you know means a poop is on the way announcing your going to go poop in the potty and reading books or whatever to her until it comes out?

Andrew definitely got it, he pooped first and it was at 14 months which shocked the hell out of me. He woke up from a nap at Grandpa's house, marched me across the hall, pointed at the bathroom, I asked if he wanted to go in, affirmative, pointed at the toilet, asked if he wanted to sit, affirmative, took off his cloths and let him have at it, he signed book, took hilarious pics of him on the toilet with his book and figured aww nothing, then ::sniff, sniff: OMG there is poop in there.

I'll be really honest about how we got to that point though. The kid never left my side, I BF him on the toilet it started that early. He'd crawl after me and hang out while I did my business and I always explained what was going on, that someday he could decide to pee and poop in the toilet too. As he got older he'd ask to see me pee, so I'd scoot back and let him watch the stream and talk about it very matter of factly (while dying of embarassment inside) and yes the day even came where he wanted to watch me poop and yes I let him. He was fascinated by the fact that just like him that poop came out of momma too. Embarrassed

kittylove · May 2010

We aren't potty training but my neighboor is and he gave me some advice today that I would like to pass on to you, feel free to ignore it.

He pees standing so his son can watch and as he goes says "peeeeeeeeee". He says it is to help him understand what is going to happen.

Not sure what the female equvalent could be because obriously she can't watch you go, but if you are open about bodies in your house maybe just let daddy show her.

Meritage · May 2010

If you are brave enough (I'm not sure I am!), I'd try the 3 day PT method on her. Which basically entails putting her in undies, staying home all day long, and seeing what happens. Will likely result in many accidents, but you'll also likely be able to read her signs for when she has to go and be able to get her on the potty. Especially since she already seems to have comfort with going through all the motions of going.

jsugrin · May 2010

kittylove:
We aren't potty training but my neighboor is and he gave me some advice today that I would like to pass on to you, feel free to ignore it.

He pees standing so his son can watch and as he goes says "peeeeeeeeee". He says it is to help him understand what is going to happen.

Not sure what the female equvalent could be because obriously she can't watch you go, but if you are open about bodies in your house maybe just let daddy show her.

Feel free to ignore me but my advice to you.......when you do start PTing I would NOT recommend that R teach Riley to pee standing up. Andrew has gone through phases where he wants to pee standing up and it is not pretty. He did it at my mom's and we didn't know, she sat down and not only was there pee on the seat, all over the floor and her feet but her arm got all wet and then she realized he had managed to pee all over her shower curtain too, at shoulder height!

Also don't know if you read my response, I'm guessing not because it was long but I totally let Andrew see my pee coming out, helped him a lot. Did it with poop too. Embarrassing but it worked.

dirtbikemom · May 2010

jsugrin:
Hmm that is interesting, so she has never done any business in the potty? Is she able to at all communicate with you about feeling the need to go pee or poop before hand, have you tried the old be naked and when you see her going pee ask her to hold it and run her to the bathroom, or when you see her doing whatever you know means a poop is on the way announcing your going to go poop in the potty and reading books or whatever to her until it comes out?
Andrew definitely got it, he pooped first and it was at 14 months which shocked the hell out of me. He woke up from a nap at Grandpa's house, marched me across the hall, pointed at the bathroom, I asked if he wanted to go in, affirmative, pointed at the toilet, asked if he wanted to sit, affirmative, took off his cloths and let him have at it, he signed book, took hilarious pics of him on the toilet with his book and figured aww nothing, then ::sniff, sniff: OMG there is poop in there.
I'll be really honest about how we got to that point though. The kid never left my side, I BF him on the toilet it started that early. He'd crawl after me and hang out while I did my business and I always explained what was going on, that someday he could decide to pee and poop in the toilet too. As he got older he'd ask to see me pee, so I'd scoot back and let him watch the stream and talk about it very matter of factly (while dying of embarassment inside) and yes the day even came where he wanted to watch me poop and yes I let him. He was fascinated by the fact that just like him that poop came out of momma too.

I think it is the communication that is part of the problem. She can't really communicate about certain things (hunger, thirst, being hot, or cold) and pee is one of the main ones. She doesn't give any ques when is going to go so I can't be on the look out for those as I have tried to figure it out. We are going to work with a behaviorist about this issue. I guess I just see all these kids being PT'd and I want to try with her but I know it might take a lot longer for us.

tri-reader · May 2010

In the beginning Emmy would do that, sit on the potty but not go and we'd reward her. But then after a few times we said we needed to see pee or poo in there in order for her to get her reward. It took a few more times and then she got it.

Perhaps saying you need to see it in there or something along those lines will help her?

Topanga · May 2010

I noticed for Ori, I had to stop putting her in the pull ups and put her in the underwear. Yes, there were a lot of accidents but then she would just not go in her pants until Daddy or Grammy put her in pull ups all day and then we would regress but that helped Ori. The other thing that I want to say is the parents and the child both have to be ready. It is definitely a process and takes time and patience since there is a lot of cleaning up to be done and we constantly had the washer running.

dblhappiness · May 2010

I've been wondering the same thing as I was hoping to get A potty-trained by the summer. I know that they do the same thing at both boys' schools--they all go to the bathroom together and those that will sit on the potty and do their business do...others kinda watch & learn. I have this very question to ask the teachers/behaviorist when I meet with them. I'll let you know if they have some interesting tidbits.

Sorry that I have no real advice---like I've said in earlier posts, S will poop but not pee. A has done it once at school and as far as I know has yet to repeat it.

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