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Babies: 3 - 6 Months
My MIL is getting cut off.
Seriously, I've never had much of a problem with my MIL before DS was born. She lives closer than my parents, and likes to watch DS.
Yesterday, she told DH that she fed DS "part of a fruit bar" (strawberry popsicle thing) when she watched him 2.5 weeks ago. We haven't started solids yet. She knows I don't want him to have it, and she's doing it because she's "grandmaw" and can "spoil him."
This is the third time she's done something against my wishes. The first two times were giving him water, which she's promised not to do anymore. She takes this attitude that "it isn't going to kill him" and "that's how I raised DH and he's fine."
I'm just tired of this. God knows what else she's doing that she hasn't admitted to. Is it petty of me to not allow her to babysit until he gets older/some time has passed?
DS 12/09, Twins EDD 11/11
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Re: My MIL is getting cut off.
It's your child, not hers. She is not abiding by your rules, so I don't think it's unreasonable to not let her watch DS anymore.
Your child. Your rules. Your way.
That whole situation would totally pi$s me off!
If you haven't yet I would have a serious sit-down with her. Tell her that you respect the way she raised her son, but that she needs to respect the decisions you and your DH have made. Then pick your battles...let her have a little "grandma spoiling" and make it clear which lines can't be crossed.
I guess since my MIL doesn't give a flying f*&# about my LO, I can't really relate (we don't see her). I know most people wouldn't agree with me but alot of that stuff is petty. Barring them feeding the baby poison or something they are allergic to - I don't really care.
Then again, I know it's the principle of it and you just don't like her going over your head (not that she is trying to hurt your baby)
Thanks ladies! You make me feel better about it.
I guess I have two major problems with it. 1) What if he had an allergic reaction and we didn't know what she fed him? 2) The first time he tasted fruit, I was not there. I can never get that experience back.
Me: 37
DH: 36
Married: 08-25-07
DS: 11-20-09
Name change alert: Formerly Lisswastaken
oK, I understand better now. Didn't think about that!
Oh I would come unglued! My mil once dipped DS's soother in CHOCOLATE SAUCE and tried to put it in his mouth (he was about 2 months at the time)...I grabbed it from her and wiped it off while giving her the side eye. Seriously? Don't feed the baby!
I think we need signs to hang around their necks so people don't touch them or feed them. It should be common sense!
I plan on being quite particular about what goes into DS's body when we start solids... and a strawberry ice bar would NOT be cool with me AT ALL. There is a reason pedi's tell parents not to give their child strawberries for a while...they can cause quite an allergic reaction! She's lucky nothing happened!
I would not let her watch your DS until he's older...and I would tell her exactly why...that you can't trust her to not feed him anything other than BM/formula.
This--not only did she disregard your wishes, but with a semi-risky food as well! No more babysitting for grandma!
Lurking...please forgive me. I would be pissed. Firstly, if you haven't started solids, a popsicle ISN'T the way to go. AND, water for infants just annoys me to no end. A - they have TINY little tummies and filling them with water, with no nutrients is just wrong. B - Ever heard of water posioning for infants? Come on, grandmas. This just isn't ok.