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Ferber regression question

suprchicysuprchicy
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We started Ferbering DD on Friday night.  Just like the last round a couple weeks ago, she's now regressing again.  I don't get it!  She goes from sleeping 7+ hrs straight for 5 nights in a row to waking and inconsolable.  Now tonight (the same night I called it quits last time), she's up after only being asleep 3 1/2 hrs and has been crying for over an hour, and it doesn't sound like she's going to stop any time soon.

I did ask my pedi about this when I talked to him after the first round and he said to just not go in if she gets worse with checks and stick to my guns, and I"m trying, but when do you just give in?  Last night I did after 1 1/2 hrs and she was still going strong at 4 am, which maybe that is why tonight is worse.  Ugh.   She is all cuddled with her seahorse, but just won't settle.  She's been crankier and clingier the past couple days, not sure if it's related or not. 

Ferber/CIO seems like our only option too, none of the other methods work and I just can't go back to living on 5 hr of broken sleep every night, I'm just starting to actually make progress at work and starting to feel a bit human again for the first time since she was born, she has always been the worst sleeper.  Sadly 5 hr sleep is better than I got the first 4 months.  Did anyone go through anything like this or have any suggestions?

ETA: We're now heading towards 2 1/2 hrs.  I gave in and picked her up at 2 hr, and all she did was wiggle and squirm, so she's back in the crib, crying.   I just don't get it and listening to her is killing me.

2 1/2 hrs and she's out.  Hopefully for the rest of the night.

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Re: Ferber regression question

  • bellevuebride07bellevuebride07
    Leo definitely went through the same sort of thing.  He just didn't catch on very quickly.  I tried ferber at 7ish months and I think now he just wasn't ready.  This time around he has done pretty well.  Last night was the first time he didn't wake up at all and we started about a week ago.  Maybe give yourself a break from it and try again in a month or so.
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  • suprchicysuprchicy

    imagebellevuebride07:
    Leo definitely went through the same sort of thing.  He just didn't catch on very quickly.  I tried ferber at 7ish months and I think now he just wasn't ready.  This time around he has done pretty well.  Last night was the first time he didn't wake up at all and we started about a week ago.  Maybe give yourself a break from it and try again in a month or so.

    Thanks.  I have waiting again in the back of my mind, but the thought of going back to where we were where I could barely function daily is just the last thing I really want to do.  Last time she regressed so quick, it was 2 nights after giving up and she was back up 5x a night and playing 2 hrs at 2am, this was even with cosleeping.  I know that I may just have to bite the bullet, but I really really hope that we can fight through this or something.

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  • MelissaMc22MelissaMc22

    hey you super mom!

     I know this is tough, I cannot even imagine. On one hand, you just hate hearing her cry, on the other, you realize you simply cannot function on such crap sleep.

    I stay stick to it.... at leats a couple more nights, maybe through the weekend and see if you can get her over this hump,

    Also, is there any chance anyone besides you and DH would be willing to do an overnight check in with her?

    For some reason both my boys always sleep better when it's not me.

    I am really hoping it works for you!!

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  • suprchicysuprchicy

    Thanks Melissa! You and sisterkate have been great support through all this, I can't believe how hard it is to do this twice now, and have it going south a second time. 

    I do think I'm going to at least give it through the weekend, see how she does since she did finally go to sleep without me holding her last night.  And I don't have to work all day tomorrow, so maybe I can sneak in a nap in the afternoon after I get home.  I just don't get how she's doing well for several nights and making progress, and then it goes the other way.  

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  • sistrkatesistrkate

    That really sucks, Meredith.  It's gotta be so hard to hear her go on so long.

    I will say that the key to Ferber is consistency, and trying with every fiber in your being to not pick up the baby.  I know that goes against everything you ever thought was right, but she won't learn the self-soothing techniques if you don't.  It sucks.

    We did straight-up CIO with our oldest son.  It was one of the single hardest things I have ever done.  It was 2 years ago and I don't know how we ever got through it, but somehow we did......and he is the best sleeper ever.  He can sleep through anything.

    Is it possible that Brooke is ill, like an ear infection or something?  Tyler's showing signs that he might have one and that would certainly help explain sleep disruption.

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  • vmichaelivmichaeli member
    This is exactly what I am going through! We did the Ferber method at 6 months and after 3 days, our little one finally slept through the night. Except, he too regressed and every night is something different now. Ferber is the only thing that helped us but it is still a mess some nights!
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