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speaking of sex...are you having it

kellbranckellbranc member
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My DH and I typically have a very healthy sex life. When we were TTC for 8 months we had LOTS and LOTS of it. Now since getting my BFP last week I feel like he just isn't into it. Granted Im WIPED OUT at night. However, we've only had it once and I feel like he is so timid. I don't know if he thinks he will disrupt the baby or if he doesn't view me as sexy since Im KU.

anyone else in this boat?

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  • hjk5000hjk5000 member
    Still no post BFP sex here Sad
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  • mchupiemchupie member

    LOL!

    We've had sex once since our BFP last Thursday.  I could see us going once a week from here on out...I'm just so tired!

    We used to be 3-4 times a week.

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  • soontobemrsihlesoontobemrsihle
    your full sex drive comes back around 12 weeks!!!!  This is your first baby right??? Lots of men feel this way, and then with you wiped out, it makes him even more standoffish (word?)...talk to him! and wait for first tri to be over!!!! Hang in there, because everything is just new for him!
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  • mchupiemchupie member

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    Still no post BFP sex here Sad

    Go jump on it right now! Big Smile

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  • Jennileeb1680Jennileeb1680
    weve had sex twice since BFP on 4/22. DH is afraid of having sex with me - and i dont feel sexy at all! No
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  • Jennileeb1680Jennileeb1680
    weve had sex twice since BFP on 4/22. DH is afraid of having sex with me - and i dont feel sexy at all! No
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  • JenL12345JenL12345 member
    No post BFP sex here either...but it's me who doesn't want to have it, not until my first ultrasound with a strong heart beat.  I know sex can't cause a m/c but after my first m/c I'm not risking it! (please do not listen to me, have lots of sex if you want to, your LO will be fine, i'm just crazy)
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  • MrsPreKMrsPreK
    We have sex 3-4 times a week. Still going strong here - usually being pg had no adverse effects of me not wanting it. LOL.
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  • jennim1984jennim1984
    We haven't had sex since before our egg retrieval for this IVF cycle. So it's been a couple months :( I'm a little scared also, and the desire is just not there.
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  • jenescortjenescort

    My DH can't keep his hands off me since we got our BFP. My libido is definately lacking with being so tired but I give it my best to keep DH happy, even though he completely understands when I won't. We are still going strong 3-4 times per week.

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  • izzourclueizzourclue member
    I am sure he thinks you are still very sexy.  He probably just doesn't know if you are in the mood or not and doesn't want to push anything.  He's probably just waiting for the Yes from you.  He also might be a little concerned with poking the baby.  Just tell him that's were dimples come from Smile
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  • Nicole0012Nicole0012 member

    imageJennileeb1680:
    weve had sex twice since BFP on 4/22. DH is afraid of having sex with me - and i dont feel sexy at all! No

    This. Only, we haven't had sex at all since our BFP almost 4 weeks ago! I've helped him out in other ways, but we're just not clicking in that area. I'm glad to hear it gets better in 2nd tri!

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  • usmctankerwifeusmctankerwife

    We found out Sunday and have had sex every single night since ... since we found out he cant keep his hands off me and is very loving!

     I feel bloated and fat and all that stuff and I'm tired because I work full time but it feels nice to be loved on and wanted too!

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  • JoannaJesJoannaJes member
    No sex in this champagne room. OB recommended it since I've been spotting.
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  • Fairy kissesFairy kisses
    imageusmctankerwife:

    We found out Sunday and have had sex every single night since ... since we found out he cant keep his hands off me and is very loving!

     I feel bloated and fat and all that stuff and I'm tired because I work full time but it feels nice to be loved on and wanted too!

    My DH is the same way Im so glad that isnt scared or timid about the whole thing we still have a very healthy sex life.

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  • nygirl07nygirl07 member
    My DH has also bee extremely lovey dovey since our BFP....but with that we've had sex twice since my BFP on Friday.
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  • NicavesaniNicavesani
    No sex bc I'm bleeding... booooo
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  • DaisyCakes18DaisyCakes18
    We're averaging about once a week right now...between being so tired/nauseous/constipated/bloated/etc, it's hard to get in the mood! I was up for it this evening but ended up falling asleep on the couch before DH came home and then he had a meeting to go to, so I'm hoping I feel up to it tomorrow for him!
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  • MrsDe2008MrsDe2008 member
    Sex? What's sex? lol Yea...we haven't had much since our BFP. DH started working nights a few weeks back, so that has put a dent in it, but also 'cause my boobs are killing me most of the time and I was getting cramps for awhile. He'd want it everyday...me?...once a month is fine. lol I hope that changes soon...
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  • aftrowbridgeaftrowbridge
    aw honey, wait until the big pregnancy boobs kick in. he won't be able to keep his hands off of you!
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  • naughty_02_01naughty_02_01
    Me and my DH hada very healthy sex life before the BFP, then everytime we had sex early on I would bleed, so we were cautious and were only doing it once a week maybe, which was SOOOOOO sad to me cause I like sex!! LOL but he was afraid, but since we've passed that problem and haven't spotted in a few weeks...daily sex is BACK ON!!! LOL we just have to plan it early in the evening cause I still get wiped out by 10p..lol but yea my sex drive is definatly back since i've hit late 11weeks and now 12 weeks.
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  • hotmama82hotmama82

    FINALLY did it last night for the first time since TTC. After going at it for a week straight, I ended up with a bladder infection, then flu. Then we found out and both of us are slightly nervous. I had low progesterone w/ my first and put on "pelvic rest" and so we're afraid it might happen again. PLUS, I can't stay awake at night!

    It's sad that instead of initiating it early enough, I'm instead bumping. Hehe

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  • Fryday37Fryday37 member
    i havent had sex in over a monthIndifferent ugh! pelvic rest=total sexual frustration
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  • rayaraya

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    Still no post BFP sex here Sad

    Same here. No interest at all. 

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  • kellbranckellbranc member

    imageJoannaJes:
    No sex in this champagne room. OB recommended it since I've been spotting.

    hhaha this made me crack up

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  • Millie07Millie07

    Nothing since the start of April when we conceived. I just have NO sex drive at all and I feel like a total cow. Plus the thought of him getting anywhere near my boobs right now makes me cringe. I did take care of him in the shower this morning but he always likes to point out: "You know half of my sexual satisfaction comes from pleasuring you".  I just said "I DON"T WANT TO BE PLEASURED RIGHT NOW!!!"

    Super Angry 

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