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Stress or PPD

2babyboysmommy2babyboysmommy
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I have a 2 year old and a 2 1/2 month old.. it is hard, I thougth it would be easier, much easier... I struggle.... I cry sometimes, few times a week.. my 2 year old has tantrums, and my 2 1/2 month old has totally different needs and crys for other reasons... I sometimes feel that I do it all.. My DH is a great father, but I feel that I take on most of the responsibility and have more patience than he does, so I end up just doing it.. I wake up in the midle of the night and do the feedings because i am light sleeper and it is easier for me to feed him and have LO sleep on me on the couch, rather than wake up my hubby and have me up the entire time..he tells me to wake him ujp, but its just not worth it and not worth the arguing in the middle of the night..

I know I am overtired, and kind of resentful that I do it all.. So I do cry, and get overwhelmed...Is it just cause of the stress of having 2 that have totally different needs and that I am just taking on too much or is this PPD? I didnt think it would be and still dont, but reading more stories on here... who knows, it could be.. I am definetely sadder at times and always have been a happy person always! , but it is more being angry with DH internally and resentful cause i am doing so much to keep this house/kids in order.. Maybe I need to get over that, in order to feel myself again? I know I need to talk to him and we try to talk but it ends up in an argument because either i get resentful (example: I get up 2x a night with LO.. he doesnt but then the next morning he complains he is tired. I get pissed and roll my eyes A LOT because I think how dare he! I was the one who got up!... thats just one example)

Advice please!!!! thanks for listening!

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Re: Stress or PPD

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    If you feel like it might be PPD I would talk to your doctor. Depression is a natural reaction to stress, but its beyond the point of control at that point. After I started meds, it was extremely clear to me how much sleep I wasn't getting for me, and I've taken steps to get more. I'm glad i was on the meds though because my brain was fried and I couldn't be normal anymore. Thats how I describe it anyway. I definitely wouldn't just write everything off as "just stress". That's like calling eczema "just dry skin". You might not want to opt for meds though and talk to a counselor instead. Imo, crying a few times a week is not normal. GL!

     

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  • 2babyboysmommy2babyboysmommy
    Thank you very much for your advice!
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  • karagirlykaragirly
    OMG you ARE me! Im going through the SAME thing. 2 month old and 2 1/2 yr old with terrible tantrums and bad behavior and yes in NJ LOL. It is sooo hard! I do not think it is PPD anymore...i think its anxiety and some depression. Doc is prescribing me zanax so hopefully that will take the edge off. I feel like im upset and sometime angry at times. it makes me feel guilty cause since the baby my attention towards my almost 3 yr old is dwindling and i feel sad.
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