nttgpr: i'm so upset right now :(

barcelonagirl · May 2010

am i overreacting? please tell me if i am.

ok. so in the fall my cousin and i decided to plan a family picnic for chicago in june. we went back in forth with the date and ended up selecting june 26. we figured if we sent out emails in january that would give people ample notice for the picnic. fine.

dh has known about this since january.

so last weekend my fil mentions that he's planning a family picnic at his house for that same weekend but on sunday- wtf? i was speechless. i knew this would not end well.

dh just called. he spoke to his dad and since his dad told some out of state relative who have booked flights they can't move the date. dh's compromise is to fly out of chicago w/o me sunday morning to attend his family's shin-dig.

i'm disappointed. i'm annoyed and angry. ugh. why couldn't they have asked first?

red1976 · May 2010

how inconsiderate. and they told other family in time for them to book flights before they even told their son???? that doesn't sound right to me. i would be pissed.

elizjane26 · May 2010

No, I would be pissed.

jesskidd · May 2010

Honestly I would be annoyed too, especially since you have been planning this as long as you have. (If it were my in-laws they would schedule on the same weekend on purpose.) I know I would want to tell MH that he should stay with me the whole weekend, but I can see the dilemma of looking like a beotch. I hope it works out for you!! GL!!

stepp1010 · May 2010

You have every right to be upset

TiDa2009 · May 2010

It's unfortunate but I don't think it's anything to be mad about. People can't plan things for everyone they intend to invite otherwise families would never get together.

Like I said, it's unfortunate you can't go, but it's great that your DH is finding a way to attend both.

rrcraz7 · May 2010

I feel your pain. My in-laws rarely acknowlege the fact that I even have family when it comes to events.

It was a pretty crappy thing to do but at the same time at least your DH is willing to go with you to your family party. A lot of people wouldn't try to do both (in my experience).

I hope it works out for you guys!

barcelonagirl · May 2010

jesskidd:

Honestly I would be annoyed too, especially since you have been planning this as long as you have. (If it were my in-laws they would schedule on the same weekend on purpose.) I know I would want to tell MH that he should stay with me the whole weekend, but I can see the dilemma of looking like a beotch. I hope it works out for you!! GL!!

that's it in a nutshell. deep in my heart i know he's going and it's probably the "right" thing to do (dh lost his mom last fall and needs to be there for fil) but, i can't help feeling angrypisseddisappointedsad.

GideonsMom · May 2010

Ugg I would be annoyed.

My MIL did something similar last week. She sent out an email to the whole family saying "I thought it would be great if we had everyone over to the house for DHs birthday"..on his birthday! Without even asking me. I'm like ok sure because I didnt have plans for my own husbands birthday.

Sometimes I think they just dont think...or just dont care one.

Temp356619000002780 · May 2010

I would be pissed too. I hate when people forget that others have a life too and plans... My Exes Family was like this, and still is when it comes to MS.

mbh10220 · May 2010

red1976:
how inconsiderate. and they told other family in time for them to book flights before they even told their son???? that doesn't sound right to me. i would be pissed.

This

TDFS · May 2010

red1976:
how inconsiderate. and they told other family in time for them to book flights before they even told their son???? that doesn't sound right to me. i would be pissed.

This!

barcelonagirl · May 2010

i'm all teary too. i need a drink

niceybee05 · May 2010

That really sucks girl.

I would be pretty pissed especially since they waited to tell your DH last minute..that seems pretty shaddy...but It's great he is trying to make it work. Vent-Relax-Enjoy. Don't let this ruin the fun...

kmadsen2004 · May 2010

jesskidd:

Honestly I would be annoyed too, especially since you have been planning this as long as you have. (If it were my in-laws they would schedule on the same weekend on purpose.) I know I would want to tell MH that he should stay with me the whole weekend, but I can see the dilemma of looking like a beotch. I hope it works out for you!! GL!!

This exactly.

ishka338 · May 2010

This sounds totally like DH's family. I would be mad too. I am a big planner, so when people do things like this, it makes me mad.

steff13914 · May 2010

I'd be upset too! It seems like this happens a lot when you get married though. My family and DH's family seem to have events on the same weekend a lot, but what can you do? They think their events are just as important, so you have to compromise. It does suck though!