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Would you take 2 y.o. to nice restaurant?

(sorry, iPhone, no paragraphs) I think it's a terrible idea. The ILs want us all to go to a nice (it's 4 or 5 star, white tablecloth) restaurant for Mothers Day brunch. It's also a 1.5 hr drive for us each way (ILs live close to the restaurant). They asked for the same thing on Easter and we said no, and DH was supposed to say the true reason--DS would probably make a scene. Sometimes he screams and throws food. No problem at a casual family restaurant, I just smile, apologize, and whisk him away while DH gets the food packed up. But at a fancier place, it just seems rude to take a child with a 50% chance of meltdowns. Not to mention the fact that it won't be fun or relaxing for ME on mothers day to be on guard the whole time. But I always seem to have excuses for not going along with their plans. Though given our concerns last time, why ask us again? He is STILL a typical toddler, hasn't learned table manners overnight. WWYD?
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Re: Would you take 2 y.o. to nice restaurant?

  • I completely agree with you.  I wouldn't want to do it.  That said, my in laws insist on doing this at least once a year.  We sit in the bar area, where it is usually noisier anyway and just make it work.  It's not fun though.
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  • In general, no, I would not take a two year old to a nice restaurant.  However last Mother's Day we went to a fancy brunch at a nice restaurant with DD and it was just fine.  The place was swarming with little kids since it was Mother's Day.  However, if you don't think it'd be any fun for you since you'd be the one dealing with his meltdown, maybe suggest an alternate plan somewhere more casual.
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  • I agree too. I don't think it would be a good idea, but you should just tell them and maybe they would understand and descide to go somewhere else that is more suitable.
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    I agree with you.  There is no way I would take my DS to a nice restaraunt like that.  Like you said, it's the farthest thing from relaxing and enjoyable for me.  It stresses me out.  I don't blame you at all.
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  • I would definitely NOT take DS to such a restaurant. We can barely take him to kid-friendly restaurants, and going out to eat with him is stressful no matter where we go (incl. other peoples homes). In your case I would simply say 'no thank you', send MIL a nice flower bouquet, and enjoy your own Mothers day.
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  • I probably would not.  But DS is pretty good at resturants, so it might depend on the actual resturant.

    If you can't get out of it, can you make MIL in charge of LO?  :)  and LO sit by her?  So that she can see that it isn't easy.  (or is that too much?)  :)  You could also call the resturant and ask them to honestly tell you if it is an OK atmosphere for a 2 yo.  Or ask MIL if you can make the reservation and then request a table out of the main area, or in a little noiser spot.

    ILs took us to a fancy place but it was when DS was still on finger foods.  He behaved fine (the resturant was pretty dead though) but he left a pretty big mess.  DH slipped the waiter an extra tip for it. 

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  • I would have taken my oldest at 2 but my youngest?  NO WAYY!!!

    You know him best.

    Stick to your guns! 

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  • In our case, yes and we have.  In your case, based on what you described, no.

    DH and I know that our 2 y.o. will behave and almost always does when we go out to eat.  For this reason we have taken both our kids to many fancy restaurants.  We even have had crappy service because our idiot waiter assumed that he was stuck with a table with a brat.  When our 2 y.o. was so well behaved that a gentleman from another table came over and commented on how well behaved our children were I felt vindicated and wanted to tell our waiter to suck it.  Anyway, sorry for the rant.  :)

    If you know that your child has a history of misbehaving at a restaurant then I would say it is not a good idea to go to a fancy restaurant with them.  Better to avoid unnecessary headaches.

  • Joseph goes everyplace with us. He's eaten in some of the best restaurants in Pittsburgh and Philly. We've never really had a problem.

    I think a kid has to have opportunities to know how to behave in a situation, or he's never going to be prepared. And Mother's Day? That's going to be a kid-heavy environment.

     

  • If it doesn't have a kids menu that is a hint by the establishment that it is not meant for small kids.  The nicest we do w/Harm is places like Red Lobster.  I would be aghast to be sitting at a $50 a plate or more restaurant and have a tot SCREAMING out of thier lungs next to me.
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  • I think the atmosphere at a Sunday Mother's Day brunch is going to be much different from a Friday or Saturday dinner.  I'm sure it's more casual and there will be tons of kids.  We take DS everywhere, to casual restaurants to fancy jacket and tie only clubs.  He's gotten used to how to behave.  Bring some quiet toys, coloring books, heck if you get really desperate, have some of his favorite shows on your iPhone.
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    On a normal night at dinner time - no.  For Mother's day brunch, yes.  Or if at night but early - like 5pm.  I just go prepared with books, crayons, and my iphone if necessary.  We are going to a nice brunch with my family including two toddlers and a child.  I expect us not to be the only one, no big deal, imo.  As long as if when he gets out of hand, you know when to stand up and remove him from the situation.

  • For Mother's Day brunch?  Yes, because I'd assume other mothers and kids would be there, too.  For dinner?  No.  When I go to a nice restaurant I don't want to hear other people's kids, so I assume they don't want to hear mine, either.
  • Thanks for the advice! I do try to dine out with him often as practice, but he acts very young for his age. He is speech delayed, and I think that really ups the frustration level, especially when food is involved.
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  • I would call the place and ask about the brunch. Ask them if they will have kid friendly food, etc. If you think there will be a lot of other young kids there, go for it. See if you can get DH or MIL to "be in charge" of him, too. =)
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