Update
We came home yesterday!
My MIL came down yesterday to help. Technically, I was supposed to be in the nursery at all times because I was the only banded person and I could have one visitor. But the night nursing staff was so much nicer, so they let us take shifts with my MIL.
The doctor came in the following morning and agreed to release us. He asked me to follow up with my pedi the next morning. While I didn't agree with his protocol, I'm extremely thankful that he listed to DH and me about what we wanted. He was reluctant but ultimately, agreed with us. He was a bit gloom and doom though, especially at the end when he started down the FAS road. Nice note to leave on.
The nurse I had an issue with is another story. She was in the morning we got released and she shot me dirty looks the whole morning. She made the whole room tense. I know she said some not nice things about me too during the nurse shift change, because one of the other nurses started ignoring us too. I will be contacting the hospital admin about her behavior, because I've never felt so uncomfortable or like a bad person for advocating for my son. She was about 30 weeks pregnant and I wanted to ask her how she would feel if this was her child.
Honestly though, we were extremely respectful. Just because I question how you do things or suggested treatments doesn't make me a bad person/mother.
We went to our own pedi today who said that C was great. Honestly, great. When I questioned all of the "symptoms," he said that they are all things babies do. He is healthy, and the extent of his w/d is tremors. He's not fussy (except when he's hungry or has a dirty diaper). He's alert, snuggly and an all around good baby. When I asked about the phenabarbitol treatment they pressed, he just kind of brushed it off and agreed that they treat a different kind of patient typically. And he has handled lots of methadone exposed babies.
I appreciate all of your support. We're so happy to be home.
And let me know where to send the cookies and cocktails 
Re: Update
So happy that you are finally home! I'm glad you were able to convince the doctor to agree with you. I think we all kind of do that thing where we are given certain info (like this baby has had drug exposure), and we see things that aren't really there. Glad to hear your new pedi agrees that your new son is perfectly healthy! Enjoy your bonding inside the comfort of your own home!
Congratulations again!
TTC since May 2006. After 3 failed Clomid cycles, 2 failed Injectibles/IUIs, 2 failed IVFs and 1 failed FET, we moved on to adoption!
Last ditch FET resulted in BFP, and identical twin girls!
We ran into lots of hospital staff during our 5 day stay that were blatantly rude to us and a few of them made anti-adoption remarks to us/about us.
I would bet good money that the nurse's attitude toward you all involved the fact that this was an adoption.
So glad your baby is home and safe.
As a nurse, please give your hospital feedback. Unfortunately not all hospitals have "kept up with the times" with diverse populations with diverse needs. Hospitals need to know that their staff was not professional.
On a brighter note, congratulations on the baby!!! Enjoy your time with C.
fantastic! ?I am happy to read you guys are done with the hospital. ?When you have time, make sure to follow up with the administration about how the staff handled your family. ?Maybe next time they will have greater respect for concerned parents/adoptive families (whatever set that nurse off).
I'm thrilled to hear you are out of there and have had a great appt with your pedi! I hope you get to settle in and enjoy your new son! Congrats!!
Congrats on all of it! Enjoy your snuggles.
I will repeat what everyone else has said...but will say don't let time pass before filing a complaint with the admin. They need to know exactly how you feel at this moment, not a month from now. I know this could be difficult with a newborn but still try to do it now rather than later. I think you should bring up the nurse AND the doctor, even though the doctor ended up releasing you, they should still know about him trying to force you to do something you weren't comfortable with.
"Just keep swimming, just keep swimming..."