Sister in law overstepping or not? Opinions needed!!!

Bennifer1027 · October 2008

My sister-in-law called the other day (we don't typically get along) and informed me that she bought us a bedding set for the nursery!!! (I am only 8 weeks!!!) It was on clearance at Target for $35 and she thought that it was neutral and a good deal! I can't PIP but it is "Blue Dot" by Tiddliwinks at Target. It is really cute and modern but do you think that it is neutral enough? Ben really likes it and I am on the fence. I don't know if it is the fact that I wanted to pick out my own bedding and nursery and was thinking about more traditional than modern, the fact that we don't get along and I feel like she is crossing the line or what? Am I being irrational or what do you think? If you looked at it, is it neutral enough for a girl?

LovesGreenBay · October 2008

That is random!! Maybe she's just really excited for you and saw this great deal. I don't know. Weird.

I guess I would say keep it if you think it's kind of cute and if you end up having a girl just tell her it's not girly enough.

ncsubride · October 2008

I would go with your gut; if you love it then use it. If you don't love it then sell it on Craigs List or at a consignment shop and use the money towards bedding you really love. I associate it more with a little boy but if you use lots of pink accents I bet it would look cute. You are def. not being irrational, picking out the bedding for our babies was a special thing for us and I would not have wanted someone else doing it for us.

Kerri

YukonC · October 2008

I do think that is overstepping her bounds. Bedding is a very personal thing and I also agree that it isn't that neutral. I would ask her to return it and wait until you pick something out you like if she just really wants to buy bedding for you.

moniquitta · October 2008

I would be happy about it... treat it as a secondary option. Babies often get sick in the middle of the night and need a 2nd set. It's always good to have 2 if you can.

KatieLM · October 2008

I do think she is overstepping but that her heart was in the right place. Maybe you can use it as alternative when the main bedding is being washed.

LovesGreenBay · October 2008

I was going to say too that you could take that set to day care. We got an extra comforter thing at my shower for DS and we used it at day care.

dr.girlfriend · October 2008

That is really weird. If anything, she should have called you when she saw it was on sale to see if you like it. I would be b*tchy and tell her you're picking out your own bedding even if you love it!

jenniesue · October 2008

I would feel the same way. I want to pick out my own bedding. But, you could always accept it and keep it as a backup maybe?

farmwife · October 2008

Personally, I would be upset if someone bought me bedding without consulting me. I'm sure she meant well, but I agree that picking out the bedding for your baby is something you should get to do yourself. Since it was on clearance, I'm guessing you can't have her return it. Maybe just keep it as a 'second' set, just in case? Or just tell her you appreciate the thought, but that you were kind of hoping to pick out the bedding yourself, and you had a different type in mind. Then let her do what she wants with it, either give it to you anyway or try to return it, sell it, etc.

Daisy22 · October 2008

I would be upset if a family member picked out a bedding for my baby's nursery. That's for me and dh to do and no one else. It's actually the thing I'm most looking forward to. So for me she stepped over the line.

JennR · October 2008

Why do people go stupid when there is a baby involved? Who would think "oh, I know, I'll pick out someone else's bedding for their baby and then they can design the whole room around MY choice" That's crap. I'd be ticked. It would be one thing if she bought you, say, some onsies or a book or something, but bedding? no. That's crazy. Buy her a comforter for her bed and let you know that you think it's a great deal so you just had to buy it for her!! (just kidding of course...)

steve&heather · October 2008

She's excited to be an aunt, don't make her regret that by being snarky.

No one said you have to design the nursery around the bedding anyway. Furthermore, no one has said that you'll need to use the bumper, ruffle or any of the extra stuff from the set either. If she gets upset that you didn't use the color scheme in the bedding tough. When she has a baby, she can use it for their nursery.

I used all different color sheets on DD's bed (yep, even blue). I was more concerned about having enough cleaning bedding than what color it was (because it really sucks donkey balls to have a 2 am blowout then discovering you have no clean bedding and have to do laundry).

nellieboo · October 2008

I love it, but for a boy. I think it's a little wierd she bought it for you though, I'd want to pick out my own. I don't think you're being irrational at all!

vls80 · October 2008

People do weird things! I would keep it, and use it as a backup, or at someone else's house. Definitely pick out what you love, and don't feel obligated to use what she got you. Believe it or not, we had someone buy us a bedding set when I was pg w/ DD. I was already registered for what I wanted, but they found a great deal, and thought it was cute. I thought it was hideous...lol!! It was one of MIL"s friends....I told her thanks, that we had one for our house picked out, but that it would be perfect for the crib at MIL's house. She was not at all offended, and I didn't feel bad.

Want a personalized experience?

Sister in law overstepping or not? Opinions needed!!!

Re: Sister in law overstepping or not? Opinions needed!!!

Choose Another Board

Search Boards