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2nd Trimester
DH missing the birth?
So, I posted a few days ago about how we're moving out of state the week of my big u/s... and I have to go to a new doctor and wait to extra weeks for my u/s.
Well.
DH just found out that his job is now going to require him to travel, out of state, for up to 4 days at a time. Which means... he could be 800 miles away when I go into labor... and could miss the birth. This kills both of us, but he can't just quit his job, or anything like that. His boss is going to work with him of course, but there's only so much you can plan for since you don't know when your going into labor in advance.
Does anyone else have this issue? How did you/do you deal? What's your plan?
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Re: DH missing the birth?
I have quite a few friends whose husbands travel a lot for their jobs. The way they do it is a tiered paternity leave...as you get close to the end of your pregnancy he still works, but locally at the office or at home. He does conference calls and online meetings the last couple of weeks. Then he is there for the birth, and he takes as much time as he can at home, then works locally for a few days, then it's back on the road!
If things go well your doc will be monitoring you by the week toward the end, and you can communicate with DH about how things are looking so he can schedule accordingly. Of course the unexpected can happen, but this seems like the way to plan. Good luck!
DH travels for work, but will stop when I'm 36 weeks. I travel for work too and will stop when I'm 34 weeks.
He should talk to his employer and see what they have to say.
I would say this. I dont know how you feel about it though.
Will they do an induction if your not past your due date tho?
It depends on your Dr. My friend and SIL were "sick" of being pregnant and their Dr (same guy) enduced a week before. My Dr. said she would be comfortable enducing if my BP was high at 39 weeks as well so Id at least ask... couldnt hurt right?
If it helps to know, my father was in Edmonton, Canada, when my mother went into labor here in Virginia. This was of course long before the age of cell phones, so his office had to scramble to track him down up there. Long story short, he was found, his office arranged a red-eye flight for him back to the States, and he was in the hospital when I was born.
Fear not - you said yourself that his boss is working with him, and clients will understand. As soon as you go into labor, call him, and every reasonable effort will be made to get him back home. I'm sure it will work out!
This exactly. I would not consider elective induction just for this situation. It can lead to so many more issues that you're better off avoiding. It sounds like his work will be as flexible as possible, and you will likely have plenty of advanced warning which will allow him to travel home in time. Good luck!
MH travels for work alot. What he's done is limit travel to 3 hours away (by car) for the month before I'm due. He has to get all his long distance travel done before that (his job is flexible enough that he can plan ahead).
Would your H be able to do that?
My fiance most likely wont be around for the birth of our son. Hes in the Marines and will be in Florida at the time. Hopefully he can get a few days leave but we doubt it. Hes just going to try and get home as soon as he can...
Theres really nothing that we can do, it really sucks though.
My friend was able to have it done. Her BF was working in Georgia but they live in Michigan. He had a week off and would be home and she was around 38 weeks so her Dr did it. It can take longer (because your body isn't naturally ready for it).