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I hate my IL's

ABColeslawABColeslaw member
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And I'm not just saying it cause I'm mad.  I think I offiicially hate them.  I've never liked my FIL.  Mostly because hes awful to his son.  Because DH hasn't met certain criteria....his father has told him he is a dissapointment and doesn't want anything to do with him.  That criteria being he doesn't yet outright own his own home and that he has a car load instead of owning outright his car.  Keeping in mind that we're not even 30 yet and have only been married under a year.  Anyway, since hes so disspointed in his son, FIL has refused to do a couple things that I feel are relationship enders.  First off, he didn't come to our wedding....didn't agree that we should spent money on a wedding when we have car payments.  I paid for my wedding by myself....its something I wanted and I paid for it with no help from anyone...so I feel its non of FIL's business and certainly not something to stop seeing your son over.  Since the wedding he has refused to talk to DH and never once said anything to him about the pregnancy.  Now that Asher is here, he has refused to see him or even acknowledge his existence.  We were at a wake last weekend and we ran into neighbors of FIL and MIL and they were shocked we had a baby....they are pretty close to my IL's....apparently Asher must be an embarrassment...because they didn't even mention it to thier close neighbors of like 50 plus years. 

Anyway, FIL is an a-hole and I've accepted that.  But MIL has been playing victim the whole time and we've felt really bad for her.  She has gone on and on about how important the baby is and how she doesn't want to be left out because her husband is a jerk.  Well Asher is almost three weeks old and shes only seen him once.  DH's aunt dragged her to the hospital to visit when he was born.  MIL wasn't going to come to visit him, so DH"s aunt got angry and forced her to come.  Well since Asher has been born, we haven't gotten any emails from her asking how he is, she hasn't responded to any of the updates we've sent, and we've been out to visit other family members 3 times and not been able to get in contact with her to visit.  Its like she doesn't want to see the baby....all this after she was adamant that she not be left out.  Shes also a friend of mine on facebook and she never comments on the pictures or updates...I even tag her in them.  Sigh, I'm starting to get pissed off and I can't help but take it personally.  It makes me sad for Asher.  But most of all, it hurts me for DH.  His parents are awful and I know it makes him feel not good enough. 

All this because we don't have enough money to buy a house and pay off our cars. 

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Re: I hate my IL's

  • ParadisePrincessParadisePrincess
    Man, I feel terrible for your DH tooSad My DH's dad has yet to meet our daughter either. He was all excited about her until she got here and now it's like he fell off the face of the earth!
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  • ABColeslawABColeslaw member
    thats sad!  You know, I look at Asher and can't help but think, someday this little guy will have babies....and you know....nothing would be able to keep me away.  I don't know why people act the way they do. 
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    PCOS, Progesterone Deficiency Disorder, Multiple Miscarriage
    Clomid, Metformin, Ovadril, PIO, P17 Iron/Platlet Tranfusion

    My Spring Babies! 
    <3 Angel Baby   Elisabeth Adelle  April 2008 <3
    Asher Benjamin  April 2010
    Lola Aisling  May 2014
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  • ParadisePrincessParadisePrincess
    Absolutely. I just try to see it as he is the one missing out. LO has tons of family and friends that love her. Keep your head up dear, things can only get better!
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  • MCC1010MCC1010 member
    Yeah your FIL is a jerk. A huge freaking jerk. I would delete your MIL as a friend on FB. If she isn't interested in her grandson then it is her loss. The 3 of you deserve a lot better than that.
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  • rodgersonmummarodgersonmumma

    imageMCC1010:
    Yeah your FIL is a jerk. A huge freaking jerk. I would delete your MIL as a friend on FB. If she isn't interested in her grandson then it is her loss. The 3 of you deserve a lot better than that.

    ditto this. You love your son, DH loves his son. If they dont want to be a part of it then F them! All that little guy needs is you and his daddy. Its IL's loss for being that way.

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  • RadicalDreamer143RadicalDreamer143 member
    imageMCC1010:
    Yeah your FIL is a jerk. A huge freaking jerk. I would delete your MIL as a friend on FB. If she isn't interested in her grandson then it is her loss. The 3 of you deserve a lot better than that.


    This.  Screw these people.
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