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How can he think it's ok to sit in his own poop all day?

mommyof4boysmommyof4boys member
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*Banging head on wall*Matthew's refusing to tell us when he's had an accident.  He sat in his own poop since 2:30 today!  I could smell someone and blamed it on Chris who had been saying he had to poop.  Instead my 4 year old had a turd in his underwear.....I don't know what more to do?  I cleaned him up matter-of-factly, yelled at him, ignored him until he told me, but I'm running out of ideas.  I am at a loss!  I really want to cry.  I don't understand how he could be comfortable like this?
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Re: How can he think it's ok to sit in his own poop all day?

  • breezy0629breezy0629 member
    He's about 10 mo older than my son. When was he potty trained prior to this and for how long?
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  • mommyof4boysmommyof4boys member
    He's been potty trained since LAST JANUARY!  This poop issue started in August and hasn't resolved itself.
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  • andreas4dogsandreas4dogs
    Is Matthew on the autism spectrum? I was reading in this ASD potty-training book I have and that some children like the sensation of sitting in poop.
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  • mommyof4boysmommyof4boys member
    Andrea, that's the new thought.  They think he has the same genetic syndrome and they think he has Asperger's Syndrome.   I know he has sensory needs and while we were at our private OT eval yesterday they said they felt that him holding was a sensory issue.  He will go 1.5-2 weeks in between going!
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  • andreas4dogsandreas4dogs

    imagemommyof4boys:
    Andrea, that's the new thought.  They think he has the same genetic syndrome and they think he has Asperger's Syndrome.   I know he has sensory needs and while we were at our private OT eval yesterday they said they felt that him holding was a sensory issue.  He will go 1.5-2 weeks in between going!

    Oyy, I am sorry, that can't be fun. Did you put him back in diapers or is he still wearing underwear?

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  • mommyof4boysmommyof4boys member
    He's in a pull up.  They don't make diapers big enough for him.
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  • andreas4dogsandreas4dogs

    imagemommyof4boys:
    He's in a pull up.  They don't make diapers big enough for him.

    Does that at least 'hold it in' ? Maybe Goodnights? Sorry, Marissa...I know you are doing everything you can to figure this out. 

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  • mommyof4boysmommyof4boys member
    It contains all of the poop.  Andrea, I have to tell you....I feel defeated!  Sriously I want to sit in a corner and rock and hum, etc.   I just don't understand why, KWIM?  I just wish my boy would get this figured out!  Kids can be so mean and I know that they will start picking on him more than he already is being picked on.  He has a kid calling him a poop-head.
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  • mommyof4boysmommyof4boys member
    Auntie, I talked to the husband about going to the GI doctor about this.  He thinks I'm over-reacting.  Matthew's almost 5!  It's not "normal" for someone his age to be doing this.  I'm going to have to call the developmental ped on Monday and have them explain it to DH.  We had a private OT eval Thursday and they said they thought a lot of it was sensory so we'll have to let them know as well.
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  • hopankahopanka member
    Marissa - do you absolutely HAVE to have your husband on board? I'm asking because I've had my share of frustrations with a knuckle-head husband who sometimes lives in a fantasy land. And since I realized I don't have time for BS, I just started making decisions the way I see fit. Eventually he learned to shut up....um, would this be something a marriage expert would agree with? Probably not - but honestly, who has time for this back-paddling crap while dealing with LIFE like ours? If you feel, that your son needs to go see a GI, then do it! You can inform your husband after the fact...really. You can. I did it. Harsh? I don't know..who cares. Especially since I remember you have had frustrations with other family members - grandparents right? I mean, who can live under so much pressure and with such little support? I think you need to be nicer to yourself and worry less about what the other people in your family think. Hugs to you - I'm rooting for you! You are truly doing all you can do.
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  • mommyof4boysmommyof4boys member

    I told the hubby that if he wasn't with me I was doing it anyway; I'm calling the developmental ped tomorrow to get some information when I call the GI and a phych.  We need to get this resolved!

    My mom and I haven't spoken in a month, MIL keeps saying nasty things like bragging about "The Wonder Twins" my nieces and how they are ahead of where they should be, etc.  Like I need a reminder that my 19 month old nieces walk, talk, etc at a higher level that Chris?

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    imagemommyof4boys:

    I told the hubby that if he wasn't with me I was doing it anyway; I'm calling the developmental ped tomorrow to get some information when I call the GI and a phych.  We need to get this resolved!

    My mom and I haven't spoken in a month, MIL keeps saying nasty things like bragging about "The Wonder Twins" my nieces and how they are ahead of where they should be, etc.  Like I need a reminder that my 19 month old nieces walk, talk, etc at a higher level that Chris?

    Your MIL is ready for a knuckle sandwich. That's just plain WRONG. I'm really sorry

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  • SobachkaSobachka
    imagemommyof4boys:

    My mom and I haven't spoken in a month, MIL keeps saying nasty things like bragging about "The Wonder Twins" my nieces and how they are ahead of where they should be, etc.  Like I need a reminder that my 19 month old nieces walk, talk, etc at a higher level that Chris?

     And some people can be just toxic. While you cannot cut them out of your life, you can avoid them as much as you can. Do not have heart-felt conversations, do not share progress or issues with them: polite and distant. The goal is to keep your sanity, not please everyone. You focus on your guys, and you need to help them, not get MIL on board. Good luck to you!!!! I am rooting for you too!

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