How often do you talk to your mom? (long vent)

crollin · May 2010

I live about an hour from my mom so I talk to her on the phone most of the time. Here's my situation. I am always the one to pick up the phone & call my mom. The only time she initiates the call is when she wants something. She was initiating the call when I was so sick early in my pregnancy but how it's me that is always calling her. I call her usually call her once a day or every other day. Well, once again I am sick of it. I have not spoken to her since Thursday. It's hard. I find myself picking up the phone but then telling myself no. She has been like this for years now. DH & I built our house almost 6 years ago & do you know how may times she has been to my house? Try maybe 7-8 times & it's always for a function like a baby shower, Christmas, etc. I think I am officially over it but it hurts me so bad. My sister lives a mile from my mom & said that she never calls her unless she needs something & that she thinks my mom would never see her kids if it was not for her keeping them for her while she works. My mom had a horrible 4-wheeler accident back in 1998 & she has never been the same. My mom was one of these mom's who was always involved in everything we did growing up. She was such an awesome mom but this accident changed her. I have expressed my concerns with her time & time again so it's not like I have not tried. Has anyone else went through this? Thanks ladies for letting me get it out!

Erin&Gregg07 · May 2010

I've never been through anything like this so I don't have any advise. I just want to tell you I'm sorry you are going through this. My real father has not called me since I was 24. I am now almost 28. (But he's not much of a father or never was) I just hate that you are going through this now. Hopefully things will get better.

star21gazer · May 2010

I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this..especially since ya'll used to be so close. Big Hugs!

ImMrsMoses · May 2010

I don't think I have any good advise for you either...but I wanted to let you know that I am sorry you are going through this. It must be hard for you, especially knowing that her accident has a big part of the changes she has experienced. I hope that you are able to get some peace and that things get better.

sdkrlm · May 2010

My mom drives me absolutely insane. I love her but jeez. I live 2500 miles away from her so phone and text is our only method of communication. Forget email, she can't figure that out to save her Life. She acts like s her life is sooooooo hectic and overwhelming and it's just not. A few weeks ago she told me shed call me right back and it took her over a week to return my call. Like you said I would go to call her and then stop because I wanted to see just how long it would take her to call me back. Apparently the answer is 10 days. And then she acted like somehow it was my fault. Moms are fun like that. If they didn't drive us nuts then it just wouldn't be right.

Leelee06 · May 2010

I talk to my mom pretty much everyday and sometimes a few times a day. We both initiate phone calls. Now, my MIL doesn't generally call my husband and he doesn't generally call her. They just speak occasionally. I always thought it was weird that she doesn't know much about his life, but he says she's always been like that. As long as he is well and has a good job, she's satisfied. She will now call me occasionally, but they are quick phone calls. She asks how we are, I ask how she is, and I try to make more convo, but before I know it she says "Okay, bye". lol It really throws me off every time.

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. I don't know how I would handle being in your situation. Do you think she has a general fear about everything now and it has kind of paralyzed her?

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