S/o about Mother's Day

MrserinJ · May 2010

I posted below about what to do on Mother's Day. The responses were very helpful but led me to another question...

Do you think, once you become your own family, and a Mother/Father that those days should be about you first now? I mean, we ALWAYS go an celebrate Mother's Day with MIL and it always is about her. I don't love going over there, of course I think its fair as she's DH's mom but do you think once you are a mom (or dad) that you should celebrate how YOU want and that's that? We live about 20 mins away from MIL and my mom passed away about a year and ago so we always go to IL's, even though I'm a mom too. I would love to say that we made our plans and they can join us, but I feel bad and obligated to go their every year. A lot of the responses to my post made me think that maybe its OK to celebrate me first? WDYT?

mlc92404 · May 2010

I think its important to do something with/for them still but it doesnt have to be ON Mother's Day. We celebrate with MIL the day before (Saturday)

golichmi · May 2010

I think I'll always make an effort to see my mom on Mother's Day, and I'll encourage DH to do the same. They're the reason we're here!

Yessika024 · May 2010

I think it's perfectly fine to want to spend time with your family alone for a few hours. Even if you went to your MIL's later on at night for coffee or something. You're a mom and are entitled to your time with your family on that day just as much as she is. GL

wife1014 · May 2010

As I said, I now do what I want...

However, DH will probably take Olivia to visit his mom (if I can get out of it, I will...she's not my mom). My mom always comes with us, as will my sister and brother so that isn't an issue. To be honest, it's really his mother who isn't easy about the whole thing. I call and invite and there is usually a big tadoo about the whole thing. Oh well.

athomemom · May 2010

As it's important to spend time with them, I believe it's my day too. My DH actually asked me last night what I wanted to do. His mother lives about 15 minutes away and we don't always do something with her.The night before is a good idea also.

TAMLVSCARL · May 2010

My MIL lives in GA (we live in MA) so she's not an issue. My sisters, my mom & I usually go out to eat for Mother's Day.

sleepyocean · May 2010

I replied to your post below. But I'll go ahead and say that you are your own family now. Before we had DS we always went to my parents for the holidays (because my parents would've freaked out if we tried to do it any other way). After DS we have done things differently. The first year we went to my parents for Thanksgiving, but wanted to be able to see DH's family and my family for Christmas since it was DS's first, so we took the opportunity to host Christmas, we invited both families to our house, only his family came, because my family couldn't tear themselves away from "their" tradition. But we invited them both and that was their choice, we got to do Christmas at our house our way and it was lovely. This year we moved out of state and invited both families for both holidays, my parents came for Thanksgiving and no one came for Christmas, it was nice to be able to do the holidays on our terms in our own home and if no one wanted to join us that was their choice. I say make your own plans, if you want to invite family and give them a chance to be included in your plans then go for it, if not that's your choice to, but it's your family now and what you guys do should be on your own terms!

ashleywebber · May 2010

Even though I am a mom (and have had 5 Mother's Days so far) I think it is super important to celebrate my mom and my DH's mom on MD. He spoils me on Mother's Day and I get my attention. I think it is good to celebrate and make our moms feel great on MD. My theory is, do I want my kids to grow up and not take time to see me or do at least something for me on Mother's Day when they get older? I should set the example and sow what I want to reap.

frozenjoy213 · May 2010

We spend Mother's day with my family and Father's day with DH's family. We celebrate with our ILs the weekend before/after. I don't mind sharing the day with my mom and grandma. That being said if I was in your shoes I probably wouldn't want to spend the whole day with my MIL....I love her but it still wouldn't be my 1st choice.