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Those of you with a child with Down Syndrome

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If it was your first, how did you decide whether or not to have more? Was it a hard decision? How long did you wait?
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Re: Those of you with a child with Down Syndrome

  • jptimestwojptimestwo
    Good question.....Riley is our second....but I'm not convinced that I dont' want a 3rd....part of me would like to give my oldest a sibling w/out a disability...I know that's  horrible.  My geneticist said that if we were going to consider a 3rd, we should do some "genetic counseling" but I don't know that that entails....I'll be interested to see what others say.
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  • KMom14KMom14
    My husband and I have been talking about this a lot lately.  Not that we're ready for another baby right now, but we definitely talk about it a lot.  We want more kids...I don't think we'd change those plans just because Ty has Ds.  I want for him to have the experience of having siblings.  On the other hand, I am TERRIFIED of the possibility of going through all of this again.  We would like to have another one by the time Ty is 2, so I guess when we decide to try again we'll just spend a lot of time talking with a genetic counselor and go from there.  It's a tough decision...
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  • Jezebel1228Jezebel1228

    hey there, just wanted to pop in.. you and I have chatted about this before.. but for the other ladies, honestly C's diagnosis wasnt a HUGE factor in making our decision.. it was more, 'can we handle two?" yeah I am worried about him and being able to keep up with his therapies and whatnot.. but the way the timing worked out, he will actually be starting preschool right around the same time as baby girl is due. which has added to my concern.. He's going to have a new baby sister AND going to school.. both very new things. I am worried that in his little 3  year old mind he is going to think we are replacing him with the baby and shipping him off!!
    But aside from that, things seem to be working out. He kisses my tummy to kiss the baby and he is becoming a lot more independent so I know he's not going to need my attention 24/7 like he would have if he were younger.

    Most important of all to us was to give C a sibling.. I am 34 this year and really didnt want to wait too long before having another baby..so that was another factor for us.

    Good luck in making your decision.. You'll know when its the right time!!


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  • jellybelly321jellybelly321

    For me, I always knew that I wanted to have more than one child. 

    DD will be almost two when our son is born. 

     

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