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Hate surprise visits...

VergiffenisVergiffenis
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Ok... so I'm having a bit of a relapse the past couple of days. It's like everything is just crashing to the ground again. When this happens I don't want to do anything, see anyone.

And yet... my mother (who I happen to have a very rocky relationship with already) has decided to just show up in town and already wants to know when she can see LO. I hate that. Why not call in advance? At least being able to know would allow me to mentally prep for it. She hardly knows anything about LO or how I've been feeling. This just stresses me out even more.

Anyone else feel this way? Or am I just being stupid?

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Re: Hate surprise visits...

  • Smudges*MomSmudges*Mom member

    Even with family--it is common courtesy to CALL FIRST!

    While, under more normal circumstances, perhaps her showing up in town may not be as big of a deal (still inconsiderate)--given that you have a young child and PPD, it is a bigger deal.  Visits like this can be VERY stressful.

    While it is good for your son to get to know his grandmother, it is also very important for you to feel more emotionally stable.  If you simply can't get things together for a visit with her, tell her no.  Or, make arrangements to meet out for coffee. 

    Take care of yourself so that you are able to take care of your LO.

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  • Gina418Gina418 member
    No, you're not being stupid. Even with advance notice family visits can be stressful! Maybe plan a quick lunch with her - make it a short visit this time around.
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