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Well aren't I a bitter bioch...

ScorpioWifey77ScorpioWifey77
in TTC After a Loss 6 Months+

A good friend of my (I will refer to from here on out as quatromom) is pg (her 2nd "opps!" of 4 kids) and her sister in law decided to throw her a "sprinkle" for this pg since "it's been 4 years since she's had a baby girl"....ugh

 I suck it up and go, I figured if my other friend who lost her 5 yr old in a fire can suck it up and go, I should too.

 I wanted to smack her (quatromom) and every other woman there...they were all cute with their baby bellies and one actually brought her 3 month old. Crying

Quatromom kept saying with each gift, thanks, I had this for Emmy but I gave it away b/c I didn't plan to have more babies  Angry   I gave her a target gift card...there was no way I was shopping for a baby.

 The icing on the cake is that quatromom already had the thank you's ready before she even showed up for the shower!!   So, without her knowing what anyone was giving her...we left with our thank you.

I proceed to the bar to meet DH (premeditated b/c I knew I'd need a shot of two after the "sprinkle") and open the thank you...it's a target photo postcard thingie with the ultrasound picture!!  Super Angry

I asked for a lighter, but DH said that was mean....but did indulge me by saying the ultrasound looked like an angry bunny which made me chuckle!

Today I get a facebook message from her thanking me for coming b/c she knows "it must have been hard" for me.

 If she only knew.....Crying

MC #1 12/06 MC #2 10/07 MC#3 10/08 *Forever Missed* Diagnosed with MTHFR 10/09 but was told it is not the reason for my "unexplained IF"
Diagnosed with High FSH, low folical count, and absent anti mullerian count 08/11
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  • rjl07rjl07
    You are a better friend than I could be!  Sorry you had to deal with that.  I'm so sorry for your friend who lost her 5 year old too - that is heartbreaking.
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  • bbhalphenbbhalphen member
    I have no words for the thank you notes.  Yes I do.  How incredibly tacky and impersonal!
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  • bbhalphenbbhalphen member

    I didn't see the part at first about your friend and the fire.  That's so incredibly sad!

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  • ScorpioWifey77ScorpioWifey77

    Thanks ladies.  And the funny thing is quatromom is usually Mrs. Etiquette!!  I'd hate the think she's jaded to the whole generosity of friends/family and having a baby thing....

    My friend and I actually had to small talk the whole time, b/c one mention of how hard it was for either of us to be there made us teary eyed--and we feed off eachs tears--so we had to keep our conversation to the weather and such.  Tongue Tied

    MC #1 12/06 MC #2 10/07 MC#3 10/08 *Forever Missed* Diagnosed with MTHFR 10/09 but was told it is not the reason for my "unexplained IF"
    Diagnosed with High FSH, low folical count, and absent anti mullerian count 08/11
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  • rjl07rjl07
    I'm glad you could be there for each other today. 
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  • butterfly843butterfly843
    ((hugs)) I can't believe the thank you notes she gave. I am so bitter right now, when we move dh wants to give our old grill to the neighbors(the ones expecting) and I am plotting on how to get rid of it so we don't have to give it to them.

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  • sunshinenvasunshinenva

    That was one hell of a day!  I am sorry you had to get on that rollercoaster ride of emotions.  Your a stronger person than I am.  I am dreading an upcoming babyshower for a co-worker's "oops". 

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  • triple_sevenstriple_sevens member

    A shower for your FOURTH BABY? Tacky, tacky, tacky. And The pre-done thank yous are just the height of poor taste.

    I'm so sorry you and your friend had to sit through that.

    BFP #1 10/17/09: missed m/c at 7 weeks; BFP #2 10/22/10: chemical pregnancy; BFP #3: 1/28/11

    Baby Boy Smudgie born 10/4/11

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  • surfergirlkonasurfergirlkona
    You are much stronger then I am.  What a crappy thank you note IMO.  Seriously, the gifts should be acknowledged after the fact.
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