My neighbor's father died, need some advice

ShellShockedMama · April 2010

DH and I want to do something for him. I didn't know the father and we're casual friends with the neighbors, they're a bit older than us (closer to my parent's age) so we're not all BFF's.

Still, we want to do something. I'll admit, I'm entirely too lazy to cook anything so don't suggest that. Big Smile thanks!

Mrs.Brink · April 2010

Lol...I was totally gonna say cook but I don't even feel like making my own dinner! Maybe buy something ready made from the store. Like Carabas has chicken marsala kits that all you need to buy seperate is red onion, portabella and chicken. Send a bottle of wine and you're set. They can make it themselves and it doesn't take forever. And add in a super pushie throw for the sake of comfort. I always felt better with a nice comfie blanket.

californiastars · April 2010

I was going to say back something, but since you don't feel like cooking anything maybe you can cheat. Go to the store, buy something and then put it on a platter to look like you made them.

katie9136 · April 2010

I was gonna say cook, but pick up some take out instead. Or like a Costco or Trader Joe?s something. And a bottle of wine. Maybe two bottles of wine.

EmKo0210 · April 2010

I say take out works just as well as cooking.

denise_m · April 2010

What about a potted plant with a gc for dinner?

pepomntpat · April 2010

I would totally suggest food or a gift card for a meal.

ShellShockedMama · April 2010

I like the gift card idea. They have tons of family over now, so I'll wait until that calms down a bit.

grr_aargh · April 2010

My stepdad died a few years ago and here were our FAVORITE things:

1). Disposable napkins, plates, and cups for all of the people who would be in the house over the next week.

2). Shelf-stable snack foods (people bring lots of cooking and sweets - the nuts and things like that were nice).

3). Blank notes with address labels on them, as we used them for thank yous to people (for food, etc.)

For my buddy whose father died unexpectedly, I sent her a box of childhood candy (nerds, skittles, fizzy candy, etc.). Just to give them a teensy bit of joy.

grr_aargh · April 2010

ShellShockedMama:
I like the gift card idea. They have tons of family over now, so I'll wait until that calms down a bit.

That's an awesome idea too.

The other thing is: Don't feel like you need to do something NOW. Drop off something quietly now - small - and then next week, when family filters out, take the time to stop by then with something else. They'll need it. The worst is when everyone leaves, kwim?

ShellShockedMama · April 2010

that was my plan. it's so crowded over there, i was going to wait till people left.

californiastars · April 2010

grr_aargh:
My stepdad died a few years ago and here were our FAVORITE things:
1). Disposable napkins, plates, and cups for all of the people who would be in the house over the next week.
2). Shelf-stable snack foods (people bring lots of cooking and sweets - the nuts and things like that were nice).
3). Blank notes with address labels on them, as we used them for thank yous to people (for food, etc.)
For my buddy whose father died unexpectedly, I sent her a box of childhood candy (nerds, skittles, fizzy candy, etc.). Just to give them a teensy bit of joy.

These are great ideas. When DH's grandpa died we had tons of food. The entire table was full of food. Having paper plates and plastic cups were wonderful. If we didn't have those SIL and I would have been doing a lot of dishes.

sarahandeddiejune212008 · April 2010

Could your DH mow their yard? Its something simple that needs to be done and I'm sure they'd appreciate not having to worry about it.

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