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S/O Poll: Do you get offended if someone returns/exchanges your gift?

JillRock96JillRock96 member
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I don't often have "confirmation" that a gift was returned/exchanged, so I guess for the most part I don't know that it is happening.  But I would much rather the person exchange for something they want or will use.  DH's little sisters are 19, and I have such a hard time shopping for them (they dress so much trendier than I ever did!), but I hate to buy gift cards every single time.  I usually will buy something from a store I know they like and include the receipt so they can always exchange it for something else if they want.
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Re: S/O Poll: Do you get offended if someone returns/exchanges your gift?

  • howleyshellhowleyshell member

    Hell no!

    I'm a practical gal.

    Get what you want and be happy.

    That's my goal in gift giving after all, isn't it?  Something nice for the recipient, not something nice for my ego. 

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  • nicolita14wnicolita14w

    In most cases, I would not be offended. If it were something I had spent a lot of time picking out or that was really personal, then I might feel a little bad but I'd get over it.

    However, I get gifts from my stepmom a lot that she says she has no problem with me returning. Like you, she says she'd rather give a gift than a gift card. However, I feel guilty returning stuff so I almost always keep what she gives me, even if it's not my style.

    I sort of have a lot of anxiety associated with gifts. My real mom is *very* concerned with always showing a massive amount of gratitude for any gift (and by that I mean you have to go on and on and on and that she will start to cry if your enthusiasm is not enthusiastic enough), and this rubbed off on my when I was growing up, so I very rarely exchange or return anything.  

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  • rispergirlrispergirl
    No way!  I try hard to give what I think is a good gift, but that's so subjective.  I want my gift to really be enjoyable or useful to the person.  If the best way for that to happen is for them to exchange it for something else then go for it.
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  • laura&dan05laura&dan05 member
    Never, I'd much rather they had something they needed or wanted.  Which goes back to my whole ALWAYS including a gift receipt.  I would never be offended if someone asked me for a receipt but I want to save them the awkwardness of having to ask me.

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  • alchrisalchris member
    Ditto pps.  Just as I always feel *horrible* when I get something I can't use because I know that person put time, money, and thoughtfulness into giving it to me, I wouldn't want anyone to feel they had to keep something I gave if there was something they could likely use more or would like better.  I'm all about gift receipts!!!
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