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3rd Trimester
shortms6
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VENT: so over inappropriate/unnecessary comments
shortms6
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Sooo...let me just say how sick and tired I am of hearing how huge I am, how people think it's twins, how I'm going to be enormous when it's all said and done, and to top it all off...being told what I should/shouldn't eat--BY A MAN.
The last one really got me last night--to the point I was sobbing when I got home from the restaurant. Long story short, we went to dinner with DH's cousin (who I'm not very fond of) and I ordered cheese fries for DH and I to share before cousin and his wife and kids got there. When ordering my meal, DH made a cute comment about what the baby would be eating and I said the baby already had some cheese fries. Cousin proceeds to say, "Oh, that's real healthy for the baby. No wonder she already weighs 3 pounds." Ummm...totally rude.
I pretty much ignored him the rest of the dinner and broke down in the car. I was embarrased and offended and really got my feelings hurt. The most frustrating thing about the comment was that my baby has a 2-vessel cord (which he knows about) and I have been eating nothing but healthy food and occassionally diving in to my cravings (i.e. cheese fries) since I know she needs more nutrients than most babies. For him to say that really got me. I'm proud by baby is growing bigger and if it means I will be big, then so be it. Complete a**hole.
Thanks for reading. Vent over.
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Re: VENT: so over inappropriate/unnecessary comments
Sorry. I'd have told him to shove it.
My dad did sort of the same thing to me when I first got pregnant. We went to lunch at 2 (I hadnt eaten all day) and I ordered a burger and fries and he went on to tell me I needed to watch what I eat blah blah and that my mom gained 50 lbs... my sister kinda went off on him. He hasnt made any comments since.
Wow! I'm sorry...don't let his stupid comment get you down! I'm not sure what makes people think they can say anything they want to a pregnant woman, but I wish you woul have released some pregnancy hormone rage or crying spell in front of him...Geesh! Good for you making it through the meal and not breaking down until you were in the car with DH, but I really wish his cousin knew how rude he was and that he hurt your feelings.
Keep your head up and don't feel bad about indulging in some cheesy fries
I could say, "ugh, MEN", but sadly there are many women who makes these comments, too.
I would have responded with, "Ohhhhh, so that is why the baby weighs that much. I better put LO on an exercise and nutrition plan ASAP."
I laugh off stupid comments, even though they hurt. Ignore the idiots!
I had an @sshole at work say to me the other day "wow your that big and you still have 3 months to go. You won't even be able to waddle by the time your due date roles around" I did feel slightly better when I went to my first birth class and of 8 first time mothers due with in 4 weeks of eachother I was the second smallest.
Your cousin sounds like a real winner, eat those cheese fries with pride and tell him where to go shove it.
Thanks, ladies. He is a total jerk everyday of his life. I just wonder why people choose to live life being that negative and put other people down all the time.
DH is planning to sit down and talk with him and tell him how much it hurt me and how inappropriate it was. In hindsight, I really do wish I had given him a piece of my mind. Ugh...I just don't like him and I'm done trying to be nice to him. I've tried for DH but the niceness is going to end if he's going to treat me like that.
Thanks again---you girls always make me feel better!
What an a hole! I am glad to hear your LO is 3lbs already! Keep growing LO
. My IL's tell me a lot that I look huge and I don't really know why because I don't feel that big but it does make me insecure when I am around them. I say enjoy your pregnancy and eat all the cheese fries you want. Keep that baby growing!
Hey there---thanks. It just sucks when people think they can say what they want to say. So rude. Hopefully your IL's will knock it off and give you a break. Hope all is well!