i hate the insinuation...

PMJacobsen · April 2010

that women who get "push presents" don't see their child as a gift. all the comments about the baby being "enough of a gift" or "the gift" or "all that matters" really implies that you believe women who get gifts to commemorate the occassion don't see their child as valuable or something. it gets under my skin. of course i see my baby as the ultimate gift. of course the most important thing to me is that i have a healthy, happy baby. of course i wouldn't expect or want DH to go into debt to adorn me with diamonds. but c'mon, wtf is really wrong with DH deciding to honor a family tradition and get me a little something special?! doesn't take away from the feelings i have about my child in the least.

but, FTR, i hate the term "push present"

anyway, i will step off my soapbox in preparation for grey's anatomy

rlscheck · April 2010

rorygirl218 · April 2010

i agree. when i came home from the hospital with dd, he had 2dz roses waiting for me in dd's room. i never asked him for anything, he just said it was because he loved his family. dh told me that i could get a ring made with the birthstones of LO and dd after LO is born so that will be cool.

seells · April 2010

I don't think there is anything wrong with a husband getting his wife a gift to celebrate the new addition of a baby. I hate the term "push present" though also. I think if you have the money and your Dh wants to get you something, it's nobody else's business. But if he's going into some kind of debt to get something expensive that the woman obviously doesn't need and she'll be pissed off if she doesn't get anything, well, I think that's ridiculous.

amy0105 · April 2010

I actually decided to get pregnant to get diamond earrings

I completely agree with you, PM!

Garnetbaby09 · April 2010

There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with DH honoring his wife for giving him a beautiful gift- his child. You bet your ass I got a gift from DH when Lil was born. It was unexpected and breathtaking he thought to do so. I think its one thing to ask for a gift and another to accept one unexpectedly. KWIM?

sept0305bride · April 2010

While I would love a push present, we really can't afford it. Well, we can, but given that we live in a city that has $2000 a month daycare, and I am taking a 25% pay cut for my maternity leave, I just can't justify it.

That being said, if people can swing it comfortably, sure--why not? I think its sweet. I love the idea of getting something in baby's birthstone and passing it down as an heirloom, especially in the case of a baby girl who can wear her mother's jewelry someday.

PMJacobsen · April 2010

Garnetbaby09:
There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with DH honoring his wife for giving him a beautiful gift- his child. You bet your ass I got a gift from DH when Lil was born. It was unexpected and breathtaking he thought to do so. I think its one thing to ask for a gift and another to accept one unexpectedly. KWIM?

for sure. totally in agreement!

Kateysomething · April 2010

I don't have a problem with push presents. I have a problem with women DEMANDING push presents, or feeling entitled to them.

themrs830 · April 2010

EXACTLY! You get gifts for graduation, shouldn't graduating be enough then?

Anyone who accepts a "push present" (agreed its a horrible name) doesn't automatically think their child isn't a gift. I personally don't consider the two related. The baby is a gift regardless. The present is a gift given by someone who appreciates the hard work you did to keep the baby safe and bring the baby into the world. They are different things!

hydies33 · April 2010

seells:
I don't think there is anything wrong with a husband getting his wife a gift to celebrate the new addition of a baby. I hate the term "push present" though also. I think if you have the money and your Dh wants to get you something, it's nobody else's business. But if he's going into some kind of debt to get something expensive that the woman obviously doesn't need and she'll be pissed off if she doesn't get anything, well, I think that's ridiculous.

Well said.

MrsBNDO · April 2010

seells:
I don't think there is anything wrong with a husband getting his wife a gift to celebrate the new addition of a baby. I hate the term "push present" though also. I think if you have the money and your Dh wants to get you something, it's nobody else's business. But if he's going into some kind of debt to get something expensive that the woman obviously doesn't need and she'll be pissed off if she doesn't get anything, well, I think that's ridiculous.

Yes Especially the bolded.

mrstarawalsh · April 2010

Pft... my kids no gift. I totally got pregnant for the new car.

RitaT22 · April 2010

I agree with you. I see nothing wrong in getting a "push present" (I don't like that term either)

Kerianne1176 · April 2010

why cant a baby be a huge amazing gift....and getting a nice necklace or something be another kind of really sweet gift?

Are there really people out there that have such a strong opinion on this?

I think it is really up to the couple to decide if they want to participate in this sort of thing and who the hell am I or anyone else to judge them for it? I think people who do must have way too much time on their hands.

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