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MommaBekah
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Repost from 2nd tri board.....(kinda worried)
MommaBekah
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So i've heard so many stories lately about ladies that are having girls not getting things they need for their showers.....mostly recieving clothes. Now I don't wanna sound like i wouldn't be grateful bc I would but it is scary to think about all the things we will need if that does happen. And it's not like u can tell ppl not to buy u clothes cuz that is just plain out rude and disrespectful...but what is a girl to do??????
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Re: Repost from 2nd tri board.....(kinda worried)
IMO, boy or girl, you are going to get a ton of clothes. People love buying cute little baby outfits! The only thing you can do is have a good registry with lots of items in every price range and hope for the best.
For me, people would get a small gift from the registry and pair it with an outfit. Some people just got me a registry gift and an outfit once LO was here - but I got more clothes then he could wear in a year!
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Regardless of whether or not your guests give you clothes or items off the registery ... You graciously accept the gift.
Then as the parents of your child, you purchase what ever else you may need.
Your hostess should spread the word about where you are registered.
This. It's not the obligation of your friends and family to buy necessities for your baby. Sure, it would be great, but that's not the way it works. If money is a problem, start seriously budgeting now, and check out garage sales/goodwill.
This exactly. I hope I get a shower so I can celebrate with my friends and family. That would be nice. If i don't get one, or nobody brings gifts, DH and I will be purchasing all we need for the LO on our own. If we couldn't afford the LO we wouldn't have started to TTC.
Some people have surprise babies that are unplanned, even if they are using protection. There are issues where condoms can break, fall off, etc. Nothing is 100% effective, even when used as directed.
Yes, be happy for the gifts you get, return what you can if you don't need it, and try to select something different that you do need. Try to remember that this is a celebration, and enjoy it no matter what. The point of a shower is to "shower" the person with things they will be needing for the baby, which is the origin of this type of gathering from what I have been told.
Bottom line- enjoy the day, celebrate the growing life, and be as pracatical as you can with the gifts once the shower is over.
Suck it up and deal, sorry. You will get a ton of dresses, all newborn and 0-3 month sizes. Just hope that you get gift receipts. Start buying stuff now. Check out craigslist for gear - like carriers, swings, and some of the other stuff that people only use for a few months or end up not using at all.
One of my friends got 65 dresses and very little gear.
My next door neighbor got 50 outfits for her little boy and didn't have a stroller.
This. I'm sure that if you really can't afford necessities there are areas in your spending where you can cut back to pay for them.
New shoes or video monitor? Dinner out or a baby bathtub? Renting a movie or buying a pack of wipes? Easy choices.
But that doesn't alleviate the fact that it is the parents' responsibility to provide for the baby, not friends and family.
The only way to 100% prevent pregnancy is to not have sex. Any time you have sex, you are running a risk of becoming pregnant and need to accept the responsibility for that.
Of course you'll graciously accept it. However, hopefully some come with gift receipts, and you can return what you don't need for the things that you do.
Keep in mind things like CraigsList or Just Between Friends sales for things that you need but don't get. Cut expenses by breastfeeding. Also, truly, there is very little you need at first -- a car seat and diapers.
Sounds like you're where I was a few weeks ago when trying to come up with a registry. There is so much out there, and so much to think about, not to mention the fact that you have to learn a whole new vocabulary in order to figure out what it is that you need. Good luck! Everything will work out well, and I'm sure you'll have all you need for your baby.
I agree with you 100%. No idea why people think thier friends and family should provide thier child's items. I mean you knew you were pregnant for months so why did you not put money aside to get things yourself?
Ultimately it is your responsibility to buy the things your baby will need. You can always keep the baby's gender a secret and say you do not know. It will be harder for people to buy clothes if they do not know the gender. BUT this also means you cannot register for anything gender specific.
If you have already told people, then you are going to "get stuck" with a bunch of baby clothes. Be gracious, say thank you, and if you get too many clothes, you can always donate them to someone that actually needs them.
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Are you going to have a stock up party every 6 months when your baby grows out of the things he gets from the shower?
Raising your baby and the expense that comes with it, is your responsibility. If you are having financial troubles, you need to start budgeting, and prioritizing what your baby really needs.
After 7 years trying to concieve, 3 failed IUIs and 2 failed IVFs, my third IVF was a success!
My Christmas baby turned into a turkey bird! Dillon Richard was born at 34 weeks, 5 days on November 28, 2009 after 10 weeks on bedrest for preeclampsia.
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I am not telling the sex of our baby until the shower. I had the same thoughts with my family, they would rather buy $50 in clothes then something needed. I hope no one likes to buy greens and yellows.
If you already told people the sex, then you will just have to deal with all the clothes. I have told a few family members that a friend of mine who had a baby a few months ago has given me all of thier old clothes, and I am having a hard time finding space...they don't need to know what friend or that I just told them a little white lie...
I also made sure that my husband and I could afford all of our big ticket items ourself, so if all I get at my shower is clothes, then it won't be the end of the world.
Ok..... That is not at all what I am saying. I will provide for my child no matter what I have to do. I said that before. I know 1000000000% that it is my responsibility to provide for my child. Again, that is not what I'm saying. AT ALL. I know some ppl have thought about the same thing I am. It's not at all about other ppl providing for my child. I can and WILL do that. It was just something that was on my mind. Sorry......
On the flip side we got mostly items from our registry at my showers along with a good amount of clothes, blankets,et.
Really the only big ticket items you need are a carseat, possibly stroller, and a crib.Everything else is just stuff that you want and will be convenient. Luckily MIL/FIL bought our carrier and stroller. My parents bought the crib. However, we were prepared to but them ourselves if needed.
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