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2nd Trimester
Push Presents...
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Re: Push Presents...
I don't think any present it worth it if you have to ask for it. DH got me a small teddy bear when we had DS that said New Mama. I didn't ask for it and it was a really sweet surprise.
On the Mother's Day issue, I don't see why anyone has a problem w/ celebrating Mother's Day before you have baby. We're already making life decisions as Mother's why wouldn't we celbrate it? If you're against it because the baby isn't here yet and it should be celebrated with little one then you won't really be celebrating it for several years after because it's DH making the plans until LO is old enough to pick you dandelions or whatever...and how much more WITH LO do you get then when you're carrying them inside?
I didn't ask for a push present but my birthday is 4 days after my due date so he'll probably get me something baby related for my birthday.
We did talk about celebrating Mother's Day and Father's Day as we had a miscarriage last year and we have a little bean in heaven and a little bean in my belly. I don't think its selfish, sometimes the road to get to here is so long and so hard that you have to celebrate when you can. To take those holidays that were so hard and make them something to be thankful for.
DH already said he was planning to get me something for both occasions, so I told him if he'd like an idea I'd like a baby charm for my charm bracelet ($30). And he said "duh" basically, so we're on the same wavelength. I don't see what's wrong with a little commemorative "mommy" gift, I'm not asking for a Louis Vuitton purse or anything.
I also want a beer but since I am hoping to BF I don't think I can have one for a while after birth still...
Wow, I hadn't even heard the term till today!
What a silly concept! (Unless there's a particular food craving post birthing; that's reasonable. I wanted plain ol' potato chips!).
C'mon people! The baby is the gift! And if you want to get technical, your DH *did* give you that particular gift after all!
"Demanding" sounds a bit harsh. I would never ask for or demand a gift, but my DH told me he wants to celebrate Mother's Day this year because he's so excited about us being parents in a couple of months. I would imagine he'll do something special after the arrival of our DD, but I'm not asking for anything. I will most likely get him a small token for Father's Day and probably a card when our baby is born.
I do know someone who got a car as a push present, which I think is a bit ridiculous. I think it's better to just do something sentimental to acknowledge this momentous event.
However I am a first time mom to be and DH has said that I am getting a mother's day gift this year. I told him it did not count this year but he insists. And since he forgets my bday and our wedding anniversary, if he remembers, I AM SO TAKING IT!!!!!
"Push presents" are a tradition in my family and my husbands. We don't call them "push presents". My father bought my mother a dozen red roses when I was born. That was a big expense for them back then. It was dad's way of showing his appreciation. My DH is getting me an antique aquamarine ring to commemorate our child's birth. The ring will be passed on to our child as a family heirloom.
If I get something, I'll be happy, but I'm not asking for anything. Honestly, if I want something, we just go out and buy it, so presents aren't really a big deal in my house. I AM planning to join a really expensive private gym in my neighborhood postpartum that offers childcare and a pool, so that can be my present and I don't want to hear any complaining about it.
The best gift in the world, in my opinion, would be a thank-you letter from my husband to me, so maybe I'll hint at that. We work hard, so money and material posessions are never the problem - quality time is!
I have no idea what a push present even is. But then I'm fairly new here and don't come on very often. As for Mother and Father's day we haven't discussed it. I'm assuming we won't celebrate it since I'm not due til the end of June. I'm excited about celebrating it next year. The only thing I've asked for is for him to bring me sushi afterward when they give me the okay to eat after the birth. I really miss my sushi! lol
We've joked about it a bit, and I've told him I want a steak dinner, cooked medium rare, and a beer as soon as possible after she's born. I'm pretty sure its not going to happen. If it did, that'd be great! If not, oh well. I really don't care either way.
As far as Mother's Day goes, my mom is gonna make more of a deal of it than DH will. She'll probably get me a card, and maybe some cute baby stuff. I really don't expect DH to do much of anything. His family isn't as into holidays as mine is.
I'm still TTC but my DH already knows my request...
A Mani-Pedi and wax just before the big day. I would hate to be in labor and worried what the entire hospital staff thinks of my hygiene...lol.
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I agree with mcdmaw. From the moment of conception we are mothers. The baby is not any less a child and the mother not any less a mother just because the baby has not yet come out to play.
Mother's day doesn't have to be about whether or not to be "grabby", it can be a day of spending time with family and sharing the experience of motherhood. I will celebrate mother's day as a pregnant first-time mother with my parents and sisters who are also mothers.
Don't know about push presents, although the hospital I will be birthing at has a celebratory steak dinner served sometime after the birth.
I did. I told him I want sushi and Diet Coke.
In fairness, I might have mentioned it jokingly with #1, and I got a new car...does it count that we were already buying it because we needed one?
As for Mother's Day, I have demanded a good Mother's Day this year. I have a 19 month old, I'm 22 weeks pregnant, we're moving May 12th, and his friend who lives overseas is staying with us for 3 weeks. I have done all of the packing for the move, plus taking care of DS, just to let my husband play for 3 weeks. He owes me one day.
Same here. I think it's an exciting time and my husband and I share thoughtful gifts for just about every occasion - big or little!
When I had my first LO, DH got me a necklace that he had made just for me that was fashioned after one we had seen in Paris (but much less extravagant). Our financial situation is a little different now, but we have been saving up to get me a DSLR camera, and I think DH knows better than to not have anything for me, even if it's just a glass of champagne and a rose
As he's a pastry chef, I think I'll ask him to make a birthday cake for the new LO.
And of course, I will be getting him a daddy gift. I think it will have to be super special as he will be the daddy of two little girls, and I think that's super sweet.
The new LO is the best gift of all, but I think that celebrating her with little gifts makes the time even more special. They don't have to be extravagant or costly, just something thoughtful.
Classic!
My DH is terribly generous when it comes to gifts, so he may surprise me although I'm not expecting anything (don't mean to brag, but he is a way better gift-giver than I am). I do remember mentioning I would love to hear the champagne cork popping soon after I do, however... I'm sure it won't sound nearly as good once I'm in the moment, but right now, mmm....
I'd never heard of this either until this post. I would never ask for anything as a push present and since we are pretty strapped for cash at the moment I would not expect anything. If he went out and got something (which he won't) I would hope that it would be something cheap, cause if he spent a lot it would only stress me out thinking about what the money could have gone towards.
I'd rather he save the money and use it for our vacation in later in the summer or put it in our house savings or use it on something that we discover we need for baby after he is born. Even using it to start a college fund or something for the baby would be a better idea. I really don't need a new car or expensive jewelry for him to show that he appreciates me. I already know since he is supporting me right now while I am not working since I had to quit my job after getting too sick in my first tri. And he will be supporting me while I take care of our little one for at least a few months.
All I can ask for is for him to continue to be as loving and supporting as he has been so far. The little things are what counts, like the backrubs when my back is killing me and the help with cleaning the house and with other projects that I am working on at the moment.
As for mothers day, I am again not expecting anything. We will probably go to dinner with our parents or something. I am sure my mom will make a bigger deal of it than he does because that is just how she is. He didn't grow up in a household that made a big deal out of anything. He didn't grow up with presents and birthday parties and stuff. So, he wouldn't even think of doing anything. I was raised the complete opposite way and my family celebrated everything! My bigger worry right now is what to get him for Father's Day. Baby is due at the end of May so he will not be here for Mothers Day but will be here for Fathers Day. I have to do something special since it will be his first Fathers Day but I'm not really sure what I can do for him. Any suggestions on this would be a big help!
I am not celebrating this mother's day for me... It is all about my mom & bonus mom - last mother's day before they become grandmothers!!!!!!!!!!
On the push present - totally! I love presents and my husband knows I've always wanted a piece of jewelry with our baby's birthstone - so yup, totally want one, and I don't care how ridiculous anyone thinkis it is!
This one. I never even heard of it until now. Our baby will be present enough. If he wants to get me a card or some flowers, that's up to him. I can't believe some people...
I had never heard of a push present before the Bump either - Some of the posts sound nice (ring to pass down through the family, roses, etc - something sentimental but not demanded by the mom) and in some ways it sounds like American Commercialism at its worst (you have to buy gifts for EVERY occasion to show you care)...
I just hope DH gets me something for this first mothers day to distract me from the loss of my mom. She passed last May 30th and this will be my first mothers day as a mom (well almost, he is due May 17th) and my first without my mom.
Hahaha, this is great... Totally laughed and snorted about this...
I had never heard of a push present until I got the email with the link to this topic. I can't imagine wanting anything other than food (lots of it) and a margarita.
I hadn't even thought of doing anything for Mother's Day or Father's Day until my husband decided he was going to get me a Mother's Day present. Basically, he just decided Mother's Day was a good excuse (and one I couldn't really argue with) to get me something he wanted to get me anyway but that I'd been telling him I didn't really need. And once he said that, I knew exactly what to get him for Father's Day (along the same line of things I just needed an excuse to buy him). That being said, really, I want us to spend our money on the baby or on projects around the house, not on stuff for each other.
No mere trinket could compare with the blessing of holding my babies for the first time, so the 'push present' concept is silly to me.