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amiserip
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I hate when non-pregnant women claim names
amiserip
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I just saw a post on Baby Names board where a non-pregnant woman is bitching about a 19 yr old stealing her nonexistent kid's middle name. That is so irritating and stupid!
My sister told me that I'm not allowed to use the middle name Rose because my youngest sister "called" that name. My sister doesn't even have a boyfriend!! So dumb, seriously!! And I was given a list of boy names that I'm not to consider since she wants those names too--Is she psychic and knows she will have a boy? Luckily, I don't like the names she gave me, but if I did, I would totally use it if I wanted to.
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Re: I hate when non-pregnant women claim names
I think there are times when name claiming is OK. In our situation, we had considered using the middle name Peter(DH's dad and brother's first name), but decided that name is really DH's brother's to use if he has a son. Also, if I knew there was a certain name my sister was in love with and I had other choices that I liked, I would just go with one of the other options.
Thankfully her name choices are not even close to anything DH and I would consider!!
I think it's ok to claim a namesake (is that what it's called?). My dad and brother's name is David, so I wouldn't use that name since I feel it's my brother's name to use if he wants to. I would, however, use it as a middle name if I wanted to since it is my dad too!
Yeah, that's silly. But something I also realized is that the names I thought I would name my children, while growing up and in recent years, well we aren't using ANY of those names. And these were names I was just sure would be great for my baby.
When there are two people having to agree on a baby name (me and DH), well names get nixed. He came up with some real doozies which I vetoed, and he vetoed all of my names. We finally settled on a name we both liked, but it is one I never dreamed I would name my child. So "reserving" names is totally crazy.
I would understand name claiming on a first name and if the person claiming is in reasonable means..but a middle name..seriously? Not that many people even USE middle names..
My middle name is Ann.. EVERYONE is ann..lynn..or marie..
DH, his father, and his grandfather have the same name as my father and grandfather. Yet when we shared that it would be our "boy name" as well if this LO turned out to be male, BIL (who is 21 and hasn't been in a serious relationship since high school--and actually said, "Well, I guess I'll have to marry the first one I knock up...) went crazy! He seriously had his feelings hurt that we would use that name...totally doesn't make sense...
If you ask me, there is no name claiming allowed! If it causes lots of drama, you can always have two of the same name in a family.
Last month a friend of mine, who had just given birth to her daughter this spring, emailed me to call a girl's name that she heard we might be thinking of using. She went into all of these details about how she dreamed about her daughter having a sister named the name and all this bs. She had the nerve write all that and then to actually say "It is totally up to you guys what you name your baby girl."
As you can see by my siggy, we found out a week later that our first guess by the tech was wrong, and we are having a son. If she would have just kept her mouth shut for one more week, I wouldn't have to deal with this...
I didn't write her back b/c DH and I were too mad and I didn't want to be mean. She writes back about 2 weeks later and wants to know what I think, so I write and tell her. She is shocked that we were upset! She was hurt that we were mad. I think she must be waiting for an apology from me for being mad at her... and she can keep waiting.
To top it all off this weekend, her DH talked to my DH and apologized for the whole thing and tried to blame it on her hormones! Here I thought I was supposed to be the crazy hormonal one, being about 7 months pregnant...
Yep. Mine is Marie, and I know four different people with that as a middle name. Calling names unless for extremely significant reasons is just stupid. How do they even know they'll have kids?
It's stupid. When DH and I first found out we were expecting, we discussed using a family name of his if we had a boy (it's his mother's maiden name). A friend of mine, who is nowhere near having kids yet, INSISTS that is her dream name for a girl and always has been (it was never mentioned until DH and I began talking about it, though other names had been). That's kind of just how she is, as soon as you mention you like something, she just HAS to have it and insists this was always the case
reminds me of when my mother had my brother. She named him Aaron Chase. the problem with that is that my aunt (who no one likes because shes so b!tchy and never likes anyone in my family to visit my unlce) named my cusin Chase. he was born not to long after my little brother. LOL! my mother didnt even know she was going to name her son that. and from what i hear she was not happy about that at all. o well.