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DLD102
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Baby #3! BFP 10/20/12 EDD 6/27/13
What do you think? Name up for grabs?
DLD102
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DH and I have narrowed our names to one boy name and one girl name.
Problem (for lack of a better word) is that my girl's name was chosen after I heard an acquaintance of mine say that she loved this name and then I fell in love with it. She is not pg, just got married, but I go back and forth of whether I can use it.
Some background: she was a co-worker a couple years back, but I moved from the area and haven't seen her since . . . we're "friends" on FB, but we never communicate.
WDYT? Can I use the name or am I a name-stealer?
Baby #3! BFP 10/20/12 EDD 6/27/13
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Re: What do you think? Name up for grabs?
You can use it, especially if it's a common name. If it's a name she made up I wouldn't but I wouldn't use a made up name anyway
It's not common, but she didn't make up the name...it's a Gaelic name.
Love, luck, and prayers to my BFPB Dr. SnowflakeBride
Logan 10/20/2010 ~ Addison 8/26/2014
She totally will and that's my fear...
There are three things I would consider:
1. Will your children be in close, regular contact? If not, you're fine. If so, it could create some potential future awkwardness.
2. Is it a unique name? For instance, Anniston is our girl name. If someone close to us used Anniston, chances are, they're name stealers. If someone used "Ann" and we planned to use "Ann", it could be coincidence, and thus, no reason to be "upset".
3. Is their rights to that name? For instance, BIL is Daniel. While I have several Daniel's in my family and it's a family name heavily used on both sides, we've decided against using it because we feel he has more "right" to it than we do.
These are just my own, personal parameters for deciding if I can use a name or not. Since this lady is merely a FB friend these days, I wouldn't worry too much. (But, I'll be careful about posting our name on FB, hehe!! Just kiddin', I know you wouldn't steal our name!)
Even if you did get it from her and it's obvious, that's fine. Unless your kids will be hanging out all the time, there's no worry.
Then, for me, I would have to decide if it is worth listening to her biitch about it. I have several friends that would care but, I also have a handful that would think the world was ending - I would never take a name I heard from them simply b/c I don't want to hear them run their mouth - not b/c I think a name can be "taken".
Go for it!
There are names that I like that already used for my husband's younger cousins. And I can hear my MIL say in that voice that sounds like nails being scrapped across a chalkboard "BUT IT'S ALREADY TAKEN!"
Use the name you've fallen in love with!
Late (yet again) to another post but: This.
Also, LCB, your response to this post gave me a little e-crush on you. It's like you're reading my mind.