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steffnstuff
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Clearing the air...I hope
steffnstuff
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For those of you who missed it (I see there have been several questions about "what happened" or what was "missed") I posted a question earlier that offended the other moms. I stated that I have a desire to have twins and that my initial reasons for this were selfish and inappropriate. However, I also stated that although I couldn't quite put my finger on the reason I still have this desire, it is not for the same reasons as it was before. I then asked for responses as to what other moms may have done to assist in conceiving twins. I didn't say it in the post, but that part of the question was based on OWTs I've heard. Following this I got several remarks that you all say were not "snarky" or could have been worse, but to me they were pretty snarky. Even my apology, which was very sincere, was not accepted as just that. It seemed as if it was assumed that I was completely disregarding what a lot of moms have had to go through to conceive and that was really not the case. I would just like for everyone to understand once and for all that I was not trying to offend any of you and I am very sorry that I did. I don't really know how to explain fully how I got to this point in terms of my desire for twins, but my hope is that although you all may not understand it, you will at least understand that I wasn't trying to hurt anyone's feelings and I am abundantly grateful for the children I already have and would be just as grateful for any other child or children the Lord saw fit to bless me with in the future. Congratulations to all of you on your pregnancies and I pray that your children are born healthy and happy. God Bless.
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Re: Clearing the air...I hope
That's fine - but stop deleting! I dont like it when I take the time to write out a reply and then BAM, its gone.
I am sure you didnt mean to offend.
Look, I get that you weren't trying to be offensive or hurt anyone's feelings. My guess is that you didn't, but I won't speak for everyone.
However, you also need to understand that this board sees a lot of "I wish I had twins" posts. No, you don't. You think you do, but you really don't. The blog link that pea-kay posted in your first DD shows why.
You're naive. That's not snark, that's truth. You said in your first post that you wanted twins because your mom had a dream before she passed that you would. It's not the same reason that it used to be, but it's still not selfless either.
Here's my hang-up with the whole thing, though. You've already had 1 treacherous pregnancy, which almost resulted in the loss of your daughter (your words, not mine). You say you've done your research, and you know all of the risks that a multiple pregnancy entails. Yet you still want twins "so bad it hurts." You'd be hard pressed to find anyone on this board that understands that aspect of it, I think.
ETA: And DDing is just bad form, period. You'll find that to be true all over the boards.
I think we all understand what you're saying. You've "clarified" it enough times now. We're not misunderstanding anything you say, we just disagree. I'm pretty sure no amount of extra clarification will change our minds.
I missed your first post but I think I have the gist of what you said. I'm a very spiritual person too and I don't mock people for being serious about their religion. If your mom seriously had a prophetic vision then don't worry about "making it happen." You finding some way of forcing her dream to come true is not being spiritual. It's actually the opposite.
yup poor horse.
i agree with pp's about dd...ugh! it is frustrating!
I didn't read any of the earlier posts, but I know why people are unhappy with you if you posted about how to get pregnant with twins. There are plenty of message boards that are filled with morons who are exchanging tips of how to obtain clomid illegally and have unmonitored clomid cycles and other less dangerous old wives tales. That type of activity is not tolerated here. This board is great because the posts are almost exclusively limited to questions by MoMs and occasionally people who are undergoing fertility treatments or friends and families of MoMs.
This board is a lifeline for a group of people who have little free time. If it is diluted with a ton of survey questions by people who are not MoMs it would be ruined. So negative responses like the ones that you received are not personal, they are a reaction to protect the board. And if you think that the people on this board are mean, you would get eaten alive on the tri boards.
Also, leave God and his bless out of this.
If this is what you truly believe, then just take what you are given rather than trying to force it to "come true".