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Jocelyn0415
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XFI is in the hospital. (long)
Jocelyn0415
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I took the baby down to Alabama this weekend to see my family and we got back yesterday. I had a text from Brian saying that he was having trouble breathing and he was going to the doctor.
To be honest, I thought he was lying so he wouldn't have to take Evie for the night, so I drove by the house and he was car was gone. After his appointment, I get a text saying the doctor doesn't know what's wrong with him so he was sending him to the ER. I told him that I would have my mom watch Evie and I would come up there to see what was going on.
I get there and he looks TERRIBLE! He can barely breathe and it's extremely labored breathing. He can barely talk because he's so short of breath. He said they tried giving him a steriod shot, breathing treatments, oxygen, etc. and nothing was helping, so they thought it might be a pulmonary embolism.
They took him for a cat scan and it was negative for any blood clots, but his blood work came back and said he was septic and his white blood cell count was extremely high, so they admitted him to a room.
His dad and brother came up to see him and Brian was being his usual self. He knows more than everyone, including the doctors, so we just let him talk. The nurse came in and was asking him questions. He proceeded to either lie or not tell the whole truth when answering some of the questions. How many packs of cigarettes do you smoke a day? 1/2 a pack. Lie. How often do you drink? 2-3 times a month. Lie. Have you ever threatened suicide? No. Lie. We let him spin his own bullshiit for awhile, and after the nurse left, his dad and I stepped out.
He told me that when he got to the hospital he forewarned the nurse that Brian is a master manipulator and constantly lies, so don't believe everything he says. The nurse happened to walk up as we were talking and we told her to truth about the questions he answered dishonestly. She just couldn't believe that he was actually like this. We explained that he has a lot of anxiety right now because of me leaving him and not getting to see the baby as often, so he's very on edge and that's why we didn't call him out in the room. She said she would write everything down and try to get him to tell the truth.
Anyway, I stayed the night in the room and he was being very nice. This morning, the doctor came in and told him that they did more labs on his blood and he's not septic, but just has an extremely bad case of bronchitis. They said he would monitor him and if he improved, they would discharge him tomorrow. They tested his blood sugar and it was 198. They said the normal range is 70-100, so they were going to give him insulin. It would not shock me if he was diabetic. He has gained 40 lbs. in the past year and is now very overweight.
So everyone left and it was just him and I. I told him that I canceled our therapy appointment for tonight, since we obviously couldn't go, and rescheduled it for May 18th. That was the only day they had for an evening appointment. He proceeded to tell me that I needed to come home then because he wasn't going to have me staying with his parents for months and months.
I told him that he was not going to tell me what to do, and as long as I was welcome at his parents house, I would stay there. He told me that it was inappropriate and he would just tell his dad to kick me out because it made him uncomfortable. I told him that his dad would not kick me out, since he just called me yesterday and said they loved having me and Evie there and if I wanted to live there for a year I could. This pissed him off because he thought he could bully me into believing I would be kicked out and I didn't buy into his shiit.
So I told him I was done being treated this way and done putting up with his shiit. I packed my stuff and started to walk out the door. He said, "If you walk out that door, we're over!" I said, "Fine by me." and shut the door. I could hear him yelling something, but I couldn't understand what it was.
I walked to my car and got a text saying, "If you leave this hospital, IT IS OVER!" I said, "I thought if I left the room it was over?" I knew that would piss him off lol. He said, "You need to bring my laptop and phone charger up here." I told him, "I don't NEED to do anything. Find someone else to put up with your bullshiit!"
Ugh. I'm so over him. I just want to be done with him. I'm going to take him his phone charger later and calmly tell him that this will be the last time I ever do anything for him, and he needs to come to grips with the fact that we are over. I know I'm being too nice, but I'm just not a mean person, so I will take the "kill him with kindness" approach.
I will be so happy when he gets well and I can be completely done with him. Right now, I just feel terrible leaving him alone in a hospital room and leaving him to drive himself home after he's discharged. I know he's brought it on himself, but I don't want to sink to his level and treat him like crap just because I can.
Anyway, just wanted to give you guys an update since I've been out of town for the past few days. Hope you all are doing well!
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Re: XFI is in the hospital. (long)
Sorry about your X. I know it's rough when the father of your child is under the weather... and when they just can't grasp that it's over. X kept asking for another chance til I got a lawyer, then he magically had a girlfriend to rub in my face.
I'm not trying to be harsh in saying this but when X and I split I did keep in contact with his mom and that just hurt him. He felt like his mom was picking my side and he had no one to turn to... I just think that it might be especially hard on your X that you are living with his parents. And by him threatening that they will kick you out he was just hoping you would leave so he could feel comfortable with his parents. I'm by no means trying to pick sides here, I'm just stating how it was with me and my X.
::popping in b/c 3-6 is s.l.o.w.::
Hang in, woman. You're doing what's right for you and Evie. ((hugs))
BTW: will you at least pop in over there once in a while? Good grief, I'm effin all alone.
Thisthisthis. Chin up, lady. You're strong and you're doing the right thing.
Completetly. I love how that feels- in my life it is a very rare victory cause I'm an overly nice person too.