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Do you/did you ever feel guilty when...

Kristen0709Kristen0709
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you would need to get stuff done and the only way to do that is to put them in the bouncy seat or swing?  To get stuff done around the house lately I have had to put him in his bouncy seat and bring him room to room with me to get stuff done.  Since I'm cleaning, doing laundry, etc I'm not playing with him.  I talk to him and stuff and I always make sure he has a toy but I feel guilty.  Is this just something first time moms go through?  Up until about 2 weeks ago he always took a 3 hour nap in the afternoon so that was always my chance, now he's gradually taking a shorter nap (wondering if it's part of this 4 month wakeful thing). Should I just get over it because he could care less?
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  • MrsBeckOMrsBeckO member

    Sure, I'd rather be playing with her and she'd rather have my undivided attention - but eventually things need to get done. We just spent some time in the kitchen with her playing in the high chair and me cooking dinner and loading the dishwasher. 

    You do what you gotta do, girl. Don't feel bad about fulfilling obligations outside of playing events coordinator for your baby 24/7! Wink 

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  • CollieJadeCollieJade
    Ditto Beck!  Don't feel bad.  I'm certain you engage him the appropriate amounts of time.  It's good for babies to have a little time every day where they're just watching you and chilling.
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  • MrsAJLMrsAJL member

    No, I never felt guilty for putting DS in the bouncy seat or swing. It wasn't going to hurt him and getting stuff done around my house = better mental health for me. I just felt better with being able to have things checked off my list.

     

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  • KittyFXKittyFX
    Just depends how much time he is spending in there. I think it is just a balancing act. You will also have to let some things go and not expect to get everything done the way you used to.
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  • ACRACR
    This article may make you feel better. It talks about building baby's attention span & how some time for them to just sit & study is very valuable. https://www.janetlansbury.com/2010/04/baby-interrupted-7-ways-to-build-your-childs-focus-and-attention-span/
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  • SaraLouiseBride08SaraLouiseBride08
    Everything everyone else said! Things have got to get done, and I know he'll be fine!
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  • mcgeemcgee member

    He is in the room with you. You are talking to him and interacting with him. He has a toy or two as well. You are doing this for portions of the day so you can get stuff done around the house. Really, this is okay. Yes The Mom Police aren't going to come banging down your door. Smile

    While you're doing chores around the house, make it a learning experience for him. "Mommy is going to do laundry now. I am separating the dark clothes from the light ones. This is a sock. This is a shirt. This shirt is red." etc. etc. You can also put music on while you're doing chores around the house. Meredith and Alex both love/loved to listen to music while I was doing stuff like that.

    Plus the upside to bringing baby along while you do housework is that he gets to see from the beginning what we do to keep the household running. As he gets older, you can enlist his help for little tasks from handing you laundry to helping you count out silverware to put on the table. Tell yourself that he is in chore-training right now. Stick out tongue

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  • texmommy3texmommy3
    I feel this way too b/c I have to be that way with three kids!  I just can't constantly hold him b/c of the other kids.  I wish i could.  I have started to not feel as bad about it.
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  • s-a-r-a-hs-a-r-a-h member

    imageCollieJade:
    Ditto Beck!  Don't feel bad.  I'm certain you engage him the appropriate amounts of time.  It's good for babies to have a little time every day where they're just watching you and chilling.

    This. I felt bad, too, but the pedi told us babies don't need to be entertained 24/7.

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