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Figuring out a parenting plan and I need help/advice

misscharlotte04misscharlotte04 member
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My SO and I do not live together. I have a feeling he will be an ex-SO when all is said and done, but I am trying to be patient and work on things. However we need to come up with a parenting plan before I go back to work at the end of May.

We both work in law enforcement and have crazy schedules. I work 3 days in a row from 5:30 am to 5:30 pm, then 3 days off. He will actually have a more normal schedule starting in mid June - Monday thru Friday 7:30 am to 3:30 pm with Saturday and Sunday off.

He wants the schedule to look like this:

LO with him on my work days (example if I worked Tues/Wed/Thurs he would pick up LO from me on Monday night and have him Mon night/Tues night/Wednesday night and I would get him Thurs night when I get off work and on all my 3 days off. Then he would also get LO on his days off - unless my days off fall on a weekend too then we will split the weekend up.

I would like it to be:

LO with me Sunday night - Friday. He has LO Friday after he gets off of work til Sunday evening. 

I think the way he wants the schedule will be hard to remember where LO needs to be on what days and is way too much bouncing around from house to house. I do realize that if my 3 days off fall on a Fri/Sat/Sun I won't get a full day off with LO but I think him being with one parent a majority of the time will be the most beneficial for him because it is more structured. 

We were hoping to come up with a parenting plan that we both can agree to without having to hire lawyers - but I think we will be at odds since what we each want is so different. What do you ladies think? I just don't know what to do, and the thought of having to be away from my LO for 3 nights as soon as I go back to work really depresses me...

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Re: Figuring out a parenting plan and I need help/advice

  • blondnearbyblondnearby
    Since LO is so young the courts tend to give preference to the mom.  However, if you are working and SO is off of work it is his right to take care of LO instead of putting the LO in daycare. I say that you have primary custody of LO.  SO gets LO every Friday night to sat night and whenever you have to work and he isnt at work.  Depending on how your scedule rotates that would give him 20 to 25% custody.
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  • GLynn2009GLynn2009

    Be very careful you may end up stuck with whatever you agree to for the next 18 years. I would research what the normal split is in your state and work from there.

    I have my kids and do every other weekend and holidays plus 4 weeks in the summer and it sucks sometimes this is the same plan that I agreed to over 10 years ago. Things have changed in my area and I believe it we were doing it today I would be stuck with 50/50.

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